Who gives a little more in a relationship, a man or a woman? The more common argument is that men are more exhausted financially. Because men are born with the responsibility of providing for their families, they need to be out there fighting. Women, on the other hand, take care of the chores in the back and be the woman behind the man.
If we are talking about the depth of love, it goes without saying that the one who loves more is more committed and more tired. Perhaps it is the traditional concept of society that feelings are only a part of a man’s life, but the whole of a woman’s life. To a general extent, in terms of commitment, perhaps women are more committed. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Women need more love
Because of filming “Together The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re getting into. The two of them face all kinds of temptations in the entertainment industry, and the probability that they will finally come to fruition is lower than that of a college student getting married in a long-distance relationship. The two of them have been speculating about the possibility of breaking up, but I didn’t expect the reason for the breakup to be the heroine’s “lack of confidence”.
The girl who wowed Sun Li and Yan Ni in the movie “The Painted Wall”; the girlfriend who was called “little fairy” in Zhang Han’s mouth, which proves that her appearance is not bad. But she will choose plastic surgery because of low self-esteem, you can see that she is very uneasy about the relationship. A person’s confidence and low self-esteem and appearance is not necessarily related. It doesn’t matter whether the cosmetic surgery is as beautiful or as disastrous on the outside, it can’t fill the void of lack of confidence within oneself.
When a man is out in the world and a woman is in the world, perhaps the world is not equal, perhaps they are not moving at the same pace, perhaps they are not communicating enough, and it is easy for both sides to develop a sense of insecurity. This insecurity is expressed in the feeling that they are not good enough. If the other party has too much of the opposite sex around, they will feel that they are not beautiful enough. If the other party says too much about the cause, they suspect that they do not have enough substance. It also improves in the wrong direction without knowing enough about the other person’s world out there, which in essence doesn’t help matters.
Women naturally need more care than men, especially when they give too much in a relationship, and this insecurity is getting worse, requiring constant care from men to eliminate it.
What makes it easy for couples to love each other and hard to get along
People usually don’t understand each other, but instead build relationships based on the images projected onto each other. Children learn to relate to their parents much in the same way they relate to stuffed toys, gradually learning about the fact that the other person is a person behind the projection of roles and expectations as part of the intimate development process.
Many people are afraid to see who they really are behind the roles and projections for fear that their true selves will not be accepted by others and that they will be in danger of rejection and abandonment if they are honest about it; in fact, this is the risk of intimacy. Many people choose to hide themselves because they are afraid of taking this risk: playing roles, controlling, projecting and withdrawing, so the relationship garden turns into a playground, staging all kinds of fantasies without real growth. In the end, they get tired themselves and the other person gets tired, and it even leads to misalignment of steps on both sides.
On the other hand, after experiencing love, the two people need to support each other and take care of each other during their time together. But it is important to note that taking care of others usually ignores the feelings of the other person and does not try to help or sort them out. Generally speaking, people are more willing to take care of others and infantilize them in an attempt to relieve their own pain or anxiety. The caregiver actually wants to be valued by the person being cared for in their heart of hearts, and this mimicry of a parent caring for a child is often an attempt to deal with the caregiver’s heartfelt anxiety.
When you genuinely care for someone, you don’t ignore their feelings or experiences, even if they feel pain as a result. Caring involves sharing the other person’s feelings and not trying to exclude them. When caring for others, they underestimate the other person’s experience, devalue the importance of their feelings, and try to get rid of them; they are not actually caring for others, but resisting their own existential anxiety. Caring for others is accepting of oneself and others; caring for others is an attempt to control others and their experiences.
Loving each other is just the beginning; getting along is the process. What we want to get is the result of growing old together. In the process, two people need to keep grinding together in order to taste the beautiful fruit together.