Three meals a day is normal for many people. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The lunch is not just to fill your stomach, but contains a lot of subtleties in it. This is where the “lunch phobia” comes in.
“Lunch phobia” manifests itself
Some workers have to eat out when there is no cafeteria in the office, and “lunch groups”, “lunch social circles”, etc. The new workplace term “lunch social circle” has also emerged and is spreading. However, some people often choose to escape at meal time, in the time to eat and do not feel hungry, after the time to eat instead of feeling hungry to eat. Every noon, many college students, state-owned enterprises, civil servants, and even office cleaning aunt lamented: “I do not know who to eat with? And I don’t know what to eat.”
Case 1: Small company, small restaurant like home warmth
Mei, who worked in a law firm, was satisfied with the lunch format arranged by her original boss. The company is small and there is no restaurant under the office building where it is located, and it is located at the side of Chang’an Street, so it is not easy to find a good and inexpensive restaurant suitable for working meals. So the boss contributed his own unused property near the company, looking for an aunt to open a small stove for everyone, to make them four dishes and one soup, and we all eat together around a large table. This way, everyone can eat on time. Even if there is a temporary absence, unless the whole group is absent, you don’t have to tell the aunt, she will control an approximate amount every day, and the food is bought and made fresh every day, absolutely fresh.
Xiaomei’s current company gives extra allowances to employees, they usually go to the restaurant on the ground floor of the office building or to a nearby bistro, basically everywhere they can eat nearby, and the former company’s way is to pay the aunt two hundred dollars a day for the dishes, in terms of cost, Xiaomei feels that the original way is more economical, and over time, the aunt will know everyone’s tastes, and the dishes they like will be The time and hygiene can be guaranteed.
Case 2: Introverted newcomer is a bit awkward
Anna joined the brand department of a joint venture after graduation, and this was her first job. She was inseparable from the other newcomers in the department. After the training, several people are scattered in their respective departments, but every day dinner will go together. Because they were new, they didn’t know much about the company, so they rarely talked about office gossip, and Anna was glad that she wasn’t with a group of people who liked to gossip.
And Anna’s colleagues in the same department also go out to dinner in twos and threes, and some of them have regular partners. She can’t hide it, her hesitation and difficulty are written on her face, and the other party can see it, and after a few times, they don’t pay much attention to her.
After a while, Anna began to feel that something was wrong. The same people were with her every day, and she found that she had nothing in common with them. The company’s leadership once said in the office in the morning, “Let’s go out together at noon,” and she didn’t pay attention to it. When she came back from dinner, she realized that the whole department had gone out for a dinner party, and she didn’t understand what the leadership meant, so she left on her own, and no colleagues came to remind her.
Now, Anna always feels very tired and lonely in the company, as if she is always rushing to socialize with people, and if she forgets to say something as simple as eating together, no one asks her to join them. Once she happened to talk about it with a friend who was in management, and the other person told her that in the office, if everyone has a fixed clique, it is necessary to join one, which has something to do with the atmosphere and culture of the company, you have to remain independent and become a lonely soul, although no one rejects you, but no one thinks about you, so it is easy to be ignored and become a marginal person.
Case 3: Lunch alone is painful
Lee, 26, joined a technology company in the Northern New Area, Neptune, 2 months ago to do administrative work. “When I first arrived at the company, I wanted to make something happen, so I kept working hard and rarely communicated with my colleagues.” Xiao Li said that every day during the lunch rush, in order not to waste time squeezing the elevator and so on, he often went out to eat alone half an hour earlier and continued to work after he came back. But gradually, Xiao Li found that, no matter how good his work performance, colleagues do not care about him, which makes him very frustrated. To get his colleagues’ attention, at lunchtime, Xiao Li deliberately waited to eat with them, but no one from his colleagues would take the initiative to invite him. “I used to try to follow them and then go out to eat together.” Even then, Li said, his colleagues refused to say much to him and seemed to regard him as a “transparent” person. After that, Li was more willing to go out to eat alone, “It’s hard to lose that face, but it’s also painful to eat alone.”
Case 4: Taking the initiative to share the plate with colleagues
Liu Li, who works as a designer in a network company in Yubei District’s Fortune Center, joined the company just six months ago, and because of the inconvenience of dining, colleagues in the company bring their own lunch. Liu told reporters that lunchtime is very delicate, “Simply put, whoever has a good relationship with whoever eats together, those who fall alone must be loners who are not well connected”.
Speaking of when he first joined the company, Xiao Liu was unfamiliar with the new environment, and who he ate with at noon became a top priority. “When I was studying, I had people together everywhere I went, so how could I tolerate being left alone at lunch?” So the cheerful Xiao Liu began to “take the initiative” at noon on the first day of employment, “at 11:30 that day, I saw that everyone was working without expression, so I stood up and tapped everyone’s shoulder while trotting: noon, let’s eat first and then work, I brought my mother’s secret ribs I brought my mother’s secret ribs, let’s eat together.” This is the move that made Liu Li famous in the company, and everyone knows that there is a cheerful and lively female designer in the design department.
Expert advice
1. Colleagues eat to communicate more
You can see eating lunch as a way to socialize, or you can use it as a platform to build friendship with your colleagues and friends. After all, the busy pace of life also rarely gives you the opportunity to have lunch with others. At the same time, lunch is a classroom to make you progress. You can continue to enrich yourself, improve yourself and show yourself by interacting and communicating information with various people. Imagine, an open-minded, good communication, a sense of community, the courage to take responsibility for the people, success will certainly beckon to it. On the contrary, you fear, turn yourself into a small snail with a shell, spend the day hiding under the name of “lunch phobia”, self-pity, but still can not escape from the real life of human interaction, human interactions. After all, even if you don’t eat lunch together, you still have to work, communicate and interact with everyone.
2. Take the initiative to invite your leader to lunch
“Taking the initiative to invite your boss to lunch will have many benefits. One is to make your boss feel that you are open-minded and mature in the world, and you can even give him a surprise; secondly, you can show your ability in a very relaxed state.” Senior white-collar small bug told reporters, do not look down on a meal, in fact, both sides know that the meal is only the form, the real taste lies in how to establish a delicious relationship between the two. “Nowadays, the boss is most willing to instill his growth history and his developed history to the staff, then give him a chance to be an open-minded listener! I’m sure the boss will be overjoyed and will create the appearance to his colleagues that my boss and I have a bit of a personal relationship. This makes it easier to establish yourself as a hidden power in a group.”
Editor’s Comment: Relationships in the workplace are like a dance: either he’s in and you’re out, or you’re in and he’s out.
The workplace is like a dance, either he’s in, you’re out, or you’re in, he’s out. So remind yourself to watch what you say and be careful what you say, and don’t let yourself become a “workplace nuisance”.