When dating or eating with strangers, men and women often fall into silence and embarrassment because they don’t know what to talk about. Here are 10 topics to talk about when you don’t know what to talk about in the future.
Siblings
What’s the best thing to talk about when you first meet someone? Talking about parents is a bit of a no-brainer, in case her parents are separated or divorced, which could cause her upset. The usual topic is to talk about siblings. Talking about your siblings can deepen your understanding and liven up the atmosphere. And the fact that you want to know about her family shows that you like her, which makes it easier to win her trust, too.
Childhood aspirations
Talking about childhood aspirations is a fun topic that’s light-hearted and enhances the relationship. But don’t grab the conversation, let her talk, and the happier she is, the better off you will be.
Places of interest
What places of interest have you been to before? This is a question she’s happy to answer and not wary of. To get her to open up the conversation, you then ask her to introduce you to it. You just have to be a faithful listener and she will quickly develop a good feeling for you. At this point you can be more proactive and ask her what other places she would like to go. If she says so-and-so has always wanted to go, here’s your chance to show it.
Be brave and say, “I’ve always wanted to go there, too. Let’s go together someday, and let’s make our dreams come true together, right?” She will happily accept your invitation. In fact, after talking about this, you know a lot about her intellectual background and interests.
Like food
If you’re on a date at a restaurant or bar, it’s a delightful conversation to talk about the delicious food you each like. By talking about food, you’ll not only learn about her tastes and find common ground, but you’ll never have to worry about running out of things to talk about again.
If she has a specialty, start with a well-timed compliment, then ask her, “I’m drooling just hearing about it, let me get my fill one day.” Even if she knows you’re complimenting her, she’ll appreciate it. If you have a hand in it too, don’t forget to invite her to taste your handiwork.
Hobby
Like stamp collecting, singing, or dancing? Like to play sports? What kind of music do you like to listen to? These questions cannot be asked without asking, otherwise how do you know her hobbies and interests. And she also wants to showcase herself, so why not do that in one fell swoop?
Future plans
Can you talk about your life in college? Do you still want to continue school? She may be interested in these topics, talking about her life as a student, the interesting things she has done, the honors she has achieved, and so on. However, she may also be lukewarm and just say that her current job is not a good match for her major and then change the subject. However, in either case, it gives you a good opportunity to compliment her.
The job situation
If you’ve been working for a while since you graduated from college, talking about work is a good topic. However, you need to control the initiative and not let her keep rambling on about some annoying trivial things in her life; the more she talks, the more upset she gets, and the more impatient you are to listen.
But most people talk about work, even if it’s tasteless, and they talk about it a lot. It doesn’t matter, you can at least know if she will be a workaholic or a good housewife in the future.
Friends around you
Talk to her about her friends. Maybe you don’t know them, but it doesn’t matter. She’ll be happy to talk about her friends, the details of their relationships, when and where they meet. You may not be interested at all, but don’t be impatient, this is a great opportunity for you to get to know her. Want to continue to develop with her? Start by getting to know her friends.
Don’t mention her old love
Don’t ask about her old love on a first date. If she doesn’t bring it up, you can’t risk opening your mouth. The first time you meet, don’t think you’re talking about your old love. The first time you meet her, don’t think you can win her over by talking about her past lovers, opening up to her and comforting her, it often backfires.
To please her, don’t make her reminisce about the past, talk about happy things. Remember, your goal is to win her over, not to wipe her tears.