“I had planned to get married on May 1st of this year, but there was an incident that caused us to disagree. My boyfriend bought a new house for the wedding, but when it came time to sign the contract, he left me aside and only signed his name. I asked to sign both names and he refused, there was no room for negotiation.”
“His reasoning was that he paid for the house, so he should sign his name. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The more I thought about it, the more angry I became and proposed to break up.”
“And although he contacted me several times, he would not budge on the house issue. Can I marry a man like that?”
This is a post from a female user, and in fact, many young couples have ended up in disagreement over who’s name should be on the theoretical real estate certificate, or how the property should be distributed in the future.
The woman said: love me, add my name to the property certificate! The man said: Are you in love with me as a person, or with my property? The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
40% of men refuse to add the woman’s name
If the man has already purchased a home, will he be willing to add the woman’s name to the property certificate before and after the marriage? The first time I saw this, I was able to get the woman’s name on the certificate.
Interestingly, on the issue of the name of the real estate certificate, male and female netizens are divided into two distinct camps. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
And, “Since you are ready to get married, you are naturally ready to grow old with your lover. At this time, putting the woman’s name on the property deed is not only desirable, but also a sign of love. The man who refuses this is extremely unsure of himself and his marriage, and is afraid of splitting the house in half when the couple has to face the situation of separation after marriage.”
The male netizens took the opposite view, saying, “If the woman loves herself, why would she worry about signing her name? The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. “
Why?
Why does the woman insist on writing her name on the property certificate? The majority of the women said they were “trying to give themselves some sense of security”.
“A house is probably more reliable than a man. The house will not change, while the man will change a lot over time.” “There are so many temptations out there now, what am I going to do if he finds a young and beautiful girl later and wants to divorce me and I have to clean up my act?”
Women’s “security requirements” are varied
In addition to adding their names to the real estate license of the home purchased by the man, women are making a variety of demands for “security.
In addition to adding their names to the real estate license purchased by the man, the woman’s demands for “security” are varied.
One woman posted, “I asked to see my boyfriend’s savings before the wedding, why didn’t he agree”, “We have reached the stage of marriage, so I wanted to know his financial situation. He informed me that he had xx million in savings, and at that time I asked on the phone: when I go to your place this month, you have to take me to the bank to see it, I do not ask for it to be kept for me, but I need to know, and he agreed to my request at that time.
By Saturday, I was excited to go to his city, but I didn’t see him offer to take me to the bank to see the deposit amount until Sunday afternoon when I was about to leave. So I brought it up, but he stonewalled left and right saying the card wasn’t here.
I asked him why he didn’t show me the deposit, did he not believe me? The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. I actually still have feelings for him, but why won’t he let me see the deposit?”
It is not uncommon to see cases where the man’s loyalty is “tested” in various ways. The company’s boyfriend is the manager of a company and is busy at work, so phone calls and text messages are the main way to communicate with her boyfriend.
In the two months before the relationship was established, the boyfriend often called and texted Maizi, but after the relationship was established, the number of times the boyfriend called Maizi on his own initiative became less and less, and almost all of the calls were from Maizi to him.
Mai Zi had trouble determining her boyfriend’s feelings for her, so she wanted to try him out. She applied for a new tiktok number, asked to add her boyfriend as a friend, and asked him if he had a girlfriend. Her boyfriend asked her why she was asking such a question, saying that whether he had a girlfriend or not was irrelevant to her.
A few days before Valentine’s Day, they met again online. The first day of Valentine’s Day was a day when she was alone, and her boyfriend said he could keep her company.
Mai Zi felt that this was a big deal. If her boyfriend knew that the female online friend was Mai Zi, it would be fine; if he was asking out a strange female online friend, Mai Zi would not be able to accept it. The test, which forced Maizi herself into a dilemma.
There are also many women who look to so-called “prenuptial agreements” or “fidelity agreements,” which are roughly the same, saying that if one party cheats after the marriage, the property or other assets will go to the other party in the divorce. The cheating party is “out of the house”. The problem is that such a “fidelity agreement” is very difficult to validate in court.
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“Fidelity agreements” are difficult to enforce
Wen Chunguang, a lawyer at Shanghai Faithful Law Firm, presented this case.
A young couple met at work and fell in love, because the wife was a few years older than the husband, and the husband was more handsome.
The wife was afraid that her husband would have an affair in the future, so she signed a “fidelity agreement” with him.
The wife signed a “fidelity agreement” with her husband, stating that if he had an extramarital affair in the future, or if he was otherwise unfaithful to his wife, the house would go to her in the divorce, and he signed the agreement.
A few years later, when the two got divorced, the wife presented this agreement to the court and demanded that the house belong to her in its entirety, but the husband refused to admit that he had an affair, saying that it was just an ordinary friend relationship. In the end, the court ruled that the property was half for one person, but based on the principle of protecting the rights of women and children, the wife shared tens of thousands of dollars more than the husband.
Most of the words “affair”, “cheating”, and “extramarital affair” mentioned in the “fidelity agreement” are not used in the current Chinese law.
Most of the “fidelity agreements” mention the words “affair,” “cheating,” and “extramarital affair,” which are not clearly defined in China’s current marriage laws and regulations, so such agreements are difficult to accept in court.
The current marriage law provides that if a divorce is caused by the fault of one of the spouses, the party at fault may receive less or no share of the property, and the “fault” here includes bigamy, cohabitation with a third party, domestic violence, etc.
“But in the existing cases, the general fault behavior such as cohabitation with a third party, it is still difficult to obtain evidence, unless the third party has given birth to a child, or there is a joint purchase of a house, car, etc.”
More importantly, even if one spouse does have an affair, if the other spouse lacks knowledge of the cheating party’s financial situation, the cheating party is perfectly capable of transferring most of his or her assets by way of property transfer, or even making himself or herself a negative asset holder.
In this case, even if the cheating partner is willing to divide the property according to the “fidelity agreement,” the no-fault party will get very little, and will even have to bear some of the debts for the cheating partner.
Of course, some men and women now have specific written agreements about their property, such as their own income during the marriage, and their own expenses, which have some legal effect and can be fulfilled upon divorce.
However, marriage is not just a paper agreement, it also involves household expenses and debt repayment (such as a mortgage to buy a house), and it is difficult to live with all of them as agreed.
Women should leave the “victim complex” behind
Counselor Zhang Weiwei said that the steep divorce rate and the proliferation of “mistresses” have put the new era of marriage to the test.
With the new generation of marriages being put to the test, many women are asking to sign a “property agreement” or “fidelity agreement” before marriage.
But what they don’t think about is that both men and women are the subjects of marriage, and if the marriage breaks up, both are victims and both are responsible for it, so why do women think that men must compensate themselves?
Of course, we can’t just assume that women are unmotivated or “greedy for money”, because thousands of years of traditional culture have invariably influenced the judgment of generations of women.
Many women see marriage as the ultimate goal of their lives, and as the saying goes, “It’s better to study well than to marry well,” so they devote all their time, energy and effort to their families. The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the public.
Marriage is built on the protection of the legal system, but it can never be sustained by the law. The true foundation of marriage is emotion, and the foundation of emotion is trust.
Women who ask to sign a fidelity agreement have taken the lead in breaking the rules of the game and declaring their distrust of the relationship, of the man. The first thing you can do is to ask the other person to trust and accommodate you when you don’t even trust them.
For the pre-marital property, the man is not responsible for adding the woman’s name, and if the woman proposes to break up with this, it only shows that the two people still have different values.
The first time I saw this, I was able to get to the bottom of it.
When a woman asks for a “fidelity agreement,” she is expecting that her husband will probably cheat on her, and this can subconsciously influence the other person and somehow push the man into the wrong direction.
In fact, what really protects women is not the agreement, but the sincere maintenance of the marriage, and their own continuous improvement. Marriage represents the union and integration of two people, but it doesn’t mean losing and discarding yourself.
Only on the basis of continuous self-improvement and personal improvement can a marriage be stronger and fuller. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing. The most simple example is that the judge will take into account the financial strength of both men and women when it comes to the custody of the children.