They like to clean the house, they love their careers, and they want their husbands to help them make decisions. …… These are all good things about women, but on the American TV show Mad Housewives, they make men feel insecure.
Men don’t want to be “standardized”
Brie likes to keep the house looking gorgeous and is hard on her family. She requires her family to eat as if they were in a meeting, with no noise from the dishes. Once, she and her husband were “in close contact” and suddenly found the sandwich on the table was going to fall, she quickly pushed her husband away and rushed to catch the sandwich, then wiped the table clean, but her husband was already looking helpless. When the doctor told her the sad news of her husband’s death, her first reaction was to put continue to clean the dishes, then dress properly, cry, and then go out. After the loss of her husband, Brie found two more boyfriends who met her “neatness standards” but were both murderers with personality disorders. After suffering a series of blows, Brie became unkempt and manic, often even drinking heavily.
Expert analysis: Brie suppresses her emotions in order to get approval from others, and it is undoubtedly scary when she transfers her bad feelings to men.
Warm tips: Women with these typical problems should pay more attention to observe other people’s families and try to live a normal life. From there, they realize that not all families have to be spotless and every member has to be scantily clad; in contrast, families that pursue natural harmony are happier.
In addition, it is important to put yourself in your family’s shoes more often, such as talking, joking, and even playing around with them more often. Cleanliness is difficult for many men to accept, because a normal man would never be overly demanding of cleanliness. Wives should learn to think differently, take more account of men’s habits, and avoid demanding excessive harshness in the context of overall household cleanliness.
A man thinks his wife’s loyalty is bigger than the sky
Gabby loves social intercourse, but she will never give in or compromise in the home. She aspires to be the equal of her wealthy husband, seeks absolute freedom at home, and is impressed by the sight of a handsome man, so she has an affair with a college tutor. When her husband found out, she used some small tricks to “settle” the matter. Although her husband understands her mistake, but the couple’s relationship from then on planted the root of the trouble, the conflict between husband and wife further escalated. However, Gaby brought home a male rival of her husband and asked him to pretend to be her sexual partner. When her husband laughed it off and she preferred to fake it, the scene was seen by her husband who was about to bring breakfast into her room in the morning, and the conflict between the two re-escalated.
Expert analysis: Many feminists, who always want equality between men and women, also blunder when it comes to issues of principle, even trampling on men’s rights and trampling on men’s dignity. Because these women do not realize that the family is the last territory of men’s dignity, in family disputes, women should learn to compromise, show more weakness, do not be self-centered, even in the case of anger, never choose a one-night stand or extramarital affairs as the capital of gambling. Because most men can put up with their wives tantrums and quarrels, but absolutely can not tolerate the physical betrayal of women. In this issue, there is a fundamental difference between men and women. A woman can even tolerate one or even multiple physical cheating by a man, but a man will not tolerate one such situation by a woman.
Warm Tips: These women should not be too selfish or go to extremes in family strife, especially not to compete with their lovers, because the result of competition often leads to a dead end in love. Once the family has a small friction, the first thing to do is to find a friend to talk first, or see how parents usually deal with the problem, and strive to divert attention and reduce the desire to control the initiative of family conflicts. The family is a world of two people, and should be cherished like an heirloom.
A man worries that his wife is better than him in every way
Lernette is a strong woman who gave up her career after getting married and raising four children. But she still shows a tough side. Once her husband’s boss came to a meeting at home, and Lenette forgot to join the discussion, stealing her husband’s thunder. After her four children grew up, she returned to the workplace, working in the same company as her husband, but in a higher position than he was. Her husband volunteered to help her share most of the household chores, but she often told him what to do and broke his heart.
Expert analysis: No matter how smart and strong a woman is, she should do her best to maintain her man’s dignity and not hurt his confidence and self-esteem. Smart, successful women should learn to be petulant and weak in front of their husbands more often, or even find some particularly simple questions that he can ask him off the top of his head to give men more confidence.
Warm Tips: Successful career women should not think that whoever earns less money should do more housework. Husbands do housework out of love for their wives, so they must be more affirmative about such behavior. In the traditional sense, men are better at work and women are better at housework, so when a man does not do housework well, the wife must be understanding. Especially in families with children, it is very rare that a father is willing to play with his children, like Lehnert’s husband, can do housework, and the children also like to play with him, which is enough. You know, it’s amazing to be a good dad, it’s even harder than being a chairman.
Women with no opinions make men tired
Susan is one of those women who has no opinions, and she consistently wanders from one man to another who rubs off on her. She doesn’t know who loves her, let alone who she loves, and often even needs her precocious daughter to give her ideas. Susan is a little cute, a little innocent, and a little silly, but she wavers in her feelings but brings pain to herself and to those who love her. When her ex-husband asks to spend a night with her, she accepts thinking that the man is unforgettable to her, but later learns that her ex-husband just came back from a fight with his new girlfriend to seek comfort, but she lost her boyfriend whom she truly loved. Later, when faced with the pursuit of a handsome doctor she newly met, she could not give up her relationship with her boyfriend again. It is fair to say that Susan’s lack of initiative has robbed her of the initiative in her life.
Expert Analysis: This type of woman is always idealistic and programmed, has not been her true self, and is confused about her life goals. It is difficult for men to know what such women will do next, because the wife is always indecisive, this character will make the husband very tired, he has to divide a lot of energy to get ideas for his wife, a short period of time may not have too much impact, and for a long time, he will feel that his wife is not doing what she should do for the family. The man is already mentally and physically exhausted at work, and with his wife’s over-dependence, it is likely that one day he will not be able to bear it.
Warm Tips: The best way to solve this problem is to show yourself more, more in the friends gathering occasions, or some public activities to develop and exercise their abilities, so that you can become confident and believe in your own feelings and abilities. In addition, be sure to find a career that suits you, and strive to make achievements, in the process of seeking a career, will become more and more assertive. In addition, to create more opportunities to “take charge”, it can be some small things. This is a great way for women to make sure that they have their own goals in life and enjoy a better quality of life.