Every girl is an angel who has fallen to earth. But not every girl will meet a man who knows how to cherish her. From what I hear, this is where the broken-winged angel comes from. Meeting a good man is a good thing, meeting a bad man is not necessarily a bad thing. From girl to woman, we go through a particular kind of pain that comes from the bad men we experience. It hurts to meet with a better version of yourself. So, meeting a bad man is also a kind of self-cultivation.
From girl to woman, we inevitably go through all kinds of painful metamorphosis. Scum, too, is the driving force behind this metamorphosis. Miriam Yeung said in “Chunjiao and Zhiming” that everyone will inevitably meet a few scum men. Yes, there are some bad men that we will definitely meet. So women, be sure to keep your eyes open for these kinds of bad men in sheep’s clothing.
The first kind of man: you are never the most important person
There is A kind of man, the mouth will remember to say love you, but you never feel your weight in the relationship, even the tower of gods and demons in his phone win you. The day you break up, he doesn’t hurt.
Before we fall in love, we are first and foremost an individual, so of course everyone has things they care about, and the things that matter vary from person to person. It’s not like falling in love is going to be the whole of life. Loving someone doesn’t mean you have to go around that person in public, but when you find out that you’re not in that person’s life orbit at all, that’s another thing.
It’s probably not that he doesn’t love you, he just doesn’t love you enough to care about your feelings. There are always a bunch of things that come before you, friends, electric, work, family, every single one of them wins you.
“It’s not that I don’t love you, it’s just that my world wouldn’t be the same without you. Finally one day he said to you with a shrug, then turned back and continued to play his League of Legends, as if the world was calm. The day you saw your place in his heart, you suddenly woke up and realized that there was only “you” in this relationship, not “you”.
The second kind of man: the philandering prodigal who plays innocent
There is a kind of man who men that bite the bullet and men don’t love women. The surface looks harmless, behind the scenes desperately bad, as if all this is natural. The last thing you want to say is that you want it, not me.
It doesn’t matter if he’s bad, but he’s too good to hide himself so harmlessly. He wraps himself in such pure goodness, as if accidentally falling in love with you is the only exception in his good record. When he says “It’s my fault for falling in love with you” as if to condemn himself, only he knows he’s snickering.
He did love all those women around him, but the love disappeared so quickly that he ended up loving himself more than anyone else. In a relationship, he is tired of being too fast, if there is a little unpleasant in the world of two people, he is not even lazy to communicate, directly to the next one is faster.
You may end up bumping into him on campus one day, laughing and hugging another schoolgirl’s shoulder, not even trying to explain to you. You realized that there were too many seniors who used to stand frozen at the scene of the crime like you did, each seeing their own shadow in the next, long before you. You once thought you were his salvation, but in the end you overestimated yourself, and you couldn’t even save yourself.
The third kind of man: all day long he only thinks about getting laid
There is a kind of man A man who is not interested in you at all times, except for sex. Making love, it seems, is the only way he can express his love. The only way to show your love is to have sex.
There are many ways to show love, but for him, sex seems to be the only way to show it. At first you think, at least this is his way of saying “I want you”, at least your love is very passionate. But after a few times, you suddenly feel that the only thing he cares about is his own pleasure.
Because when he wants it, it’s out of your hands, you have little room to negotiate, you feel like you’re about to lose your body, and your relationship becomes more and more of a dangerous gamble, with your body as the bargaining chip.
If you want to get rid of him for good, besides seeing him for what he is, you can do so by being assertive with yourself. As long as you stick to yourself and cherish yourself, this kind of man will not get what he wants and will be cold to you, or cynical, or slowly distant, so that you will also really see that what he wants is not you as a person, but just a young and delicate body.
The fourth kind of man: does not love you and does not let go
There is a kind of man who does not love and does not let go
There is a kind of man who does not love and does not let go. A man who doesn’t love and doesn’t let go.
You clearly remember him saying, “I don’t seem to love you so much anymore,” but you feel as if he’s still with you, calling you twice a day, pretending to ask if you want to go for a walk as if nothing happened. So every time you see him, you can’t help but snicker inside, and you think “next thing you know, we’re going to rekindle old love, right?
“If he doesn’t love me, why is he worrying about me like this? You keep flashing such thoughts, but you know only after a long time, this kind of man, not at all kind, but called cowardly. He’s not feeling sorry for you, he’s just afraid of being lonely himself. The actual fact is that you’ll be able to get a lot more than just a few of these. He couldn’t control his loneliness, so he sought you out one at a time who was closest to him and stayed dead.
He says he’s afraid you’ll get hurt, but in fact you know that the only person he’s most afraid of hurting is always himself, because he can’t afford to be labeled a bad person.
The fifth kind of man: the helpless married man
There is a kind of man The first thing you need to do is to get your wife in your left hand and hold you in your right hand. You can’t figure out why he is so good at allocating time, or why he must cut a heart to two people.
With him, you honestly feel happier than ever. He is mature and stable, without the recklessness and impatience of men of your age; he understands you very well, and always hears your voice; he does not particularly ask you who you go out with, because he always trusts you, so you also always deeply believe him. It was only much later that you discovered the reason why he was unavailable every Friday night, and it turned out that it was a regular gathering of their family, and he attended with his wife and children and their sweet family.
If you trust him easily, you will become a third party in the eyes of others. By the time the matter is disclosed, he is nothing but a lost prodigal son who knows nothing. It was you, the scheming third party, who seduced him and set him on the wrong path. Such a man, you will still insist on loving him? Love is not a reason to be a third party in someone’s relationship.