What questions are men most afraid of being asked? And what do they think?
“What are you thinking about?”
Men are most afraid of women invading their heads, and he doesn’t want to make you angry, so it’s neither right nor wrong to answer. You’ll feel like you’re making a fool of yourself in the face of his embarrassment, so it’s better to give him the serenity to let him dream.
“Do you remember what day it is?”
This is always a surprise to him, and he’ll nervously “search” for what’s important today: a meeting? A date? What’s the big deal? …… And then he asks himself, “I can’t even remember such an important day, which must annoy her, and does that mean I don’t value the relationship at all?”
And some girls will then ask again, “You remember what I wore that day, right?” Even worse! A word of advice, don’t be ashamed that he can’t remember just because most men see you as having an evolving relationship, not a string of days.
“Did you say she was pretty?”
A man literally sees it as a mine field, one step at a time. He knows in his heart that you’re actually asking, “Is she more beautiful than me?” Is that a lie? The actual fact is that you will be able to see through it; tell the truth? It is not asking for “death”. He had to avoid the obvious: “Honey, don’t ask that silly question, I only have eyes for you!”
“What about the dress I bought you?”
God! Sure enough, it’s a headache when a guy doesn’t like a certain dress his girlfriend bought him. If you say you like it, your girlfriend will ask why you don’t see him wearing it; if you say you don’t like it, you’ll obviously get annoyed; and if you say “it’s gone”, you’ll get a string of complaints. If you’ve never seen him wear it, you’re better off not mentioning it.
“I’m 10 days past my period.”
This will literally scare him to death! There really aren’t any effective words of comfort for an unplanned pregnancy. Unless you are diagnosed, you should not scare him because he will be wary of his relationship with you later and he really doesn’t want to take responsibility for anything too soon.
“When are you going to meet my parents?”
Most men are afraid to meet “Tarzan,” but it’s sooner rather than later. You have to help him get over the hurdle with a few simple ideas: A. Give him plenty of time to prepare before meeting his parents, and don’t let him know at the last minute; B. Arrange short get-togethers that don’t make him feel too miserable; and C. Cooperate wholeheartedly to get him through.
“What is the future of our relationship?”
With that short sentence, he will feel that your relationship has gotten a lot more serious. To his ears, it becomes “It’s time for you to make a commitment!” So he feels pressured and pushed, and then he associates it with getting married, having a wedding, having kids, making him feel all of a sudden grown up, responsible, and mature …… all the things that men fear most.
Think about it, it’s easy to say these things, but some of them can have a negative impact when the relationship isn’t mature enough and we haven’t thought about designing a complete future, so it’s wise to “be careful what we say.