Remember to schedule time for sex if you want your marriage to be strong. You worked hard to get him, now work hard to have a healthy sex life with him. Even if you’ve been working all day, or your kids are extremely needy of your care, and sex is the last thing on your mind. Or you don’t think you’re sexy at all, or you’re having a special time. Every woman has those times, but you can try to make time for sex.
Also, be realistic about sex. You may want it to be just right, romantic, erotic, and long enough for foreplay. This is not always possible, and sex requires flexibility. Sometimes sex is the culmination of a wonderful night out, and other times you just have to take a chance, like in the morning before the kids get up, or at some point during the day. Your mind is either in turmoil, you’re thinking about tomorrow’s work, your kids, how the house needs to be decorated, and other trivial issues. But that doesn’t stop you from having sex, your sex life can go on as usual. There are so many thoughts in our minds that you don’t always have a clear head for sex, and sometimes sex can make the thoughts clear! If you do have the time, you can plan a romantic evening to make sex extra spicy. For example, wear the bracelet he once gave you, cook his favorite dish, play some soft music, and wear his favorite suit to make your sex more romantic.
Lastly, remember that sex is not a bargaining chip. Don’t use sex to punish each other. If you want to achieve something, then you should express your meaning in other ways. For example, not cooking his favorite dish, not going to a soccer game with him. It is not healthy for your relationship to use sex as a weapon and as a way to hurt him. Remember, he can go to soccer games with his friends, but when it comes to sex, you are the only option!