Fantasy 1 You will gradually get used to sharing each other’s interests with each other
[Fact] You thought you would lovingly accept everything about each other and take his interests as your own, and you fantasized that you could The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. In contrast, you prefer to curl up at home on the couch, cuddling with your well-behaved puppy and watching soap operas, while he scoffs at your interest.
[Mood Rescue] Instead of forcing yourself to share his interests, it’s better to have a never-ending supply of fresh topics to talk about because of your different interests, and it’s enough to just be there for each other when they need you to share their happiness or pain with them. Each having their own separate mental space will bring both parties closer.
Fantasy 2No matter what disagreements occur, you will come up with a compromise
[Fact] You will find that after marriage your husband will raise hell with you over the smallest things, and you will become catty yourself.
[Mood rescue] You can’t tell who’s right and who’s wrong in a fight, so don’t expect you to make peace and work out a compromise that satisfies both of you. Don’t ever expect him to be like you, who can’t wait to get home to visit your mother every weekend, and don’t force yourself to agree with that lousy stock he’s ready to buy. When disagreements occur, only when one of you makes concessions and temporary tolerances can your days go bye-bye. At this point, peace of mind is more important than anything else.
Fantasy 3: You’ll still be chasing each other on the phone every day when you’re temporarily separated by business trips
[Fact] After marriage, you’ll only count on calling him during discounted phone rates when you have nothing to do or something to discuss, and just for the sake of it, rather than holding the phone for hours on end like you used to. The phone will not be as long as before. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
[Mood Rescue] In fact, what’s wrong with that? The only way to keep your body healthy is to breathe freely, and that’s true for marriage too!
Fantasy 4After marriage, you will be eager to cook for each other what he likes to eat, and will be happier to see him eating it than you are to eat it yourself.
[Fact] Unless one of you has a persistent love of cooking, sooner or later you will both abhor cooking and put off doing the dishes after the meal. Some women are also often angry with their husbands for taking it upon themselves to eat her favorite dishes, so it seems that the scenario of love as sustenance is just a pre-marital blip.
[Moody rescue] Marriage is a joint effort, and that should include running your table together. Try cooking one of your favorite dishes at each meal and collaborating on a dish that you both love, which not only adds to the fun of life, but is also the fairest way to solve the cooking problem.
Fantasy 5After marriage you will still have long night talks from time to time like you did before marriage
[Fact] After marriage you realize that your husband seems to have said everything he had to say to you before marriage, and he always responds to your chatter with the shortest words, even sometimes going so far as to turn a deaf ear and pretend to be dumb. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
[Mood rescue] Not getting enough sleep is not good for your physical and mental health, and talking all night should not be as much fun as having a good sex session and then cuddling up together. If you’re really lacking in conversation, add some opportunities to eat out, or talk for a while while you do chores and watch TV, or you can keep a notebook and write down what you want to say that’s important to each other, and over time you’ll see that you’re not talking any less than you did all night long.
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Fantasy 6After the wedding, he will keep the promise he made when he proposed to you, and he will change all his flaws for you
[Fact] After the wedding, he acts like he has accomplished a The fact is that after the wedding, he not only forgot all about his promise, but also added more faults that you could not tolerate because he was completely lax. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem of the problem.
[mood rescue] Don’t expect to use your marriage to change each other. Before marriage, you also solemnly told him that you would be a good wife and mother, but now he and the children are called “evil”, so do not do to others what you do not want, try to slowly accept or downplay some of his shortcomings.
Take a look at what’s cute about him. Being happy or unhappy is just a matter of looking at things differently.
Fantasy 7After marriage, you will tell each other everything about yourself without reservation
[Fact] Pay close attention to your daily conversation, is it all about “What’s for dinner?” “Whose house are we going back to this weekend?” “
The truth is that you have to pay your utility bills again. You can’t tell him what you’re really thinking, like “I’d love to have dinner with that handsome actor on TV” or “Can I keep this money for my own personal use”, and he certainly hasn’t told you The first time I saw you, I had a girlfriend who was hotter than you, or a female colleague at work who was making passes at him.
After marriage, you’ve both learned to keep the really important things to yourselves.
[Mood rescue] “Distance is beautiful” especially in modern marriages, and hiding something means you still care about each other a lot, so as long as it doesn’t hurt the essence of the marriage, leave some taste in your heart.
Fantasy 8: After the marriage, his money is your money, and you should keep it
[Fact] You will always find money in his wallet from unknown sources, and the first thing he thinks of when he earns an extra income is to buy himself a digital camera or a couple of game software packages.
The relationship is a bit of a “cat and mouse” situation, where you try to find out how much money he has in his coffers by asking questions when he’s not expecting them and is unprepared.
[Mood rescue] Instead of saying that his money is your money, you should emphasize to him that “we earn money for our family, and the money we earn is for the family”. The more the husband’s money is like sand in your hand, the tighter you clutch it the more it leaks, so it’s better to let go of it in moderation, and he will no longer be on guard against you.
Fantasy 9If one of you is sick, either one of you will have to be at your service
[Fact] Even if you are at home with a fever, he will go out to socialize and come home late as usual, and whenever he is screaming at the slightest illness, you will have a restrained boredom, and sometimes even have the idea of running away.
[Mood Rescue] Don’t be too demanding of yourself and others to be too perfect. Since you’ll be running around in tears over a sick puppy you have, use some of the same patience for your loved one, who is vulnerable at this time, both physically and mentally.