Many post-80s and post-90s feel that sex and love are equal, and that loving someone means giving them sex, so there are now many one-night stands and relationships just two days after meeting them ……
It’s not good to say much about this phenomenon. Whether it’s a day, a week, or a year, there’s no definition of how long a relationship should be more intimate after you’ve been in it.
What is too fast and what is too slow, everyone has their own answer, as if the answer is indifferent, because there are many fast people and many slow people, women who are very fast and men who are very slow. The answer to this question is that there are many people who are fast and many who are slow.
Some people think that intimacy can be kiss, or hug, or sex. So how long should these so-called intimate relationships be kept under control?
Kiss and hand dragging, too mundane
Ask many post-80s and post-90s to see what they think of kisses and hand dragging, and they tend to laugh and then snort. The company’s main goal is to provide a more efficient and effective way to improve the quality of its products.
In Love in the Hawthorn Tree, Jingqiu believes that holding hands and hugging will make you pregnant, but young people now have a different outlook and receive different knowledge. The first time I saw it, I thought it would be a good idea to take a look at it.
Hugging and kissing when you first meet someone is really not a big deal, and if you think that’s weird then you’re out of touch. Many high school students are intimate on the side of the road, to the disgrace of many middle-aged and older people, but in their view this is a very romantic and exciting behavior. Only then, daring to be intimate in public, do they think the other person really loves them, and if they don’t even dare to do these basic intimate actions, they will be seen as timid.
We can’t criticize these phenomena, but we still hope that our younger generation will have a good grasp of their own scale in relationships and will be able to tell what is true love and what is most necessary in love.
Love is like Kiss
“Most people’s sex happens in less than six months.” We interviewed this question at random and got this – the fastest, in half a day!
The model of love outlined in the romance novels of the Qiong Yao era is outdated. In the interviews, many young boys and girls believe that even if they have not experienced sex, it is something that will happen without long; as for the object, it has to be the person of their choice, the time of sex depends on fate, it is not good to be too fast, but certainly do not die until the time when the holy bell of marriage rings.
When you talk to people on the Internet, you will find that the mood of sex as it happens is very pervasive, and sexual pleasure is therefore active and unrestrained. Many people are willing to get laid within a few days, reasoning that “if you like it, you’re together, so why waste time?” The slower ones are not more than a few months, and these people need more security and are afraid of being hurt physically and mentally. Those who wait a year, by the standards of the masses, have been a long time. A buddy cried in an online follow up post, “I’ve been dating my girlfriend for 5 months and haven’t kissed yet, 5555555 ……”
It is widely believed that sex in relationships is common enough in society that it is also a bit of a trial marriage meaning. Many people worry that if they insist on not having sex before marriage, then their whole life will be ruined if they learn that the other person can’t do it when they get married, so they insist on having sex while they are in love. And sex is just like a kiss, it’s nothing after that, and not many people will take it to heart.
Women are more open than men
Many men believe that it’s not just men who initiate intimacy in a relationship, but women take the initiative instead.
While the old idea of “getting it on is a man’s advantage and a woman’s loss” still works, it is no longer universally true, and many women, who no longer need the balance of marriage or money, are willing to let go and enjoy the “like him, want him” feeling.
Love and sex, in a woman’s world, are hard to disassociate. “The first thing is that the woman is still in the first place. The company is also willing to simplify sex, like is like, sex is sex, sex because like, not like will not be sex. It’s not like the old days when marriage, morality, chastity, and the opinions of onlookers …… were considered so much, and it was too tiring to live.
After women were liberated, they have played a big role in all levels of society, taking up half of the sky, and are no less important than men when it comes to sex. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. So, don’t think that there are just a lot of posh men, in this society, there are also a lot of posh women.
The faster you get intimate, the further away true love is
The more intimate you get too quickly, the less love there is. Because the focus is not on love, because too soon lowers trust, because too easily becomes unappreciated, because the lack of emotional foundation is bound to be fickle. If you have an intimate relationship too soon, both parties may not cherish it too much, because the easier it is to get something, the quicker it will fade away and the more you will not feel at ease. In many cases, men and women who have experienced a one-night stand, re-encounter on the road, both have long since forgotten each other.
Nowadays, a lot of flash marriage people, usually soon after the wedding direction of the two sides do not match personality, difficult to get along, so again will choose to flash divorce. This is also an important factor that has led to the current rapid increase in divorce rates.
In fact, there is no right or wrong in love, as long as it feels right, as long as you feel you won’t regret it and you are happy, then whenever you can be more intimate, you don’t have to be confined in a box.
Love is emotional, but we should never look at it sloppily, we should never be too spontaneous, we should keep our heads in the right place, we should know what we need and understand what we want. This way, you will not lose yourself in love and find your way. And only then can you go farther in the boat of love.