Studies say that wives who are more than 5 years younger than their husbands are the least conflicted age combination, and their divorce rate is 1/6th that of other marriages. in addition, a study by the University of Vienna found that husbands who are 4-6 years older than their wives have the most children, while husbands who are 15 years older than their wives have a small number of children but the most fulfilling married life.
In response, experts say: the three main happiness points of such marriages become the pillars of a solid family.
The first point of happiness is the fulfillment of women’s desire for the “trinity”. The first point of happiness is to meet the “trinity” of women’s desires. Usually, women dream of a prince charming with the maturity of a father, the care of an older brother and the energy of a friend. The husband is older, more mentally mature, and more comfortable giving affection.
The second point of happiness, older husbands usually have a certain financial base, reducing the chances of disputes over finances.
The third point of happiness is that there is less family competition.
When the husband is older, the woman naturally develops a sense of dependence and obedience, which reduces the competition for power between the couple and consequently reduces friction.
If we talk about the disadvantages of this type of marriage, generally speaking, the average life expectancy of men is already shorter than that of women, and if the husband is much older than the wife, then it is possible that the husband will end up dying and the wife will be left alone.
Women who are big and men who are small are also happy
As the saying goes, “A woman who is big can hold a golden brick”, and in ancient times, there were often big daughters-in-law and small husbands. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. The experts say that some sibling families are actually very happy. Some men are young but have a mature psychological age, while their wives are older but still have the psychological age of a young girl.
Such families, psychologically speaking, are similar to the model of families where the man is older and the woman is younger. In other sibling families, the husbands all have similar temperamental traits, i.e., the male is less independent and wants to continue to find the feeling of being cared for by his mother. For such families, there are often a number of drawbacks. First, both physically and psychologically, women age faster while men are still in their prime, which tends to make families unstable.
Secondly, age has social significance, and in the conventional social evaluation, sibling relationships are prone to disbelief and criticism, or derogatory comments about men being “unmanly” or women being “old and young”, etc. These external comments also have a certain degree of impact on the walls of the family. The family wall can also be impacted by these external comments.
The more alike you are, the more in love you are
All three of these marriage models have their advantages and disadvantages, and while age does play an important role in marriage, it’s not age that really determines the stability of a marriage. “First of all, the English word ‘LOVE’ is compressed from a Latin phrase that reads ‘love is an abiding concern for the life of another’.”
This speaks to the true meaning of the love of a couple, which is to love the partner for themselves, not to focus on external conditions, which we often say is “height is not an issue, age is not an issue, looks are not an issue. The less external conditions are required, the stronger the love is.
Second, research shows that the more similar the personalities, the stronger the love. What is often referred to as complementary between couples is that they want to have what they don’t have and their spouse has it, which is an appreciation, not a personality that is the opposite.
Finally, it is important to have sameness. One, when you get married, you have to have the idea of being one with each other; two, you have to have comparable education and life values. These are the intrinsic factors that determine whether a marriage is stable or not.