We are dead, but love does not die.” Throughout history, when has the power of love ever been underestimated by us. To this day, our desire for love continues to be passed on diligently in different versions and various interpretations. What is the mysterious power that can make us throw ourselves obsessively into the arms of one person and what keeps us away from one? According to a tenured professor of sociology at Northwestern University in his research, people choose partners who are similar to them in many ways, but sometimes they also pick people who can complement them, for example, people who are used to being active will look for passive people, and extroverts are happy to look for introverts. The balance between psychological complementarity and similar social backgrounds is an important cornerstone of a happy love and harmonious marriage. Any love is mutual, there is no complete right and no absolute obligation. There is a saying that is very accurate: “We are all angels with one wing, and we can only fly if we are united.” So, why do some unions fail to fly? I’m afraid this can be attributed to four mindsets in marriage.
One. The high expectations of marriage. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do. A fantasy of a “passionate” marriage. Because of the impact of passion, sweet words of the package, the life after marriage has high expectations, the fantasy of a beautiful marriage will replace the reality of marriage, Snow White and the prince of the story evolved into a married life “high standards”, “strict requirements” of Incarnation, which is our own to the marriage artificially attached to a kind of packaging, that is, our high expectations of the marriage mentality. When this beautiful fantasy and artificial packaging once replaced by the trivialities of married life, with the needs of marriage can not be met, disappointment and despair will be like a “black cloud” general accompanied by a feeling of deception together to us. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do.
II. An overly self-respecting and sensitive mindset. In married life, moderate self-esteem and sensitivity is a good mindset, but too much self-esteem and sensitivity can drive your marriage to the brink. Before the marriage instructions strictly according to do, after the marriage requirements as a single corrupt, an attentive, a drag, before and after the marriage contrast, our self-esteem forced into the goat path. One of the spouses will then believe that their spouse is belittling them and disrespecting them. In order to defend their own dignity and the other party’s words and actions are too “self-respect” and sensitive, especially to the other party inadvertently said a word or thoughtless actions, will “mean” on half a day. This mentality to put it nicely that called love over the head, to put it badly is hypersensitive. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
III. The mindset of shirking responsibility. The most important thing is the responsibility of both parties to help each other, not to blame each other, to avoid and to pass the buck. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Four. The expectation of a rewarding mindset. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. If one party does not do well enough, not enough love, the other party’s disappointment, worry, unhappiness will come as expected, all the happiness in the past will be easy to ignore, worry and unhappiness will not be so easy to wave that away. The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the market.