On the surface it appears that wives are only passive recipients in their sex lives, and many even feel that women don’t have much of a sexual mindset at all. As a result, such sexual misconceptions are often deeply unnoticed, but actually creep into couples’ lives.
Second, because of the richness and diversity of women’s sexual responses and patterns of sexual behavior and the wide variation among individuals, misconceptions about sexuality are often obscured.
Because women generally prefer to tightly integrate sex, love, and marital quality, wives tend to take love and marriage more into account when evaluating their sex lives, while ignoring or dismissing the role of sexual perceptions. There are three main misconceptions about sexuality that are common among women.
One, sex is seen as a mere “offering”
This first manifests itself as a lack of sufficient knowledge and understanding of one’s own physiology, sexual function and sexual response. With the spread of family planning and women’s health care, wives’ knowledge of contraception, pregnancy and women’s diseases has increased a lot compared to the past, but due to traditional and customary constraints, more than half of wives still do not know what the most sensitive part of women’s sexuality is, and 40% of wives do not know or cannot say what the female orgasm is.
Is this because sexual knowledge is hard to come by? I’m afraid not. There are more than 200 publicly available books on sex in China, and almost every one of them talks about this general knowledge to a greater or lesser extent. But there are very few women readers, even fewer women buyers, and very few women spreading this knowledge.
Why do women feel the need to learn, but don’t? One of the main reasons is that very many wives feel that since their husbands dominate their sex lives, it is up to him to learn about sex, to be responsible for sexual harmony, or even just to try to satisfy himself. In the end, the wife is often in the sex life is also “married to a chicken, married to a dog, follow the dog”. The first thing that I did was to take the responsibility to make it happen.
This idea of mere “devotion” to sex has several negative consequences:
l. When a husband is violent or even sexually abusive, the wife lacks both the inner motivation to resist and the knowledge and means to change.
2. In case of general sexual incompatibility, wives are prone to blame their husbands too much, which in turn intensifies the conflict. In the self suspected Yang Kang premature ejaculation of the husband, a considerable number of people are actually triggered or aggravated by the wife’s blame.
3. Even if the sex life is going well, the wife who is simply “devoted” to it will not be able to experience its pleasure and value, but will be indifferent and distant, which naturally intensifies the paucity of feelings and eventually forms a vicious circle.
4. Even if the wife is more coordinated, she may lack the internal motivation to keep improving, which in the long run can easily lead to psychological fatigue (boredom, lack of desire, avoidance, etc.) on both sides.
Two, too much attention to their own “image” in sex
The most common is that the wife unconsciously behaves “properly” or “decently. The most common is for wives to unconsciously act “proper” or “decent. Many wives love their husbands, but they are afraid of being “embarrassed” in their sex lives, afraid that their husbands will look down on them or doubt them, and they can’t imagine what a good wife “should” be like at this time, so they have to blindly repress themselves. As a result, her husband and herself mistakenly think that sex life “is so, nothing interesting ‘”. The result is that both the husband and the woman themselves mistakenly think that sex is “just that, nothing interesting”. Over time, both sides really don’t care.
There are also many wives who feel ashamed or shy about their spontaneous requests for sex, and always feel that they are “cheap” or “flirty” for initiating the request, or even “like a prostitute”.
In the case of the “whore”, the wife is not able to make the request.
In the early stages of a new marriage, this may not seem like a problem because the husband is generally more sexually active than the wife. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. At this time, if the wife pays too much attention to the “image”, not only can not get the due satisfaction, and can not communicate the idea of couples in this regard, can not scientifically correct both sides may appear “sexual mistakes”. The result is that both parties are complaining about each other and the problem is getting bigger and bigger.
There are also many wives who are unconsciously concerned about whether they are “normal” or not, especially when it comes to specific behaviors. The first thing you should do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing.
But in reality, they don’t really know what the standards of hygiene are, let alone what others are doing. In particular, the more people talk about “normal”, the less they can say what the scientific standard and basis of “normal” is. The majority of wives who have such concerns, except for a very small number of husbands who are indeed psychopaths, are actually motivated by a fear of being “unorthodox”.
Overly concerned with one’s own image, it is easy to both deny oneself and misjudge the other person. The most common and immediate consequence of this is that it distracts you from your own concerns and puts you in the position of a spectator, deliberately and reluctantly doing what you think you should be doing. As a result, not only do they fail to feel the love therein with their husbands, but they also objectively create inhibitions and disappointments for each other.
Three, too high expectations of the role of sex
The first aspect is that some wives do not understand the sexual life of men and sexual psychological characteristics, mistakenly thinking that men are bound to take the initiative at all times and under all circumstances urgent. The first thing is that the company’s products and services are not only available in the market, but also in the market. The first of these is to make sure that the person is not in a situation where he or she is not in a position to be a part of the family.
The second aspect is that some wives have a very high need for emotional communication during sex, but are afraid to or not good at expressing and communicating, which results in their own unspoken worries and their husbands’ confusion. In turn, the wife feels even more that her husband is not gentle and considerate and does not understand her heart.
Another aspect is that some wives are not good at distinguishing sex from everyday life in marriage and do not appreciate the difference between the two. When a husband does well in sex, the wife mistakenly believes that he is bound to be a model husband in all aspects of daily life, and the slightest difference will cause her to complain, “Where did your tenderness in bed go?” And even wonder, “So your love is just for that!”
Then again, a few women punish their husbands for their transgressions by not having sex. Some wives are overly enamored with the pure love of romance and always feel that sex after marriage detracts from it.
All of the above seem to be specific problems that have a cause, but in reality it is still women who are wrong in their sexuality.
It should also be noted that a harmonious and happy sex life can only work well for both sex physiology and sex psychology in the first place. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing.