I’ve been on fire lately, and my thoughts have been running wild in the fire, so I’ve been on a self-imposed retreat for a few days. Now I’ve opened up twitter to find a bunch of complaints of varying lengths waiting for a response, which is a shame. Among all these complaints, I found many very representative ones, which represent some of the very common and classic emotional pains of women today. I’m going to take some of them out and respond to them, and I’m going to summarize them a bit.
I. I’m in love with someone I shouldn’t love
Q: Something is wrong with my relationship, I’m in love with someone I shouldn’t love, but I wish I could get out of it, but I just can’t get over him, it’s really hard.
A: People are emotional creatures, and if they can forget someone immediately if they want to, then they are not human. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem. The first thing you need to do is to make sure you know where you stand and what is at stake in this relationship. Choose to forget, or choose to remember? Since it is difficult to forget for a while, it is better to let nature take its course and let time do the work for you. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do.
II.
Q: A man says he likes my personality, not me as a person.
A: Personally, I think both men and women like a person from the person itself, as far as to love a person from the person’s character. However, there are no absolutes in everything, and there are always examples emerging that break through the universal state. We used to say that women’s hearts are like needles under the sea is difficult to fish, in fact, men’s hearts are equally difficult to fish. In fact, you do not have to think through the man’s a sentence, if for a sentence and constantly guess, think more you will go crazy. I suggest that you still watch the change, while following the nature. If too many strategies are incorporated inside the relationship, then the relationship becomes too utilitarian. So, don’t overthink it.
III.
Q: Hello Prince! Just two days ago my boyfriend broke up with me because he has a deep virginity complex. I love him very much and don’t want to let go so easily, but I don’t know how to persuade him! He was born in 80, and in order to stick to his own principles, he has never been in a relationship before, and he has never had sex. He takes the first time very seriously, Mr. Prince, can you give some advice?
A: There are many, many men with virginity, and many, many men without virginity. There are many men who take the first time very, very seriously, and there are many men who don’t take the first time very, very seriously. The first time, the virginity and the first time in a way represents a kind of emotional purity, but without the virginity and the first time can not be described as emotional impurity. In the land of love, the master of love, not virginity and the first time, but love itself. If you want to die in the virginity and the first time above, then it is really too stubborn. If you still love him, then use love to touch him. The power of love, you should know that.
IV. Fear of being hurt forced to disguise
Q: I sometimes feel fake, but I have no choice but to disguise to keep my inner vulnerability from being hurt, but this is really tiring and can lead to misunderstandings among others. But I’m immersed in hypocrisy and can’t help myself! I don’t want to hurt anyone, and I can’t allow others to hurt me. …… Please bother to analyze the tangled me when you have time ~ thank you
A: No one is not afraid of getting hurt, and no one can be completely unhurt. If you’re just afraid of getting hurt and wrapping yourself in a cocoon that no one else can see, it’s a bit like cocooning yourself and ultimately harming yourself. In this reality full of temptations and crises, women should be a little disguised, too naked thoughts of women, too easy to be cheated. However, too much camouflage of the woman, in a way, she is afraid of reality. The more camouflage, the more vulnerable, will eventually lead to their own afraid to love others, more do not know what love is. Please let yourself go, although the road may be hurt at any time, but the beautiful scenery ahead is enough to drown out this small injury, is not this a wonderful?
V. Why can she be happier than me
Q: Hi, how are you? I’m obviously feeling too jealous now, maybe because I care about my friends, or maybe it’s just my heart acting up, whenever I see my friends having more fun with other people, I feel weird inside. Although I realize this problem and try to make myself not to be so narrow-minded, I still can’t overcome my defect, what should I do? I am eager for your help!
A: Women’s jealousy is always annoying to women, but it’s always hard to control, and you can get into big problems because of it. The first thing you should do is not think of jealousy as a defect, or you won’t be able to face it head on. Think about it, we are all human beings, a little contrast between people is inevitable, a little jealousy is even more inevitable. Sometimes, it is because of jealousy that a person will work harder. So, you should not think of yourself as too big a problem. I suggest you can put aside some scruples to gradually integrate into the circle of everyone, on the one hand, and constantly strive to make yourself better. If people are happy, then they are really happy.
Six.
Q: The Prince of Contradictions, hello, why am I lying in my current boyfriend’s arms, dreaming about my old boyfriend, and waking up especially sad that my ex-boyfriend is always behind me, I know it’s not because he still loves me, it’s because there’s no suitable one around, what should I do…I’m so conflicted …
A: I’ve responded to the question about ex-boyfriends N times in recent years. The company’s main goal is to provide a solution to the problem. I would like to say that since you have chosen the next relationship, then you have to be responsible for the next relationship. The last relationship even if how hard to let go but after all, it has ended, you can only choose to stay away and as a memory. As for the ex-boyfriend how to live, you can go to understand, but you can not care so much. If you’re always obsessing over your ex, you’ll be the one who gets hurt the most.
VII.
Q: I feel very annoyed, all 30, my family introduced me to someone, all aspects are very good, but the character I do not like much, but also has not had any heart feelings for him, now it is almost half a year, I do not know what to do, they all want to get married at the end of the year, but I do not want to, but I do not want my family to worry, because they only want me But I really don’t want to do it so soon, I don’t know what I think, what should I do?
A: Needless to say, this is a very real and very difficult problem. Some time ago there was a news story that broke about leftover women having their ribs broken by their families because they couldn’t get married, which was simply sensational. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a good deal on a lot of things. Some leftover women prefer to wait until the right one is married. Some of the remaining women are forced by their families, do not want to marry also have to marry. There are leftover women, leaving behind all the vision and pressure, I do what I want, I love my leftovers. Although it is said that the older the woman, the greater the pressure, but from the point of view of marriage, rather than indiscriminate always have certain benefits. So I support your insistence.