We often hear our elders say, “If you can’t, you should find an honest man to marry.” In this era of fast food love, an “honest man” seems to be a guarantee for marriage.
What is an honest man?
What is the best way to get the most out of your life?
So, is it really true that a man’s honesty is directly related to the happiness of his marriage? The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do.
Ms. Wang: 32 years old, down-to-earth, reliable and comfortable
My husband deserves to be called an honest man, he is introverted and gives people a gentle feeling, but in his softness there is a rigidity that others cannot ignore.
When we first met, he was seen as a good old boy who liked to help others, but hid away from things that were none of his business. Once, when I was shopping in town, a few scoundrels pestered me, and he ended up rescuing me. After I asked him why he had to help me, he said he had liked me for a long time, but had not had the courage to confess, but saw that I was in trouble and had to come forward. The first time I saw the company, I was able to get to know it.
After the wedding, he was particularly devoted to me, not only to work every day to support the family, but also to home things basically do not have to worry about me, cooking, laundry, housework, everything. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Ms. Qin: 40 years old, life is boring and tormented inside
My ex-husband chose to divorce us because he was unprofessional and grumpy. After the divorce, I’ve been trying to find an honest person who is a down-to-earth person and has a boring life. The first time I met my current husband, he was indeed very honest, uncontested, and genuinely thinking about the family.
We each have a child, and he is very good to my children, treating them as if they were his own, and he takes care of everything at home, picking up the children, cleaning up the house, and tutoring them. The first time I thought this was the life I wanted, but slowly, my heart began to torment again.
“There’s a new movie that just came out, why don’t we go see it this afternoon?”
He said, “There are so many people in the cinema, and you have to buy a ticket, so what’s the point of spending that money? You’ll be able to watch it on TV in a while.”
I said, “A restaurant just opened nearby, it’s pretty good, why don’t you try it sometime?”
He said, “I know that place, it’s very expensive, one meal there is enough for us to eat several meals at home, what do you want to eat? I’ll make it for us.”
In his opinion, if you can do it at home, it’s a waste of money to do it outside. It’s a tedious life, and it’s a torment to people. But it can’t be helped, since one chooses, one has to be tolerant, not to mention that he is not wrong, but just thinking about the family.
Ms. Wu: 38 years old, honest on the surface, weak and unassertive on the inside
People often say, “You can’t judge a man by his appearance, but you can’t measure the sea.” I now have a true understanding of this phrase. The first time I met him, I thought he was a good, honest man, who opened a small supermarket in front of his home, and was a stable boss. The first time I saw him, my parents thought he was pretty good, and I was sure I could be happy for the rest of my life if I married someone like that.
When we first met, he seemed very enthusiastic and kind to people, and as long as I mentioned things, he would be the first to take them to heart. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
Once I dumped the leftovers that had been in the fridge for two days, he started nagging me, and we had a big fight about it, and he almost got mad at me. In addition, he has no opinion of his own, he has to ask me about everything, big and small, what to eat today? The first thing I did was to ask him if it was too much to cook three dishes at night.
In short, in my opinion, a man who is honest on the surface must have a hidden agenda behind him, and is weak and unassertive on the inside, so be careful when marrying such a man.
From the responses of the three women above, it is clear that the happiness of marriage is not directly related to whether a man is honest or not.
In my opinion, marriage is still based on love, and a marriage with love is always full of happiness. If there is no love in the marriage, and you have no feelings for him at all, the man is honest and reliable, and after you marry him, your marriage will be boring and unhappy.
So, if a woman marries someone and wants to have a happy marriage, not only should the person be reliable, but also based on feelings.
Fujii Shu wrote in “The Return Journey”, “It is not love that is stupid, it is people who are stupid. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The best way to get the most out of a marriage is to have two people working together and growing together.