Only wishing to love one person for life is a beautiful wish in every woman’s heart, but the probability of actually fulfilling this promise in life is very small: smooth sailing to marry your first love, never a record of extramarital affairs, no divorce, and dying before the other person.
The real-life woman, whether she wants to or not, will say goodbye to one relationship after another and inevitably have an old flame. As with the collection of jewelry, women take old lovers deep in the black box of memory. They leap back into their minds at many thoughtful and inadvertent times, bringing with them a sky and clouds of sadness.
Women are more nostalgic than men, each lover is like a familiar song, people are gone, tea is cold, but the memory is still around the beam three lives. In the eyes of women, every man they have ever had is so different, and in different men, they become different women, having had several relationships is equivalent to having lived several times, and this is how a woman’s heart gets old.
Time and space are intertwined and men stop and go. The woman caught in a flashback is like opening a jewelry box of memories. Many episodes thought to have been forgotten surfaced, the mood in an instant seems to return to the memory of a scene. At this point, the memory becomes a filter, all the unpleasant details are faded, highlighting the scenes that are so beautiful that they can be photographed as a couple of greeting cards. The woman can’t help but look in the phone book ……
In fact, the biggest difficulty in getting along with an old flame is how to understand the failed relationship between them and how to properly view their current relationship. The most difficult thing to do with an old lover is to understand the failed relationship between them and how to properly view their current relationship. Is it love? or friendship? The past can destroy the present psychologically and even substantively. Most men do not believe that friendship exists between the sexes, they come to see you either out of unquenched love, or out of curiosity, or out of a reluctance to refuse your kindness. After a woman knows this, she may be a little more cautious when dialing the number. Memories are beautiful just because they have passed and can no longer hurt us. By making them present, they become a sharp sword again.
Women many times think that now that time has changed, people have become more mature. The new meeting with old lovers, we will know how to grasp the proportion. The actual situation is not all like this. The most important thing is to know what is the most appropriate way and mindset to face your old lover.
When a woman calls, how does he react? Will he make excuses and refuse? Or gladly accept? In general, a man will not refuse a woman’s invitation. Especially when two people break up soon, the man still hopes to save their relationship, the woman asked him to do anything he is happy. The woman began to wait anxiously at the dating place, the man who immediately appeared is very familiar to her, he has been in her mind but has wandered out of her life. On the other hand, he is a complete stranger again. Before and when confronting him, it’s best to do the following:
wait until the relationship is no longer ambiguous;
figure out what you want to get out of this meeting;
stop thinking about where he has hurt you;
Don’t make overly tender gestures and actions when you’re with him;
Don’t hound his current girlfriend for too many details;
Don’t dress too sexy;
Don’t drink too much alcohol or you’ll say or do something against your will;
Try to call him on his cell phone, not his home phone, otherwise both the one listening and the one speaking will feel uncomfortable if it is answered by another woman.