When a woman trusts a man completely it means that woman is stupid, and when a woman doubts a man completely it means that woman is stupid. If a woman wants to not be hurt by marriage, she has to control it; if a woman wants to grasp a man, she has to learn to play with him. Her words left me a little confused.
“My husband is sending messages late every night, and behind my back. Does he have a tendency to cheat? Is there something wrong with our marriage?” A netizen gave me a letter of self confession. In fact, I didn’t know how to comfort her, but I knew that her heart was full of insecurities.
This “insecurity” comes from society, from the vagaries of the world. There is a sense of self-preservation among strangers, and in marriage, we want to bury that sense. However, the environment around us makes us face the harsh reality again. However, I would ask the question “Your husband is the only person you can spend your life with, if you can’t even trust him and can’t rely on him, then what else can you trust?” Perhaps a woman would say, “The more you want to have someone, the more suspicious you will be, for fear that he will leave.”
“To keep someone with doubt” is obviously absurd. In fact, we all understand that it’s counterintuitive, but we also naturally accept this “unspoken rule”. It’s just that instead of a good environment, it brings us a broken life.
Insecurity raises the guard, and the heightened guard leads to extreme psychological sensitivity, and the extreme psychological sensitivity prevents women from enjoying their marriage, and the lack of enjoyment leads to disappointment in the marriage. This psychological “vicious circle” of marriage is understood by all. But very few people change.
“I know it’s wrong to doubt my husband all day long, but I just can’t help myself. I always unconsciously associate my husband’s behavior with cheating, and I’m really tired, but I can’t change it.” I’m sure there are many more women who exist in such a state of mind, and how to get yourself out of that situation is what we’re talking about today.
First of all, women must understand that if they don’t love themselves, then they are disqualified from being loved by men. One criterion for how to love yourself is to “make yourself feel happy”. Women should understand that happiness comes from creating, not giving. The more tightly you hold a marriage, the less water it will absorb.
Secondly, women should believe that there is some stability in the family that can’t be broken. “The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Finally, women should understand that family is for two people, and if one partner is faltering, either you make him firm or you give up on him. Love doesn’t exist anymore, and maintaining a relationship is a disservice to each other, so if that’s the case, why not just choose to leave?
Life is a gorgeous robe, only with lice crawling all over it. Either the lice ken your flesh, or you drive the lice away. It’s like marriage, there’s no in-between state. A happy life is a happy life, an unhappy life is an unhappy life. To make yourself happy, you must first have a happy mindset and a passion for pursuing happiness.
Let there be less doubt and more trust. Maybe the effect is tiny, but at least it will make your life easier. Instead of living a miserable life on earth, let yourself have fun in the midst of your short life.