Perhaps the most difficult decision in a relationship is choosing to let go of the person you still love so much. The process is like pushing yourself into the abyss with your own hands, and every step you take is hesitant, you want to run away, you want to turn around and say I’d rather suffer if you didn’t love me that much than hurt yourself so much.
I remember asking my sister if we would only fall in love with the right person for us, the most difficult decision in a relationship, perhaps choosing to let go of the person you still love so much. The process is like pushing yourself into the abyss with your own hands, and every step you take is hesitant, you want to run away, you want to turn around and say I’d rather suffer if you didn’t love me that much than hurt yourself so much. I still remember asking my sister, if we all only love the right person for ourselves, wouldn’t we be hurt so much? After all, it is the “unsuitability” that causes all kinds of situations, so we must force ourselves to choose to leave the person we love so much. The first thing you need to do is to let go of the person you love.
Because love has to be a two-way street
We all know that relationships It must be built on a two-way basis, and that basis should not be a false balance of you giving 100 and him taking a long time to give 1. It is always because he rarely gives, let yourself endlessly generate hope, mistakenly think that he always know to love you, but in the end is often an empty. We cherish his goodness, his specialness, and try hard to tolerate his imperfections, but occasionally we can’t help but ask, “What about him? The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
Because no matter how hard you try, he won’t love you the way you expect him to
To be ruthless with yourself and choose to let go may be to be brave enough to admit your mistakes. We finally figured out that not everyone in the world knows how to love people, and no matter how much you want to change him, how hard you want to teach him to love, the way he loves is different from you, and it will make you feel frustrated and disappointed. The way we think “for his own good” may just be arrogant, narcissistic self-righteousness, and there will always be someone in the world for him, and someone who knows how to love us will always come around.
Because it’s always just you trying to improve the relationship
In In this relationship, we see the good parts and we know it’s not perfect, but everything seems flat to him, as if there’s nothing good or bad about us, but that’s it. You keep trying and failing, you try so hard to improve, and he thinks, why bother, isn’t it good now?
Because loving him is making you lose yourself
We get so used to wanting the other person to love us that we always try to get their affirmation for everything we do and make our lives revolve around them, and over time we become so dependent that we seem to lose ourselves without them. The fact that you have become so clingy and so demanding of the other person’s response, you don’t like it either… When we realize that we have become less like ourselves, we know that leaving is the best choice, even if it is difficult.
Because it’s a gentler choice to let go
When When we ourselves do not like to become clingy ourselves, become always asking the other person to change and longing for the other person to love us, it will certainly cause pressure in his mind more or less. The most important thing is to keep on insisting that you don’t want to hurt yourself, but bring more harm to each other, and leaving is perhaps the greatest tenderness we can give.