As opposed to men who generally devote their energy mainly to work, women often have several jobs and have to balance work and family at the same time. Because of this, they are under even more psychological stress.
Who creates “stress addiction”?
1. Potential release:
Under stress, people release a lot of energy. For example, a bid that you normally couldn’t finish in two days was done in just two hours on the eve of a negotiation that was to be held overnight. For example, when an almost impossible task pressed to you, you will find yourself not only not overwhelmed, but thinking like a spring, inspiration, to come up with more ways, full of creativity, and all over the body is dry. This is the proverbial “no pressure, no motivation”. Stress can stimulate our potential, make us show up better and feel strong.
2. Pleasure experience:
Stress creates pleasure? Scientific experiments have proven that under stress, the human body secretes dopamine-like hormones, which, in turn, make us feel high. this explains why some people always like to procrastinate until the last minute, because they like the experience of stress in this extreme state. Whenever they triumphantly complete a task in the midst of tension and defeat a very restrictive condition, they experience the thrill of success once again intensely. But unfortunately, this pleasure is transient, when the pressure recedes, soon you will not be able to meet their own pleasure, must try to experience a stronger pleasure. People with stress addiction miss the pleasure of stress once they let go, because they feel so empty and have no life at all.
3. Fantasizing about the future:
When working under great stress, people paint a picture of the future in their minds in order to counteract the stress. For example, you may think, wow, this month’s bonus will be a lot; or you may think, you will be recognized as an excellent employee this quarter; or even, you may think, the revenue from this project will enable your family to travel abroad together once! It’s a joy to live in your imagination, because imagination has no limits.
4. Feeling needed:
Did your lover abandon you? It’s okay, go to work! Because there is too much work and too many colleagues in the company that need you. You’re afraid you’ll look out of place at a class reunion? Then schedule an important meeting on the day of the reunion. When you feel insecure and unwanted in a relationship, you will try to find another way to achieve self-satisfaction and feel needed. And work pressure is the easiest and most convenient way to meet that need, not only for you, but also for your colleagues.
5. The elite mindset of inferiority complex:
The real world has created more and more “elite mindsets” that strive for perfection in everything, and this is where the pressure comes from. And people who want to label themselves as “elite” no matter what have a disconfirming, low opinion of their self-worth. They have to be recognized by doing something, and to do these things perfectly, in order to prove their existence value and existence necessary. Once they are free, they worry that they are being ignored and that their existence is not valuable.
6. Parents’ high expectations in childhood:
Parents’ high expectations in childhood, judging everything about their children by achievement and honor standards, instead of paying attention to and praising their children’s efforts in the process, will gradually lead children to focus only on their own achievements as well. Children are taught that “you have to do well for me to like you”, which will be extended to “I have to do well for leaders and customers to like me” when they grow up. In a results-oriented judgment, adult children see failure and low achievement as intolerable, and must repeatedly prove themselves by succeeding to win the attention and affection of others.
Categorizing stress: Coping with stress is an important issue facing modern people, and we may rise to the occasion or run away from it. How can we find effective ways to deal with stress? We might start by categorizing stress using the “three-part approach.
(1) Stress that must be faced and dealt with at the moment
The solution: the task decomposition method, you can divide the goal into small steps, from easy to difficult, and so on, and give yourself a certain reward for each completed one. This not only improves efficiency and saves time, but also helps boost self-confidence.
(2) Ongoing stress over a period of time
Solution: A misconception that many people have about this is that total long-term stress is treated as an average daily stress. For example, a family’s total loan is $1 million and the repayment period is 20 years. If you meditate these numbers to yourself every day, then every day you are carrying this total stress of $1 million and 20 years. And in fact, we only have to face the pressure of the mortgage apportioned for one day. If you can think of it this way, you can naturally deal with it in the same way as the first type of stress, and it will feel very easy.
(3) Stress that can be ignored
Solution: Dealing with this kind of stress requires us to divert our attention, develop more hobbies and make friends in our daily life. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. As long as life is fulfilling, there will be no time for worrying.
There are ways to relieve stress addiction
1. When you realize that you are addicted to stress, stop what you are doing immediately and give yourself a few minutes to silently say “it’s okay not to do this work” a few times, and you will realize that the situation is not as bad as you thought and the world is still safe even if you stop.
2. Change the standard of assessing your value by workload and density
It is a well-known fact that absolute busyness is not more productive than a state of work and rest. Just because you do more doesn’t mean you do it well.
3. Prioritize problems
A great deal of stress comes from moving something very far away or very minor to the forefront of your mind. For example, do you have to go to the supermarket today to buy the tent you need for next weekend’s field trip?
4. Accept mistakes or failures
If you can’t accept your mistakes or failures openly, you may not be able to stop putting pressure on yourself. Why not make a small space for your mistakes or failures – accept them and you will find that they are actually not terrible because, like happiness and success, they are the gain of your mind.
5. Enrich your life
Develop long-shelved interests, find new friends, take your family on outings and vacations, and enrich your life.
6. Learn to show weakness
Even strong women should learn to show weakness, learn to talk, and let their friends and lovers share some of their worries and sorrows so that they won’t fall deeper and deeper into the mire of stress alone.
7. Listen to your inner voice
Is stress addiction a bad thing? But I’m really in the zone and enjoying it, so why should I stop? Psychologists will tell you how to analyze this feeling of “enjoyment”: if you are result-oriented, then you must intervene to relieve yourself of stress; if you are process-oriented, then enjoy yourself under stress!
Times are evolving, and so are the competitions and challenges. Stress is everywhere. The most common word you hear every day is “stressful!” To eliminate stress, we need to understand it properly!