Breakup is a very helpless thing, but now that it has happened, you have to face it bravely and leave the relationship resolutely, never drag it out, it’s not good for anyone.
Moods after a breakup
No questioning, no questioning, no Can’t protest, no room for discussion, no longer have any influence over that person, that’s a breakup. Yes, it’s a breakup. There is no disagreement, and no more being allowed to disagree.
But what about wondering how he’s doing?
If the breakup went badly, and thus contact was cut off, now I have to go online and type in his name, company, business, etc. and search for relevant pages. Got a promotion? Changed companies? Became your own boss? What clubs do you join, where do you go to events, what do you win in department store sweepstakes …… Piecing together the post-breakup history from the clues.
When you’re unlucky, there may be a message you don’t want to read – he’s married. Even so, some people still don’t give up and change from text search to image search to see what the other person’s wife looks like. Then they search for the wife’s name, wondering “what kind of woman”, “is she prettier than me”, or even “are they really in love” based on some inexplicable logic.
The anxiety fuels the potential for reasoning, like a detective on a case, with a mix of tension and excitement. The first time I met a friend with whom I had a relationship, I tried to change the subject by all means, to talk about something related to that person, just to get some information.
What do you really want to hear when you go to all this trouble?
If you hear, “He and his wife are a perfect match, and it’s beautiful!” — Immediately after hearing it, he pretended to reply carelessly, “Oh, so.” (But is that a tightening in the chest, a heartache?)
Heard: “He’s doing so well, he’s about to open his own business!” — At this point, in order to show his temperament, he says bravely, “He already has a lot of potential, so it’s no surprise.” (But there was a murmur in my head: He’s doing so well? Not even a little down from being separated from me? ……)
Or, I hear, “He doesn’t even seem to be energized, not very energetic. ” –“……” (not knowing what to say because of the contradiction between worry and snickering, but the mood has already turned over in waves: is he still thinking about me?
The most wanted news is probably, “After a few bad relationships, he used to say ‘you’re still the best’.”
In short, inquiring about whether the other person is doing well or not, whether they are still thinking about themselves …… No matter what you hear, whether you like it or not, you always have to tune in and accept it in silence. Can not ask questions, can not question, can not protest, no room for discussion, no longer have any influence on that person, this is a breakup.
Sometimes the fantasy is that he can’t let go either? The breakup did not go well? I vaguely know that I think too much, is the sign of the same person will be broken heart a second time. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. Maybe he’ll check my messages too?”
The nonsense of not being able to resist trying to make a little connection with the relationship that’s gone, the person who doesn’t belong to you, even though you’ve broken up.
This is what you should do to protect yourself and to protect him?
A breakup is a breakup, and these nagging feelings should have been thought of before the breakup. Already said that word, do not stay. Here are 15 things to do with caution:
1. Change your relationship status on social media immediately
Make sure the relationship is really over before you change it. This is a way of telling the world and telling yourself and telling him that you are really over.
2. Go on a trip right away
Go to places you’ve always
You can go to places you’ve always wanted to go and soothe your broken heart with the beauty, the food and the customs of a foreign land.
If you feel too tired to travel, delay the trip for a few months so you can enjoy it more when your emotional wounds have healed and you’re more emotionally stable.
3. Go around saying bad things about your ex
Don’t go around spreading His privacy, these negative remarks may embarrass you in the future. In fact, talking badly about him is also talking badly about yourself.
4. Become a fitness freak
The only reason to spend 4 hours a day at the gym for the sole reason that you have a personal trainer. Nothing else is worth it.
5. Spend big to blow off steam
When you get the bill at the end of the month bill at the end of the month you’re bound to regret it. If this is money you can totally afford, consider it the price of lost love.
6. Jealous of happy friends around you
Many unhappy
Many unhappy people are not necessarily jealous of their happy friends, but sometimes they have the thought, “Why can’t I have this life?” The thought of “Why can’t I have this life? Anyone wants love, happiness, and passion in their life, and if you keep a positive attitude, these will be yours someday.
7. Stuck at home without going out
Smothering at home only makes you think of the days with him and look forward to his company again. After a breakup, never stay at home and “isolate” yourself from people who care about you. Take the advice of all your friends who invite you out!
8. Go on a date with Mr. Wrong
It’s been said that The best way to heal a love wound is to start a new relationship. This is true, the problem is, you have to find the one you really feel for then. You don’t have to date the man who showed interest in you the first time you met him. Please choose your dates more judiciously.
9. Refuse to forget
Many women after a breakup are Do you really need to keep stalking your ex’s life when you’re obsessively looking for “clues” on his social media?
10. Dating out of revenge
If you’re dating your ex’s friend or someone who may have become your ex’s friend If you’re dating a friend of your ex or a man who could be a friend of your ex, it won’t help the relationship that’s gone.
11. Blame others
It’s often much easier to blame someone else than it is to admit that the relationship ended in failure. But don’t forget that some of the hurt still needs to be yours to bear.
12. Don’t give yourself time to heal
Don’t rush to fill an old relationship with A new relationship to fill an old wound, get out there and be with friends and you will be much happier.
13. Discuss your problems with others non-stop
Please Respect other people’s time and don’t get hung up on the breakup.
14. Let yourself gorge
Think food will help you sweep away your grief? Don’t dream!
15. Talk to your ex about your kids
If you break up with your spouse break up, don’t try to take the child to you; involving the child will only cause him more pain and create more problems.
Everyone walks through a breakup and learns how to better manage their love. Learning to deal with breakups and post-breakups is also a mandatory course.