A “rich man’s marriage party” with a claimed ticket of 100,000 yuan was held in a royal palace in the east of Beijing. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public. One of the male guests said in an interview, “I am 40 years old, with a double master’s degree in science from the UK, currently running a financial software company in Shanghai, while holding a US green card. I know a lot of people on the outside can’t understand why those of us who seem to be in a good position would not have girlfriends. In fact, in terms of relationships, our situation is definitely not as smooth as the outside world thinks …….”
The rich, to say they are vulnerable, seems unbelievable.
However, an event I attended not long ago unexpectedly provided some corroboration of this view.
It was a “Charming Date” event organized by China’s largest dating site, Lily.com, which was a major talent show for its high-end members to solve their marriage dilemmas. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the public to learn more about the company’s products and services. Beijing to participate in the finals. When I went there, the competition had been eliminated from the top twenty girls to ten.
What intrigued me was not the winning girls, but the rows and rows of men in suits sitting in the stands. The organizers told me that these men were the “popular judges” of the contest, and each had the right to vote. They were originally clients who came to Lily.com for matchmaking services. The judges had to be single, between 30 and 40 years old, and with an annual income of no less than 300,000.
For such a demographic, I couldn’t help but pay attention and observe.
With an outsider’s eye, the event went quite interestingly. In addition to the usual aesthetic indicators of a talent show, it was clear that there was something else going on between the “spectators” on stage and the girls on stage. These “public judges” in addition to the popular aesthetic vision of society when scoring, must be mixed with the selection criteria of the future wife. So, from time to time, there are very lively scenes in the interactive session. Some men are very active on the stage to participate, they are obviously very worldly, talk with confidence, and the name is not lack of attractive halo: IT managers, investment company executives, real estate owners, and so on. The eagerness to be happily married is evident from their enthusiastic participation.
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I’ve been focusing on marriage in recent years, and I’ve helped a lot of people get out of emotional situations, but in general, most of the people I’ve asked for help are ordinary people, and most of them are women. The first time I saw so many people with successful careers, I saw a lot of people who had been in trouble with their husbands. For the first time, it is a new experience to see so many successful men get together in earnest to solve their “marriage problems” and turn to modern matchmaking services. Do they still have the problem of “difficulty in getting married”?
What made me pay a bit of attention to the argument put forward by Lily.com that “rich people are also vulnerable” from the perspective of humanistic care for marriage, which is different from the high profile and overbearing nature of some of the most ostentatious “rich people seeking marriage” ads that people have seen in the media before. This is a far cry from the high profile and dominance shown in some of the most ostentatious “rich man seeking marriage” advertisements seen in the media. This “low profile” with flirtation is obviously a more rational statement. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the company’s customers to meet their needs.
One of the “king’s men” confessed: “It’s hard to be a boss, you’re almost closed to work. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of products and services. In these places, it is difficult to meet the right people. Also said, no time is an important reason, too rich is another inconvenient distress. These rich people really can’t see whether the other person is looking at their money or their person?
This statement is clearly persuasive. The first thing I did was to ask a question about the relationship between the two of us. He is less than 40 years old and has a fortune of more than 100 million, which in the eyes of the world can be considered a standard diamond-class king. I asked him the basic conditions for marriage, he listed several, such as young, looks, education, personality, artistic taste, family, willing to have children, and so on, not unreasonable. I also asked him which of the most repulsive items, he said jealousy can not be too strong, because the business to socialize, the wife can not be like the police supervision; In addition, the previous emotional experience is not too complicated. Next, he hesitated for a moment and said: too rich and too expensive should also be excluded. I asked why? He said: too expensive, that is, the parents have a certain official position, the recent look is good, but now the official corruption is known to all, in case it becomes a corrupt official, the future impact is too big. I nodded and asked: What’s wrong with being too rich? For you to do business is not more beneficial? He shook his head: rich again is to sleep in a bed, eat a bite of rice, people can enjoy is actually very limited. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
He told me that as a VIP member of Lily.com, the other side introduced him to a lot of good girls, but he hesitated before each blind date, and the biggest tiredness “really” was not knowing what the girls really thought of him. He said he was a little “dating anxiety”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
After the event, the organizers asked me what I thought, and a few of the Kingsmen asked me for advice. I told what I meant. Marriage is an investment in itself, and it can be a big investment that stays with you for life. Making such an important long-term investment requires not only vision, but also patience. It’s important to be fair. As long as you choose the right one, there is always a person for you in a sea of people. As for the difficulty of dating even rich people, it just shows that people nowadays can’t look at wealth with a normal heart, and the maturity of this social rationality will take time.