The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an important factor that directly affects family happiness and has been a difficult question since ancient times. How can women today please their mothers-in-law? The basic condition is to do your part first, starting from the fine, let’s take a look at what kind of daughter-in-law is most pleasing to the mother-in-law?
One, I thank my mother-in-law for bringing me such a good husband, and I want to be filial to her.
The second half of the sentence I agree, raise my hands to agree, the first half I said too pretentious, through the hypocrisy through the false, your husband also to the mother-in-law such a gratitude it, but not necessarily. Two people together, is the fate of two people. The only thing is that he still has his relatives, you also have a number of relatives, not to hold a grateful heart to who is good. Except for your own parents. The actual fact is that you will certainly be placed in a position to repay the debt, a lifelong debtor. Take your time to pay it off, there is no head.
Two, I treat my mother-in-law better than I treat my own mother. I wonder how your own mother will feel when she hears that.
If you are talking about putting on a facade, lazy to say you. If you come true, on behalf of your own mother scold you, P. A person who has reservations about his parents is no longer a filial person. In the mother’s home when the aunt, to the in-laws as a small daughter-in-law. Your parents are heartbroken, not to mention the loss of heart hurts more. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
A few words of advice for daughters-in-law, and a few words of encouragement.
Besides the above mentioned financial independence, private life, no babysitting, and your own childcare, there is the avoidance of head-on conflict. Some people say that you are talking so much nonsense is not to intensify the internal contradictions of the people, how do you still let the head-on conflict. Wrong, the key figure in the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not the two women, but the middleman, the one who keeps the air in the sandwich, but also the one who decides which direction the wind will blow, apparently, without him where the conflict comes from. Not head-on conflict is to give the man enough face, the man should be grateful if he knows and understands. The actual fact is that you may be partial to your mother to your face, but privately you will be closer to your wife. The **** mother contradict, it is the same as challenging his authority, he is not **** mother a shit pulled up, is his mother’s life continues, challenge his mother is to deny him, most men will think so, is also unbearable. It is better to be gentle, do not like the place privately with your husband, say understand their feelings, obtain this party’s understanding and support, this is your biggest victory.
And then there are the rules that need to be set before it’s too late, don’t say I didn’t remind you of that.
Some of the things you can’t tolerate are often not the big things that get in the way of the country’s livelihood, but they are the little things that drive you crazy and put you on pins and needles. For example, unannounced, prying into your couple’s boudoir, rummaging through your private belongings, listening to the phone. Men may not understand why these things can make a woman crazy, but just like some men can not tolerate others to move his car models, DVDs, this is the patent and bottom line of women. It’s best to stop these kinds of things the first few times you encounter them and state your position point of view in time. Otherwise will be when you acquiesce, and so more and more natural, you will regret it. The rules of this thing, the early establishment of the rules, the late establishment of the top fart. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
It’s also important to learn to be selectively deaf and amnesiac.
This point is the mellow part of being a person, and the openness to forgive. The mother-in-law may also have some habits that make you laugh and cry, such as washing your washed bowls again, putting your full wool and silk through the water, giving the meat stuffing through the water (this is by no means alarming, my grandmother must wash the meat stuffing my mother just finished cutting), and so on and so forth. These kinds of things, it is advisable to put up with it, the right to be invisible well, learn to listen with one ear, an ear, out of sight. Just like the work of the party, to focus on the big and small, if this matter you can not stand to be serious, can only say that your mental quality is too poor, too fine nerve endings. That is to say, non-principle issues are best to treat it with a spirit of AQ, washed, washed good ah, washed clean, so think not on it. So many years, my mother chopped meat or buy back from the outside meat stuffing to be sure to ask grandma, wash or not, ah, said wash on the good wash to go. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services.
Last but not least, your own husband manages himself.
Management is a word that is used on two levels: one, the management of life and living. If you can do it yourself, don’t leave it to others, even if it’s your mother-in-law. More work is more tired, but definitely helps to cultivate a consistent consumption concept and aesthetic sensibilities of the husband and himself. Then again, lest you suddenly have a feeling of loss of control, this feeling often comes from the loss of control of daily life. Then there is the more important, thought management, I did not let you under the compulsion to cast a spell ah. But it is very important to communicate more with your husband to keep track of his thoughts and adjust them if necessary.
1. The first thing to establish is that the couple’s income is common property, and neither party is free to dispose of it, while the other party has the right to know, advise, and even veto. This point is too important, the reason for no nonsense it. It’s time to give money to, but don’t hide it from me to give, and to do so in moderation, knowing exactly what the money will be used for when finances allow.
2. Again, the unpleasant parts of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along should be said to the husband, must be said, or that reason, men are thick-headed, you do not say he when you default, everything is OK, then we continue. You cry, say also to be careful way, do not move, * * * * is a small citizen, * * * how that ah. There are things to say, do not personally attack. But be sure to argue based on reason, touching their own fundamental issues do not compromise. Let your husband know that you are angry, that you stand by your opinion, that you are not a soft touch.
3. Don’t be accustomed to a man who calls you like a ****ing mother, he calls ****ing when he says he does, and develop a man’s ability to take care of himself and his sense of responsibility.
4. When you encounter a big conflict, show your bottom line, I am filial **** all because of you, not because of you I would not know ****. Do not think that I should be anything, the world in addition to their own parents, no one is supposed to be good to anyone. The first thing you need to do is to be a good friend. The feelings are reciprocal, do not want to pick up a filial daughter-in-law for nothing and not pay anything, why ah? That later raised daughters are strangled to death, anyway, eat and drink twenty years sooner or later is someone else’s cattle. Good for your family depends on how the other party to themselves, not just how to him. Nonsense, **** of course to you. And it depends on even for the husband will not be a person. The basic premise of being reasonable is that there is no harm in being spirited, not so selfless and patient, and no one will give you a monument to your death.