Did you know? The divorce rate is at a record high every year, and the contemporary view of marriage is undergoing a sea change. No settling, no compromise, no muddling is the principle of choosing a spouse for young people, and before we get married, we should calmly think about what kind of partner we need, whether we understand each other, and whether trust is sufficient.
1. Stable financial income is the support for marriage and harmony. strong>Guarantee
We all know that the economic foundation determines the superstructure, marriage is not a child’s play, it bears the happiness and future of two families, perhaps you may feel that talking about money is too materialistic and the innocence of love is lost. But thousands of families over prove that poor couples are sad, most of the quarrels between couples are because of money, no stable surplus income material satisfaction, it is difficult to have free romance.
It is not unreasonable to say that a marriage is a marriage between two families that are too far apart to get along will be contradictory, from disputes over consumption ideas, gaps in social groups, to differences in perceptions and values, all of which will become stumbling blocks in future marriages, even though love in literature is so unbridled, but marriage is ultimately the grave of simple love, which is sometimes so realistic as to make people
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2.Emphasize your needs and plans before you marry
A friend of mine is determined to be a dink and not have children. She discussed this with her boyfriend, but got married without the approval of both parents.
After the marriage, the man’s family heard that they didn’t want to have children, they strongly disagreed, and after a year of stalemate, they finally forced the man to file for divorce, and my friend became a second wife and wasted a year of her youth.
3.Things have seen the hearts of people for a long time, the world has seen the character of people
Psychological research shows that people in love will become stupid
The first time I saw a woman, I was in love with her, and I was in love with her, and I was in love with her, and I was in love with her, and I was in love with her, and I was in love with her.
The person who pursues you should rightly be nice to you, after all, he has the need to get you, but just because someone is nice to you doesn’t mean that person is a good person, and just because someone is nice to you when they are in love doesn’t mean they will be the same in the future.
To observe a person’s character one should look at his attitude towards others, whether he treats the weak with compassion, whether he treats small animals with love, whether he treats his friends sincerely and honestly, whether he treats strangers with courtesy, whether he treats his parents with filial respect, whether he is unable to relieve his negative emotions ……
The most basic of these small things, precisely the most reflective of a person’s quality, if a person is just good to you, but the attitude of the people around you is worse, then when the day the veneer of love is removed, life is only wood and salt, you will regret your momentary obscurity, remember, in the matter of choosing a spouse, choice is more important than effort.
4. Live together before marriage, to verify the relationship of a relationship.
Some people say that the best way to see if someone is right for you is to go on a trip together, because in the process of traveling, you can see how both partners view spending, whether they can plan their trip wisely, and whether they can still give their other half enough patience during the exhausting road trip, so a trip together can reveal a person’s flaws that are not usually apparent.
The same is true for premarital cohabitation.
It can be argued that humans are the most disguised and lying animals in the world, and that everyone has two faces in front of and behind the scenes.
Naturally, when you are dating, you dress cleanly and act cordially and elegantly, but this is only the most superficial part of a person, and you have to live together to try to understand more. The key is for you to gauge whether you can tolerate each other through bonding or choose to give up, and not to wait until after marriage to find out that the other party is completely different from what you thought.
5. The most comfortable way to get along is to talk
There are many factors that influence a relationship, but In my opinion, it is most important to talk.
Think about it: Isn’t it delightful that you and your partner can talk endlessly together, that you both have a good time, that you have something to say every day, that you can share something funny, and that you share a laugh?
On the contrary, couples who don’t have anything to talk about, the whole atmosphere of the family is cold and depressing, and this can lead to a dilution of the relationship, and the reality is that there are countless relationships that go to the abyss in this cold environment.
And chatting shows that you share similar outlooks, common hobbies, and similar experiences, all of which are guarantees of a long-lasting relationship, a heart-to-heart, a meeting of the minds, and a spiritual companionship.
In the process of choosing a spouse, chatting is a test, and it’s a good thing to meet someone you can chat with until you grow old.
6. You need to sign a work agreement before marriage
Just like you need to sign a work agreement at work, you need to sign a work agreement before marriage, and the Marriage Act is the most basic protection for our marriage, but in life together, there are more moral and ethical conflicts that give us headaches. The most important thing is that you have to be able to make sure that you are not compromising your marriage, and that you have some principles that will not change because of life changes.
For example, the question of mental and physical cheating, the question of how many children to have, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the arrangement of the bride price and wedding, the assumption of family responsibilities, the respective habits of life, and so on.
The covenant is a mutual agreement, not an unequal treaty. Only mutual respect and compromise are the flavor enhancers of the family, and the strong dominance of either party will only bring the marriage to a dead end.
Lastly I would like to say, in this troubled world, , , to meet people who like each other andpeople who like each other and have tacit understanding, and getone person to accompany in a sea of people, it’s hard to getone person to accompany, one person knows each other, never let love lose out to getting along, so please make sure you treasure, Be sure to cherish!