As the novelty of love passes, some people feel that married life is bland and boring. Watching the men and women on various short videos and TV shows, they are able to maneuver between their lovers and partners in all kinds of ways, waves and dashes, so they want to experience this life themselves.
The man who cheats in marriage is actually not because of love
The man who cheats in marriage is actually not very much in love with that woman, and he does not want to destroy his marriage and marry her, men are very much disgusted with the trouble, so in fact, most of the man’s mind is thinking about how to possess this woman for a longer time, but once the novelty is over, he will turn around and leave without mercy. The man who cheats in marriage, he is actually seeking freshness and excitement.
Our society has been a patriarchal society since ancient times, and in the past men could have more than one woman, but women could not, and ancient society required women to abide by the so-called three virtues. Simply count from the founding of the country, our new generation life has just gone 71 years, compared to women, for men’s extra-marital affairs, society in general or more tolerant. The physiologically speaking, most men have the original urge to “want to pass on their genes”, which will not change because of the change of society, which is also destined to men more inclined to seek novelty and excitement. A common excuse for men having an affair is: “I made the same mistakes that men make.” , In that sense, those men who can stay together in a marriage for the rest of their lives truly love that woman and family.
When given enough opportunities, men will cheat
Some people have made the extreme assumption that if there was a woman who was with you, who didn’t require you to take any responsibility and had no impact on your marriage, would you cheat on that woman? Not surprisingly, men would love to have such a cheating partner, this is an informal anonymous survey, but it is also true: men have a “genetic urge to pass on” the original impulse. In other words, as long as there are enough opportunities, men will cheat, the difference is that the object of the affair, in the end, how much temptation is needed to make him put the idea of cheating into reality. The man who cheats in marriage, he is actually gambling, using his wife’s love as a bet, as a bargaining chip for him to win the novelty and excitement.
The greater the man’s ability, the greater the chance of cheating
As mentioned above, as long as there are enough opportunities, men will cheat. When a man is successful and has more social resources, then his circle of life will definitely change and he is destined to meet more women, which of course will not be short of women full of temptations for him to cheat. The marriage relationship is actually a balanced relationship, the balance of the scales in favor of which side, there will be problems, in favor of the male side, the man will have the decision control in the marriage, then he also has the conditions for cheating. The man who cheats in marriage, in fact, he is looking at the situation of his own marriage before the actual cheating behavior, he understands himself, even if divorce, the loss to himself will be within his reach, men are actually very rational creatures, in general, he will only put something into action if the outcome is controllable.
The purpose of writing this article is to let people understand the relationship of marriage through love, which is actually a kind of game, not married people, is to jump out of this game of people, extramarital affairs is nothing more than a marriage game won the party, driven by their own curiosity, to seek a primitive exciting impulse.
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