Many women tend to gnash their teeth at men’s “virginity”, especially when some men can’t be virgins themselves, but require their significant others to be virgins, leaving many women depressed. Those who have a virginity complex of men are how to think about it? The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do.
A. The psychology of men with “virginity complex”
1. Lack of self-confidence
He subconsciously fears that he is not strong enough to be the loser of the battle and therefore refuses to be compared. When a lover has sexual experience with other men, the potential danger of sexual comparison looms over him and becomes a huge stressor.
2. Men’s desire to conquer
Since the beginning of time, men’s world is inseparable from women. The world of men is inseparable from that of women. Even a man with a very successful career, his perfection and prestige is also needed for the beauty to set the scene. So, this kind of man will not be able to resist the desire to get a body and mind are completely and utterly belong to their own woman. Because, this has so when they will feel their life without any regrets. And, there will be a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction of conquest. The reason is that they think that marrying a woman who is already committed to another man is the same as putting on a big cuckold for themselves.
3, fear, insecurity
Partners who have If a partner has another man’s sexual imprint on her, she is afraid that she will already be someone else’s private property. It is only safe to eliminate these possibilities, and the feeling of possessing everything about a lover, past and present and future, removes fear and satisfies the need for security.
4. Life’s subconscious influences
Practically, as life The actual fact is that with the rapid development of life, some new age men are not too concerned about the tiny hymen of a woman at heart, they pay more attention to the process and feeling of love between the two of them. However, due to the life of people’s infinite fervor for virginity very blind worship, as well as the media on a variety of virgin voyage, virgin show, virginity, etc. on the so-called first big publicity subliminally the abnormal precious. And make them have to change their original concept, gradually also have a strong interest in virginity.
5, feudal superstition
About virginity, folk There is also a feudal saying called punching the happy, that is, when someone in the family is critically ill or has poor luck or backhandedness and insufficient yang energy through punching the happy to raise the yang energy and improve the luck or health of the body. This was originally a folk feudal superstitious practice to exorcise illnesses and demons by holding a happy event in order to turn crisis into peace, but now it has gradually been evolved by some men to buy the wind of the place. And, the trend is getting stronger. Because, in the hearts of these men, they strongly superstitious virginity will bring them good luck, can make them not only career smooth, will make them healthy, long life. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
6, the pursuit of perfection
Relationship history and partners should not have flaws. Such a person is also picky and critical in his daily life and work, demanding too much in everything, and his own stress is heavy.
How can a man adjust his mind if he has a “virginity complex”?
1.Recognize the nature of things
The so-called virgin, is a woman who has no sexual experience, to say that the physiological changes are simply that membrane. The man cares not this membrane, but “experience”, is present in her brain for those sexual experience of memory. What the man cannot accept is not the membrane of the woman, but his possessiveness cannot tolerate the fact that the woman still has sexual experiences with other men in her mind. As a result of determining that due to the presence of these memories in her head, his love is imperfect and very imperfect. Because sex is the main thing that a woman gives to a man. It is true that virginity is valuable, but there is nothing wrong with non-virginity! As long as one is serious about giving affection, it is natural to give the body; no one knows if it is worth paying at the time, no one has to be responsible for a future, unknown person, and no one is born destined to be another person. Only by allowing a man to recognize this essence can he subconsciously not resist non-virginity and be at peace with the fact.
2. Face up to your girlfriend’s love for you
When men are not confident, they actually fail to see clearly: the fact that their girlfriend still chooses to be with them after having a relationship proves that in her mind, no other man is as good as this man. When a man feels the regret that a non-virgin has imperfection, he should look at himself, and can not always be perfect, spotless, he will also have other aspects of shortcomings. Rather than being unable to unwind from the pressure of seeking perfection, it is better to accept some regrets and focus on the joy of enjoying other strengths.
3 Understand, tolerate, and cherish each other
Two people working together To go through life is not only to love each other’s strengths, but also to understand her weaknesses and tolerate her past. The most important thing is to learn to cherish love through experience and have the ability to make the marriage happy. It is not appropriate to let the “past” ruin the pleasant “present”, and a hymen is not more important than a lifetime of marital happiness.
4. Recognize your own flaws
When a man feels the regret of not being a virgin have regrets about not being perfect, they should look at themselves. They can’t always be perfect and spotless either, and they will have flaws in other areas. Rather than being unable to unwind from the pressure of seeking perfection, it is better to accept some regrets and focus on the pleasure of enjoying other strengths.