The pursuit of love is an important mission for women. The first thing that you need to do is to have the love of your partner, but love yourself is also a prerequisite for love.
To know how to love, you have to love yourself first. The first thing you need to do is to know how to love yourself, and how to live your life with flavor and interest. Similarly, such a person in love with others, but also the two people will operate a very taste of the relationship. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
Some people say that lovers, aren’t they brave enough to go after whoever they like and give everything for them? This statement is only half right. Bravery is indeed a prerequisite for harvesting love, if not action, will only be foolish in waiting for love to come, then will only watch their love towards the arms of others. This half is right. To give everything for him is to love, this half is wrong. I believe there are many examples of this now, where a woman gives everything she has for a man, gives what she has, and in the end gets separated.
If only a small percentage of men did this, we would spit on the man. When this phenomenon is very popular, we in addition to spit on and despise this man, should not think about this way of loving people, right? Why do so many couples end up with the same sentence after going through such a similar process.
In the beginning, a woman who gives endlessly to a man will be thanked and heartbroken by him. But there is an expectation contained in the person’s giving to the lover. She expects him to respond, and to respond in the perfect way she would like to receive, because she feels that I have given so much for you, given everything I have, and your response, is the payment I should receive. Perhaps this process will be expressed in words, actions, or she has not expressed so, but this implied meaning, the man received. What is important to know is that loving someone, the other party does not necessarily have a response. Even if there is a response, it is hard to guarantee that it is in line with what the giving party meant, let alone a perfect response.
When this request is not met, it slowly becomes a pressure put on the man. It is sometimes not the man’s fault that he cannot give the perfect response that the woman expects. That way there is no possibility of it becoming right, so how does that pressure get out of the way?
Also, people who are always accommodating to others slowly become impersonal and unprincipled in front of their loved ones. The charm of a person comes from his personality in addition to his appearance. Such accommodations will also make women slowly lose their attractiveness in front of their lovers. When problems accumulate, breakups become an inevitable consequence.
So don’t just resent the man. Such resentment does not help matters. Men are at fault and so are women. The woman used the wrong way to love him. So, don’t be accommodating, know how to love yourself first, cherish yourself, the man will cherish you. As the old saying goes, self-respect and self-love are the only way to get love.
Love is a kind of knowledge that can be sought, can be learned, and can make our lives a little more comfortable. And all love knowledge is feasible, not for showing off, I only speak with the principle that I can do it. It’s hilarious to write and read, and in a flash it’s fly-by-night. We don’t have to waste time making such sad laughs, do we?
One of the common sense aspects of love is that love can be given up, that one’s freedom and happiness are above love. When some form of love thinks it can take precedence over freedom and pleasure, it becomes love compulsion, love coercion. For example, it is thought that love must have the form of heterosexual marriage, so that homosexuals will be parasitic in marriage by deception; for example, it is thought that love must make parents and elders happy, given that unclear parents and elders are predominant, so that the two people in love will be reduced to sexual slaves to please the elderly, when to have sex, when to reproduce, all become public events. Such examples are not uncommon in Chinese society, and perhaps some people do not think so, but living in a public arena is also a kind of dissipation and harm to the couple’s feelings, which is not the principle of love.
Love begins with loving yourself. One of the most famous teachings of the Bible is “Love your neighbor as yourself,” so pray that you have a beautiful woman living next door so that this commandment will not be broken, and if this altruistic dogma is difficult to do, at least it shows that all love begins with yourself. Love yourself in order to love your neighbor, love yourself in order to love your lover, love yourself in order to have love. Everything that makes you not love yourself is not what love should be. Love is a very empty two-letter word, so that it can be exploited by bad people who use the name of love to pressure people and force you to do things that don’t love yourself.
“Shit, big deal to live alone” is the perceived premise of getting love, not two people to feel like pariahs, and that gets exploited. In fact, there is no saying that it has to be two people. There is no “big deal a person over” the courage, in this cloud of people, and even people obscene also obscene in the uninteresting society, into an uninteresting lowly people, with great social pressure, that is the logical end. In China, this traditional pressure, family pressure, thinking pressure, vanity pressure, personal existence value of small “four small” reality, to have a bit of their own love, not the courage to follow the crowd is the first. If we have more women like this, love will evolve and we won’t be simply repeating ourselves forever.
I’ve always been quite fond of Duchamp. He said, “I realized at some point that one doesn’t have to be overburdened and do too much in life, that one doesn’t have to have a wife, children, a house, a car; fortunately I realized this fairly early, which allowed me to live a single life for a long time. In this way, my life is much easier than the usual life of people who have a wife and children. Fundamentally, this is the main principle of my life. So I feel happy, I have not had any serious illnesses, no depression, no nervous breakdowns. Also, I don’t feel the pressure of having to make something happen, painting is not a pressure for me to come up with a product, or to express myself.” To translate his philosophy to relationships, it’s about not having the pressure of having to love, and that relaxed state is what gives you the ace in the hole.
He also said, “Don’t be stereotyped in aesthetic form, don’t be stereotyped in form or a certain color …… My art is about being alive: every second, every every breath is a work.”
In the same way, let’s not be stereotyped by love. Our most protoform love is to live and not forget to love ourselves every second and every whoop.