In most people’s minds, men are synonymous with being strong, but under a lot of pressure, even the “tough guy” can’t hold up. A study of American men found that 1/3 of adult men have sexual anxiety problems. The main cause of male sexual anxiety is too much “sexual burden”, which is reflected in the following areas.
First, men are forced to take on too much “work” in their sex lives. In the eyes of women, a sexually qualified man, both to understand the style of romance, but also to have the skills to take the initiative; both to give her gentle foreplay, but also know how to powerful attack; both to take her into the climax, but also can not lack the warmth afterwards …… sex is a matter of two couples, if the woman is always passive to enjoy, let the man bear everything, then the husband will feel the invisible pressure. That husband will feel the invisible pressure. The occasional mistake can make them anxious and worried that something is wrong “there”.
Second, some of the wife’s mindless nagging can put a burden on men and kill their sex drive. “My colleague’s husband earns twice as much as you do every month” “I work at home and abroad, you’re useless.” These will invariably add pressure to the man, making it difficult for him to raise sexual interest. During sex, women’s words are more likely to make men hurt, such as men ask: “Is this good?” The fact that the wife said “it’s okay” or “you can’t do it,” may make the man lay a psychological hazard, and even cause erectile dysfunction.
Once again, the stress of work and being busy all day makes it impossible for men to concentrate on sex. The famous American psychologist Lauren B. Aloi authored the “psychology of perversion” proposed that work is too busy, promotion pressure, smoking and drinking socializing will make the man to sex flawless. The enormous stress of life can bring on anxiety and keep men from concentrating on sex.
Lastly, financial problems and lower incomes can bring men a sexual burden. A large British survey found that the higher the income the more concerned about sex and the higher the number and quality of sex lives. If men are struggling financially while the woman is too strong, men feel like failures and naturally lose confidence when having sex.
In this case, women should stop acting as a saboteur of men’s sexuality and help him to “lighten the load”. On the one hand, women are active during sex, and will be good feelings timely feedback to him. On the other hand, both couples should not mix work achievements with family life. Try to say as little as possible to discourage men’s confidence. Finally, take a vacation at the right time, travel together and relive the feeling of love.