“It’s so hard to communicate with my mother-in-law, whatever she says doesn’t sound good to her. …… “Many daughters-in-law have a big head when they talk about their mother-in-law. In their minds, the mother-in-law is like the Jurassic era, then carefully talk will also coldly offend her. In fact, to summarize, there are three types of words that mothers-in-law should not listen to, as long as they can subtly change their words, many quarrels can be avoided in the invisible.
“Mom, you don’t understand ……”
This is the most common fear young daughters-in-law say when dealing with household chores or caring for small children. But want to avoid war? Then stop quickly, because this kind of talk hurts the elderly most, although it may be true that she does not understand. Modern appliances she does not know how to make, modern parenting methods she has not heard of, modern society in the world of people she can not understand, but all this does not mean that she is not capable, knowledgeable, and does not affect her own son and grandson. But your “you don’t understand” completely excludes her from the whole thing, no less than telling her plainly: “You don’t know anything, so don’t get involved.” So it might be a good idea to say “Mom, please tell me ……”
“My son (my daughter) ……”
Many loving mothers of babies often The mother can’t help but say “my son how how”, “my baby how how” in front of the mother-in-law, this side of the mother called sweet honey, but the mother-in-law listened to the heart will be greatly dismayed, “what my son I son, the baby is still my old Li family’s grandson it ……” such with a strong sense of belonging to the “my son” called originally is not wrong, but it is easy to make the mother-in-law feel a sense of crisis, as if the child and the grandparents have nothing to do. The company’s main goal is to provide a strong sense of belonging to the family.
In the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, it is precisely these kinds of words that have a strong referential scope that can lead to war. So it’s a good idea to call “your grandson (your granddaughter) ……”
“Your mother ……”
Can you spill your guts in front of your mother-in-law than your own mother is infinitely more forgiving can you? If you make a mistake, can your mother-in-law say, “What a silly child”? The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
But it’s amazing how things work. Even though your mother-in-law doesn’t treat you like her own daughter, she still gets a little upset when she hears you call her “your mom” behind her back. After all, this “your mother” has actually indicated your attitude towards her – “this is your mother, not my mother, don’t expect me to treat her as my own mother”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.