People say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is one of the most difficult relationships in the world. But in fact, in a sense, the real mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship begins only after you have children. The two of us have been in the world together for a long time, and most of the time we go to see the old man every weekend or half a dozen days to make him happy, but after we have a child, because we have to take care of the child, the two of us are in the same place every day, and in the middle is a clear and innocent little child, that day, it is really full of flavors.
Three ways to instantly fix your nagging mother-in-law
One, hire a babysitter
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My friend, Zhang Shan, is a teacher at a university and her mother-in-law was a cadre in an organization before she retired.
With half a year of maternity leave coming to an end, Zhang Shan had to go back to school, and she and her mother-in-law had been taking care of the baby before.
Zhang Shan made several trips to the nanny market and finally found a nanny that she liked. The company is also ready to let people come to the house the next day, the mother-in-law heard, immediately blocked back, said no, outside people I can not trust, or let the aunt back home to come.
After a few days, my aunt came.
The first day she arrived, she gave Zhang Shan a hard time: at night, after the family gave the baby a bath and dried him off with a towel, they were getting ready to get dressed, when her aunt saw a lot of water on the bathroom floor and picked up the baby’s bath towel and started wiping the floor.
Zhang Shan timidly reminded, “Auntie, this is the baby’s bath towel!” But aunt returned a sentence: “I know, wipe the floor after washing on the line, which so delicate!” The first time I saw it, I was shocked and couldn’t say anything.
After that, my aunt’s assertive personality was evident, such as when the baby sleeps, what she eats, and how much she eats, making Zhang Shan a part-time mother, and she talked to her mother-in-law about changing her aunt.
While her mother-in-law also felt that her aunt was not listening to her, she said, “How can I do that? I’ll just talk about her later.”
There was no choice but to let Zhang Shan go.
They are not the only ones who have been in the market for a long time.
It turns out that, as my husband told me, my aunt not only doesn’t listen to Zhang Shan, but also doesn’t listen to my mother-in-law< at home, and the two of them have been arguing in the house every day for a week, which finally made the old lady angry.
Hot Mom Chattering: This incident at Zhang Shan’s house is a real-life version of “Double-sided Adhesive”, so art is really from life and above life.
It’s also true that there are so many reports of evil nannies, such as letting the children gnaw on their feet after their parents go to work, or taking the dolls out to play and putting them aside to play with their own little sisters, which makes people fearful of nannies. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do.
So it’s understandable that Zhang Shan’s mother-in-law insisted on hiring a relative. But to invite an old life of such an advanced age, that is questionable, and there is indeed a question of who directs whom.
Here, we might as well all make a concession: Zhang Shan promised her mother-in-law to invite a relative from her old family, but asked her mother-in-law to better identify a younger, distant relative who would not only talk better but also have more energy to take care of the baby.
II. Diapers
To ease her mother-in-law’s burden, Li Shi The decision to use diapers for the baby. The mother-in-law, once she saw the thick pile of stuff, was immediately upset, saying: “What is this stuff, oh, so expensive, not breathable at all, the baby’s buttocks are composted. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
In fact, Li Shi is not a big spender, but she can’t afford to spend what she needs.
Because both Li Shi and her husband work during the day, her mother-in-law is the only one who takes care of the baby at home.
When her mother-in-law saw the thick pile of stuff, she immediately got upset and said, “What is this stuff? It’s so expensive, it doesn’t breathe at all, and the baby’s bottom is going to compost after using it.
Where are the diapers better, they are cotton and soft.” At the end of the day, he also said to the two families of Li Shi, “Now the child is still small, the future with money is a lot of places.” The two families had a face of ash.
There was no choice but to comply with her mother-in-law. The two families were definitely embarrassed to bother their mother-in-law again at night, so they had to sleep with them themselves.
However, the little baby was so good at defecating that it would defecate at least four or five times a night, so the two of them just fell asleep, and oh ho, they peed again.
After a month, the two of them were as pale as a vegetable, with bags under their eyes hanging like landmarks, and they didn’t look good at work, and the leaders had said so several times.
The two families could not stand it, and in order to keep the powdered milk money, they quietly clip up the baby’s diaper every night before bedtime. I didn’t see any abnormalities. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Hot mom chatter: older people are more frugal, and in their day, they didn’t use any diapers, but they brought up their son, your husband, with a bunch of diapers every day.
So, in their eyes, diapers are a good thing, not only soft, but also with her plump young breath back then.
It’s true that you can’t get up several times a night to put the diaper on your baby like she did back then, so please be considerate of your poor son and daughter-in-law, too.
Three, buying clothes
Wang’er suddenly found a problem — Baby’s clothes don’t always fit so well. Every time I buy new clothes, I follow my mother-in-law’s instructions and buy one size larger. The first time I saw it, it was too big; the next year, some of them were too small.
Every time I bought clothes for my baby, my mother-in-law would first ask the price, and when she heard it was a hundred dollars, her face would fall, and when she looked at the size, she couldn’t hold it down anymore:
Coldly said: “You can wear this dress, only this season, next year simply do not want to wear. Also so expensive, you are hard to spend money oh.” The original joyful Wanger immediately fell into an ice hole.
Learning a lesson, from now on, every time Wanger bought clothes for her baby, she asked her mother-in-law what to buy to buy a good size to discuss with her, and during that time, the two simply reached a harmonious coexistence of the “honeymoon period “
But it didn’t last long. Six months later, Wanger suddenly noticed a problem – the baby’s clothes didn’t always fit so well. Because every time I bought new clothes, I followed my mother-in-law’s instructions and bought them one size too big.
When we bought them, they were too big; when we waited for the next year, some of them were too small, and some of them were out of the market without even being worn.
In this way, not only did we not save money, but the baby also looked like an unloved child, wearing a piece of clothing that was either too big or too small all day long, which made Wanger feel very bad.
Wang’er had to talk to her mother-in-law, saying that nowadays we only have one child, so we should use what we have and spend what we have, and if we don’t dress her up now, we won’t have a chance later, unlike before when you had a second and third to make up for it.
Mother-in-law is not an unreasonable person, she’s just used to being frugal all her life, and with the facts out there, she didn’t say anything.
Now, when she goes to the mall, she is more impulsive than Wanger when she sees beautiful children’s clothes, and often when Wanger is still weighing them, she has already done it, causing Wanger to joke that she is a real “shopaholic.
Hot mom chatter: Wang Er is really blessed to have such a mother-in-law, and if I could meet such a mother-in-law, it would be a dream to laugh. I’ll tell you my story and you’ll see how lucky you are.
One winter, I came back from a business trip, and as soon as I entered the door, I was preparing my daughter for a bear hug, when I suddenly found my daughter wearing a cotton jacket, a cotton cummerbund around her waist, and two cupolas tied around her head, watching TV in the living room with a mountain of flowers, which I had purposely bought for daughter to buy.