Marriage is different from love. Marriage is sometimes always fragmented by trivial things, and even if there is love, there is not always a marriage, and marriage is simply not as good as love.
Remember a touching story: He met her on a train, he sat across from her, and he was a painter. He had been painting her, and when he gave her the drawing, they realized that they lived in the same city as each other. Two weeks later, she decided that he was the love of her life.
That year, she was a bride, and it felt like a dream come true. However, life after marriage is like a match that has been struck, and after polishing it, there is no more light. He was unconventional, not clean, not good at socializing, he admired freedom, like unrestrained, although she was good like the lamb of God, but he still felt that marriage bound him. But they still love each other, and he is of good character and never dabbles in sex.
She divorced him with tears in her eyes, but took the keys to the house with her. He no longer cares about his unkempt hair, what time he rests, where he goes and who he is with, but just goes about tidying up his room and cleaning up the junk as always. He is also used to her intermittent visits and loves her more romantically than he did in his marriage, what with candlelight dinners, hiking trips, and beds of roses, none of which she feels in a love marriage, but in the present. They are no different from husband and wife, except that the big red marriage certificate has become a dark green divorce certificate.
Then he finally became a famous artist, and the foot-high piles of drawings turned into dozens and dozens of flowery bills, which she helped him run and managed and spent. They lived like that until he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
But stories are always stories, and they don’t always happen in life, but they can give us inspiration: how many marriages exist when love doesn’t exist, and how many marriages remain when love doesn’t exist? When love is there, we have to maintain happy marriages with confidence, because stories are stories and don’t always happen.
In fact, marriage is a lifelong “meal” that requires the energy of a doctor to care for it, not just make up for it on a holiday. In response, American marriage expert Hugh Campbell has put together a list of helpful suggestions on how to make the best of married life.
Daily Preservation
Marital harmony lies in daily lubrication. From time to time, helping each other to do even a very small thing will make each other feel your love all the time. The first thing you should do is to get up a few minutes before the other person gets up and prepare breakfast; remember to squeeze the toothpaste for the other person as well; make “hard work” your mantra when your wife has prepared a nice dinner or when your husband leaves work in the dust.
Weekly Maintenance
Schedule at least one conversation between the two of you no less than twice a week to promote communication. to promote communication with each other. For example, you can go out to dinner together, see a movie or play together, walk somewhere hand in hand and talk while you walk, or do something else that interests both of you.
Monthly Maintenance
Surprising each other by doing something different from The other side can experience new feelings and make the love burst again. For example, if it’s usually the woman who does the dishes, then one day the man can compete to do it; and if it’s always the man who does the cooking, the woman can take a day off to show her hand.
A temporary separation will make the other person just miss themselves. You can find a weekend during the month to meet and chat with good friends, have your wife visit her parents’ family or girlfriends, and maybe come home in the evening to a surprise discovery.
Annual overhaul
You’ve done the year-end summary at work, but I’m afraid most of you haven’t done a year-end summary of your family life. In fact, together with your wife, you can read over past love letters to rekindle the fires of love and affection; then write a new one, with a frank and bold declaration of love and romantic plans for the future, and send it off – even if you are together.
A good relationship should be based on a certain tacit understanding that you don’t have to express it to understand each other’s feelings, and that mutual respect and appreciation is the highest level for couples to get along.