Nowadays, the society is full of beautiful women, and there are goddesses everywhere, when men meet the goddess of their choice, they will guess what the goddess said in the end, why the goddess does not like to chat with me, a chat is cold. In fact, it boils down to a problem, is that you do not understand the psychology behind the goddess speak. Or, we always follow our own set of logic to speculate on the girl’s words, but how to speculate is not right. The problem is that you can’t understand the psychology behind it. Here are the top three tips for chatting with a goddess:
One of the top three tips for men to chat with a goddess
Calm and slow
Speaking too fast is one of the most common and deadly chatting mistakes, which not only makes others unintelligible, but also gives the impression that you are
The most common and deadly chatting mistake is to talk too fast.
It’s still possible to talk too fast in social situations without realizing it. Be sure to monitor yourself at all times and take a breath to slow down when you find yourself speaking too fast. Just like raising the volume, it may take a while for your internal “mixer” to adjust to the pace. You may think you’re boring people, but you’re not. People who talk too fast often find that even if they slow down to a tortoise-like pace, they still talk faster than everyone else in the room.
Changing the mantra
Many people in conversation will habitually say a lot of the same mantra they normally say. This is the great enemy of confidence.
Try this exercise before reading on: Record your conversation with a friend. Play the recording and write out every word you said, word for word, and see what you write. And “honestly”, “I think” or “that”, “actually” …… Saying too many of these words wastes a lot of time and can be a bore during the conversation.
We say these meaningless words in conversation for several reasons: like leaving spaces to think about what to say next while grabbing the other person’s attention, and like a sonar system to make sure people understand or agree with what you’re saying. Do you know what these superfluous words actually signal to others? It’s weakness. A pause doesn’t lose the other person’s attention. Even if you’re weak, you still need to speak with great confidence. In fact, the way you communicate is more important than what you say.
Listen to the conversation you recorded for ten minutes. Write down every mantra that was said and read it out loud until it’s stuck in your head so you can remind yourself of it when you speak later.
Energize your voice
Is your voice vibrant and does it draw the listener into the world you’re describing? Or is the tone dull and easily distracting to the listener? If it’s the latter, turn on the TV and find a male host, harmonizer or anchor you like and listen to him. Pay attention to every fascinating detail and difference in his tone. Notice how he presents the content, how he brings out energy, warmth and attention. Then try to repeat his words with the same words, intonation and style. When you feel you’ve mastered some of his traits, use the techniques you’ve just learned to read them again into the recorder. Try changing the volume, pitch, speed, timbre, rhythm and flow. Try emphasizing different words, creating deliberate pauses, shortening or lengthening single words, and speaking in different voice accents. Read it a few times, whatever helps you break through the limitations, and don’t be afraid to look dumb.
Persuasive speakers end their sentences with a decisive tone. If your narrative ends on a raised note, re-record it. This time be firm, not like a question that begs for confirmation, but a narrative sentence that shows firm conviction. Be careful not to turn to irrelevant nonsense and repetitive words, but to lead to a clear and strong conclusion. As soon as you know what you’re talking about and believe every word you say, you’re done.
Practicing fixing your bad intonation is a process that you have to stick to, and you may feel that it’s not necessary or that it’s a bit hard, but it’s okay.
They’re not the only ones who’ve made the effort.
Two, what kind of first impression should be left on the goddess
1, I think the most crucial thing is to let mm see your motivation.
The biggest charm of a man is to have a successful career, and young people don’t work long enough to talk about “success”, so you have to let mm think you are a motivated person.
You can talk nonsense about anything else, but you can’t be vague on this issue. You must tell your mm that you are confident about the future, you are not satisfied with the status quo, and you have a long term plan, in short, your future is not a dream.
2. To appear confident and responsible
Don’t be like a child, girls are lazy hoping to find someone to rely on, you have to show your confidence and responsibility.
It’s better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.
3. Don’t be too serious, but don’t be too casual either
Where it’s serious, it’s serious, and when it’s time to flirt, it’s time to flirt.
Girls like men who are a bit cynical, so don’t seem to care about anything in particular, that’s too dull.
4. Look mature
A man who is calm and unhurried is a fatal attraction to women.