The old saying that the wise wife husband woe is less, the flip side of this saying is that marrying the wrong wife the lighter will make their side of the chicken and dog, the heavier pitted themselves and the people around them oh. Couples as the most intimate relationship, the two of them on each other’s influence speaks for itself. The scary thing is that if you get the wrong partner, it could ruin your life.
1. A woman who wants to change her man
She may comes from a loveless family and has never been emotionally warm. Since she has tried and failed to get love from her parents, she will desperately seek it in her partner. If her partner does not know how to give her the right amount of love, she will try to change him/her. She always feels that the other person is not perfect, but still “believes in the potential of the other person” and will do everything she can to make the other person into the person she needs. If you refuse to accept her “transformation”, your marriage will only end.
2. A woman without a self
She has probably never cared for herself properly. When a person who needs care comes along, she naturally throws her full attention on the other person and gives her best to them. She is willing to accept and bear the blame and guilt that comes with the emotional world anytime and anywhere. She doesn’t live for herself, but for others; rather than being a selfless good girl, she is a love slave who has lost herself. But marriage is an equal partnership, not a master-slave relationship. Accompanied by a woman without self, the man bears the heaviest and heaviest emotional baggage. Unless you are a cold man, can openly accept her “sacrifice”. For herself, once the man leaves her for one reason or another, she may break down because she can’t accept the reality.
3. A woman who has no bottom line
She never feels safe and never knows what to do. She never feels safe and never knows how to do things in moderation, nor can she be content. Once she fell in love with someone, even if the other party simply will not belong to her, she will not give up, she will wait, and in the wait harder to do things that cross the bottom line. This kind of woman is more emotional, will be because of the impulse and regardless of the consequences, whether it is crazy shopping or the extreme pursuit of enjoyment. In marriage, she is more unable to face the end of abandonment, even if the love comes to an end, she will still do whatever it takes and whatever the cost to keep him.
4. A woman who refuses to be real
She has never had confidence, and even when happiness comes around, she doesn’t believe it’s real. She doubts everything, including love, because her psyche cannot bear the warmth of love. If you enter into a marriage with such a woman, you have to be ready to deal with her sensitivity and suspicion, and to bear all the storms of life for her. Likewise, if the emotional ups and downs, she will only let herself live in a world of fantasy, away from the real reality. Like an ostrich, she buries her head in the sand when she encounters a crisis, thinking that everything will be fine if she doesn’t face it. In reality, she just doesn’t have the courage to face reality.
5. A woman who “abuses” herself
She is willing to cover up her own confusion and irresponsibility by finding solace with people who are emotionally and life woefully unwell and have constant problems. Perhaps because of the unnatural trials and tribulations of growing up, she doesn’t cherish the “good” people who are dedicated to her good. In her eyes, a quiet life is too dull. She is more willing to conquer the turbulent days and difficult to manage people, and take it all as a stimulus. The reason for this is that they will not be satisfied with the humdrum of life together, but they like to seek new and exciting things again and again.
A man’s standard for choosing a wife is very realistic
< strong>1. A wife is different from a lover:
Believe it or not, men make a very clear distinction between a wife and a lover. There are many men who, as if they had special powers, can see through a woman in a very short time and know whether she is for fun, or for a relationship, or as a wife. Men will treat different women differently and differently.
Only for those he decides are ready to be wives, he will count on you for the smallest things and just want you to do even better, to be as good as you can ……
A man can have several lovers, but he will only have one wife. For him, a wife is like a house, to be stable, to be firm, and moreover to spend time and affection to maintain to pursue and maintain together.
2. You can be unattractive, but be beautiful at heart:
Many people think that a man’s pursuit of a woman’s beauty is like a woman’s pursuit of a man’s money; it’s all equivalent and reciprocal. But that’s only limited to the relationship stage for men. Because it is a relationship, not a search for a lifelong lover, so the man to pursue beautiful beauty, pleasure body and mind. He can tolerate your cruel heart, can tolerate your careful eye and any other shortcomings. However, to be his lifelong partner, it is not enough to have a pretty face, you have to have a beautiful mind. You can be unattractive, but you can’t have a bad heart, which is the minimum standard for being a wife.
External appearance is something that will age with time, the only thing that remains the same is the beauty of the heart, and a mature man is more aware of this. Just like why the prince eventually did not choose Cinderella’s sister, because their heart is vicious, like Cinderella has good qualities of women is a lot of prince’s dream object. If you want to be the wife of a quality man, then please start shaping your own good heart today, which is a necessary quality for a wife.
3. Don’t be a petulant wife:
Petulence seems to be Women’s patent and nature, women who can be pampered will evoke a protective feeling within men and make them feel powerful. But if a man thinks about marriage, he doesn’t want a little woman who only pampers, he wants a wife who can weather the storm with him, who is strong and confident, and who has fun in life.
When in love, or when he is young, a man will choose a woman who will pamper him as a girlfriend so that he can show his manhood. But when it comes to choosing a wife, he does not. Men are very insecure creatures, they are afraid that one day when they are no longer rich and lose their jobs, you will not stay with him, so they will also lose confidence in the future.
Society places a lot of responsibility on men to provide for their families and to protect their families. From a young age, they are taught to be strong, not to cry, not to be weak, and to act like a man. In front of outsiders, he acts very strong, but, inside, there are times of weakness and vulnerability. They only show their vulnerable side in front of their closest people. So he needs a wife who can go through the storm with him, who is strong inside and knows how to be forgiving. He knows that only such a person can allow him to truly fight and live without fear.
It is said that men conquer the world and women conquer men by this method. So, as a man, pay attention, don’t be proud that you have conquered a woman, but inadvertently let her conquer you.