The hardest thing to get along with in a marriage may not be between husband and wife, but between you and your mother-in-law, and since ancient times, the harmony of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship has become a major burden in the marriage of a daughter-in-law. In fact, there are so two sets of rules for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, one of which is the subtle rules, which can be used well not only to resolve the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also to deeply please mother-in-law and be a good daughter-in-law.
How to use the “subtle rules” for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
But how many of us were born with a silver spoon in our mouths? How many of us are princesses married to recruit a horse harnessed by the side of a team of fairy tales it most of us, is not to be happy and sad for the livelihood of the rice and oil and salt? The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of how to get along with your in-laws – something we don’t want to do but have to do.
First of all, I suggest that in-laws and daughters-in-law should not communicate directly with each other. -would communicate with the Imperial Army and understand the mindset of the Bakufu.
Secondly, if direct communication is blocked, you must first introspect: whether you are impulsive, whether there are inappropriate words, whether there is physical aggression towards your mother-in-law, how your mother will react if you say this to her If you have introspected all these and there is no problem, then If you’re not sure, you should talk to your husband, be realistic, pay attention to the way, don’t get angry and say rude, rather than cry, not curse. If it is that you have overdone it, there is a form of impropriety, but the content is not wrong, you have to avoid a little, but mention it.
Remember: it’s definitely better to confess ahead of time than to be grilled later and have to confess. If you make a major mistake, I’m sorry, I don’t know what to do. The reason is that I never communicate with my mother-in-law head-on about different opinions. Please ask other sisters for guidance.
In short, be the first person to explain the conflict to your husband, try to be calm and never engage in personal attacks, with your mother-in-law calling people blown-up frogs and your father-in-law calling them drained sugar cane. To be able to behave, especially on occasions when there are outsiders, behave gently and courteously, listen and be diligent, both to make your mother-in-law look good and to invite outsiders to create public opinion for you.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are both women, just because their respective roles are different, the natural content of life and life lines are different, inevitably tearing each other apart and not giving in to each other. The psychology of exclusivity of women is the enemy of family harmony. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not see each other at first, it is very difficult to change their views later on, and without a good foundation, it is very difficult for them to get along. Only those who have a cultured daughter-in-law humble their mother-in-law, and only those who are reasonable can tolerate their daughter-in-law’s shortcomings.
It might be better for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to take a daughterly, motherly approach to things and household chores. The mother-in-law should also think that even their own daughter, sometimes still play temper, not to mention the daughter-in-law who walks into the house, can not have character? The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
Life is good-hearted, just because of a little discontent let the peaceful family filled with the smell of smoke, it is not worth it. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.