Some people say that an ex-girlfriend is always your love interest. There is no truth in this statement. But why would a man miss his ex-girlfriend? It is because he really loved her very much? Or is this a way to imply resentment towards you?
Why can’t you forget your ex-lover
Don’t think about her when you’re with me. The first thing you need to do is to think about her, don’t lie beside me when your heart is actually his…Many people feel that the eternal nightmare in love is the lingering former lover! The former lover is the invisible third party in the hearts of many people, the eternal enemy of love, the old love is always the most beautiful. But is this really the case?
A friend recently fell out of love, and the reason he fell out of love was very blind. He said she couldn’t forget her ex-boyfriend. I really want to tell him that a woman’s intuition tells me she just doesn’t love you she doesn’t love you anymore, it’s just that she’s too kind to tell you that harsh truth.
Spielmann, Joel, MacDonald, and Kogan (2012) at the University of Toronto in Canada probably went through the experience of not being able to get over their exes, or being broken up with by them for that reason, and that’s why they felt it (?) The study was conducted as an academic psychological study to understand this situation.
They had 123 college students fill out an online questionnaire, after which the results were; the stronger the emotional connection to the ex-boyfriend, the lower the quality of the relationship to the current guy/girlfriend.
In other words:
The more you can’t get over your ex-male (female) friend, the
The more you get over your ex-boyfriend, the more you look at your current boyfriend.
If your partner’s ex has a “can’t get over ~ can’t get over ~ can’t get over ~” quality, then you should be more careful. For example, the princely temperament of the ex-boyfriend, handsome face, thought that thousands of girls have fallen under his pomegranate crotch. For example, the ex-girlfriend long hair and waist, tender skin, outstanding temperament, gentle character …… If you blissfully think that we are together can relax in front of each other farting and picking boogers, reality will throw you a bucket of ice water to make you completely awake.
Just assume that past lovers don’t mean anything hurtful or competitive anymore? My friend, you are naive.
Is it really true that you can’t get over an ex-boyfriend?
If any of you readers have ever been issued a good guy card for the reason that you “can’t get over your ex”, don’t take up arms and go immediately to Find each other’s ex-boyfriend! We point out that the memory of the former lover is the current dissatisfaction and not let you go to each other’s predecessors to fight for their lives. Because of this desperate is also useless, may also let you in his mind minus points. What we need to do is to calm down, find out why, and then try to fix it.
Let’s calm down, what’s the problem? Those of you who like to think backwards may find that the study’s findings can also be counter-interpreted as: dissatisfaction with the current relationship, which is why you remember the sweetness of the past.
It could also be argued that this is because the other person may be suggesting to you, consciously or unconsciously, that I’m unhappy with you.
Why dissatisfaction arises
People’s expectations about intimacy Expectation projections are fluid. Often, because they are dissatisfied with an established relationship, they will look for other places where they can meet their emotional needs. For example, nowadays, male (female) friends are so unsatisfying that they are forced to find another place where they can put their hearts. The former male (female) friend becomes a very convenient object, after all, has experienced so many sweet times, the human memory system is so strong, how can say forget it.
For example, the boyfriend dating no mind to arrange, will only go to follow the program to go to the same store, eat the food he likes she does not like, go to see the movie she does not like to see, and then began to touch up the thighs in the theater, the first Valentine’s Day what the program did not arrange, only The first Valentine’s Day is not arranged, but only a row of gold x chocolates that only middle school students would give, to go to a sleepover and even ask her to pay for the room, constantly prompting her to need a new wallet, new belt, new tie, etc., etc. In contrast, her handsome prince-like ex-boyfriend did his homework, understood her preferences before arranging a date, and was pampered and loved, and now feels like an appendage is a very different taste. It’s a dream for every woman to be a princess in the palm of her hand.
Who would you choose when you compare two people like this? I’m afraid that the male Yi Zhizhi will also choose that handsome ex-boyfriend. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
Respect is a very basic requirement in the relationship between two people, and it is also the easiest to ignore. Respect means putting the other person on an equal footing with yourself. It is best to put yourself in the other person’s shoes at all times, but this is a slightly higher requirement. Usually, the easiest thing we can do is to ask the other person what he or she wants before making arrangements. This way, you can avoid as much as possible choosing things that you like that the other person doesn’t like.
Second, if you want to interact, it’s best to feel out if the other person is willing. Thinking that two people are boyfriend and girlfriend, it should be how it is, it can be how it is, this is a big mistake idea. The world originally was not so much should, you know? Any harmonious, pleasant and suitable relationship between the sexes requires care from both sides. If you keep thinking you’re right and ignoring the other person’s thoughts, giving them a sense of subordination, eventually, reality will show you how important it is to drench a bucket of ice water at the right time.
“No fish or shrimp” strategy doesn’t work
Also, the results of this study tell us that it doesn’t work to find a random passerby on the road to be a guy/girlfriend in order to escape loneliness!
If you do find a partner without fish or shrimp, there is a high probability that you will develop a dislike for that partner and start complaining about how bad your vision was, how he really sucks, or how I really suck at finding people who really love you. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
And then break up again, and then find a random “shrimp” again, and then dissatisfied, and then break up again, and then find a “shrimp” again “, and then again lonely and unsatisfied, and then again break up …… such a vicious circle is really not fun at all. Perhaps true love is waiting for you at the next street corner (hands on the cheeks), we must be patient and wait for true love to appear! The first thing you need to do is to get out and meet new people, not like the princess in the fairy tale who is hiding in the tower.