Many MM will make a first love very easy to make the mistake of turning a man chasing you for a trial period, into a test period for themselves to him. This time the test, basically ineffective. Why? Because one, this time you do not have the threshold to test others, two, you do not have the ability to test others. A man pursuing you, you can test what is appropriate at this time? Test his character? The primary way to chase a woman is just to eat and drink and send gifts to buy breakfast packages to pick up, these and character have anything to do with it? These are only to show that he is at this stage, willing to tilt a little time and money to you here, the statute of limitations is very strong, you this so-called test of the way, as if you ate the cake to know that the cake did not expire, and tomorrow the next cake expired well, you have to eat again …… with this way to test men. Is it either ineffective or diarrhea ah?
In other words, the man who puts his mind to this aspect of the woman’s “test” and has no emotions is either holding his breath: I’ll wait for you to eat me and then dump you (of course, this is also considered an emotion, you just don’t know it) Emotions, just you do not know it), or is more knowledgeable, know that you are not an order of magnitude, little girls play tricks to see more, interested in cooperation, not interested he will not take you seriously …… of course there may be these two ideas are alternating in the mind of the man, is your so-called test means to expose your own The lower the value, and the longer you drag it out, the lower the value you have in a man’s heart, low to a certain point, not a question of whether he still likes you or not, but a question of whether he can look up to you.
To give you a simple example, if you want to borrow 1000 fast money, do you ask a stranger to borrow it, or do you ask an acquaintance to borrow it? Can you say that the stranger who does not lend you 1000 fast, the character is certainly worse than the acquaintance who is willing to lend you 1000 yuan? Can you say that a stranger who doesn’t lend you $1000 is definitely inferior in ability to this acquaintance?
It’s completely incomparable, isn’t it, and your pre-test is exactly what you’ve set yourself up to do.
A man who says he likes you can only mean that he has some unrealistic illusions about your words, or connection with you, at this current time. 99% of the people in this world need a chase a chased relationship, are because like so want to understand, and will not begin to like because of understanding – why, because a chase a chased ah, that each other is not yet familiar with ah, each other is not familiar when the sprouting of hazy good feeling is one of the beautiful impulses of young people, but this The fact that you don’t know each other doesn’t hide the reality.
So asking the other person to keep giving while you’re sitting back and reaping the benefits is as unreasonable as asking a stranger to borrow 1,000 fast.
But then the girl asks, “So how do I test a guy if I catch him once he’s caught up?
That the next said program may not be suitable for everyone, but the author’s personal experience to say, do not choose to test the man, should first screen the man. Whether I like someone else, or someone else like me (because I am an appearance control, I have had many experiences in not understanding on like) began to be very simple, unless the man I really do not mean at all, the thought of kissing him with a kind of incest-like discomfort, the other times, are initiated by me to break the ice (because the man said we simulate talking to friends it I have to go find another girl to try, the Women will think you this stinking rascal you still want to chase me ah), but if a girl says we can try lovers like dating, I’m willing to talk to you, eat together, get to know each other, but then, before it really stabilizes, I hope we can both have the right to continue contact and even intimacy with other people.
If you want to, then let’s try, if you don’t, then I won’t waste any more time, call me sister and be a brother. In a few years my sister will not be busy, my sister will teach you to pick up girls.
Far from it, what I mean is that the right fit can only be seen after the relationship has entered a stable phase, and the one who gives you a sweet rise in a stable relationship, besides male and female love, is the one who has both the ability and the heart for you . If you want to get a person’s appreciation and trust, the same can be appreciated trust him, that actually do not need you to set any test, life itself will set you, do not underestimate the life itself, only in the ordinary together kind, still willing to spend a little time and energy to consider the quality of your life of people, is really the kind of believe prompted your quality of life, is equal to enhance the quality of their own life of smart The man.
Whether you’re chasing someone, or being chased, I don’t advocate making a big move at first. The ultimate of any relationship is also to return to a full and exciting life in the ordinary, not numb and boring this road, and the so-called big move, will affect each other’s judgment, will not be ordinary life a little, occasionally for this can be, but has been to rely on dog drama and inner drama to maintain the state of the relationship, which itself is a departure from the original intention of living a good life. Relationships can have no consequences, but the process of relationships should be able to make people happy and grow.
Lastly, I would like to say, setting so many tests on a stranger? Are you happy? Did you get anything? Understand what? Nothing, but the two turned against each other, the next time, do not think they are a tester, to understand that any progress in the relationship is a test of both sides, and there is no good or bad, only appropriate or inappropriate. And whether it is appropriate or not, one has to constantly contact, but to constantly adjust the distance, the relationship, any time you need to adjust the distance, know three days, three months, three years, thirty years, people are subject to change, people are a variety of needs, people are to different ways to meet different needs – there is no once and for all test, the The reason is that we are all just soldiers being tested by life, and in the battlefield of living well, this test will not end until we die.