The men usually don’t care about some small actions may reveal his thoughts, here with the small to see it.
One, rubbing his palm
A child who sees his mother rolling out a cart of stuff from the supermarket is likely to rub his palm in anticipation. Or a 60-year-old company president is presiding over an important meeting when his secretary delivers a note, reads it, stands up and rubs his hands together, and says, “Guys, we got a huge contract from company xxx.”
In the videotape of the negotiations, someone rubbed his hands together quickly, as if expecting something. When negotiations begin, one party is surprised to see this gesture and will immediately pause to ask if the other party has made other arrangements in advance. His smile will tell you that the action of rubbing his hands only makes us believe that he knows and likes what is coming. People often wash their hands and rub them like hands before performing an activity. Unless his hands are cold, it is a hint that he is interested in that activity. Maybe that’s why gamblers always rub their hands together before they roll the dice.
Another gesture that seems to be in a bad mood is to slowly rub one’s wet hands with a cloth. This gesture is not an expression of expected confidence, but rather seems to be nervous and uncomfortable. Many people dry their sweaty hands on something when they are nervous. Men usually use pants, women often use handkerchiefs or toilet paper. Some sort of gesture of wiping sweat off the palm is often made when testifying in court, when a newcomer gives a speech, or when an athlete is waiting to play.
Two, rattling the coins in your pockets
Dr. San Feldman observed that people who regularly rattled the coins in their pockets either valued money or were short of it. Anyone who has been to the casino floor in Las Vegas will remember that people who play craps, slot machines, or other gambling devices always have their pockets jingling with coins.
We have a friend who is a producer for a movie studio who always used to jingle the coins in his pants pockets, and when you asked him why he did it, his answer was, “To remind me to remember when I didn’t have any money.”
Have you ever noticed how the beggar walks by you, always jingling the money in his tin to show they need it? Waiters who live on tips often seem to rattle coins as a means of getting their message across to guests.
Three, cross your fingers
The gesture of pressing your middle finger against your index finger goes back to our childhood. Young children often cross their fingers when they tell an insignificant lie to their parents, or when they hope for good luck.
Dr. San Feldman, in The Habit of Speech and Gesture, claims that this is “a magical, evil-avoiding gesture, whether the evil comes from the heart or from outside.” A friend traveling on a plane had to change planes at an airport known for always being late, so he crossed his fingers and said to someone else, “Maybe this way, you can catch a connecting flight.”
In business or social situations, this gesture is much more common than we know, often done very stealthily, and crossed quickly and then separated. In many tense situations, this gesture is captured on film. When one party makes a request or demand, the fingers are crossed slightly to indicate that he wants his wish to be granted.
In some Latin American countries, the crossed fingers gesture indicates that the two people are very close. In the United States, two fingers are joined together without crossing, and it also says, “We are as close as this.””