Mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict arises not from who did something wrong or who can’t handle interpersonal relationships, but its universality stems from human nature, or more precisely from the characteristics of women. There are three main reasons why mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflicts arise:
One is the seizure of a child.
We often hear mothers complain that their sons are not as good to them as they used to be after they talked to their girlfriends, especially after they got married. There are also some good sons who grew up very filial to their mothers and listened to them, but after they got married, they were obviously distant from their mothers.
All these signs send a message to mothers that their daughters-in-law hold all their sons’ hearts and minds, and that sons give more care and consideration to their wives and leave their mothers alone; this makes mothers, who have always treated their sons as children, feel that their sons are getting further and further away from them.
Some mothers tell their daughters-in-law to get up early in the morning to do housework, or are unhappy to see them get up late; not because the daughter-in-law has really done anything wrong, but simply because the mother-in-law does not want to see her son and daughter-in-law lingering together more.
The best way to resolve this type of mother-in-law conflict is for the son to live separately from his parents after he gets married, out of sight, out of mind? In addition, the understanding son better not be too affectionate to his daughter-in-law in front of his mother; to be affectionate back to his own small home how to be affectionate can be. It’s a good idea to do it casually in front of your mother, which will make her heart much more peaceful.
II. Jealousy.
The son fell in love and got married, and there is a young woman in the family. Generally speaking, young women are always more attractive to men than middle-aged or older women. The arrival of a daughter-in-law is most likely to attract the attention of this family in addition to the son, which is the mother-in-law. The first thing that we call the transgression between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is “picking up dust”.
This dilemma makes it difficult for the male and female protagonists to separate from each other, thus driving the story forward; it often ends in a tragic conclusion.
The heroine suffers so much from this unresolvable conflict that she chooses to run away from home or die of sorrow. Such a story leaves innocent teenage girls and fantasy-filled grannies watching and shedding tears, unable to stop.
Qiong Yao’s stories are romantic, but what she calls mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflicts are highly prevalent in reality. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. The ones who don’t live together have a superficial harmony; the ones who do live together are fighting like a crow’s-eye chicken.
Three, jealousy
We often see this expression in film and literature. When a man compliments another woman in front of a woman, that woman will say, “Don’t compliment another woman in front of a woman. Why? You say something nice about another woman, she’ll be jealous to hear it.
For example: whenever you talk about another girl’s good points in front of a girl, that girl is usually less willing to listen. Women tend to get jealous of each other, especially when one girl is pretty.
The closer they are to each other, the stronger the jealousy. They may not have anything at stake, and being young and pretty is in itself a source of jealousy from other women.
And after middle age, when beauty is gone, this jealousy of being pretty is much diminished; because of this, it is especially easy for middle-aged women to make friends with each other. After women reach middle age, it is much easier to get along with each other.
So, when a young daughter-in-law first comes to her husband’s house, her youthful beauty, and her pretty line, will make her mother-in-law, who has reached middle age or even old age, jealous. The newest and most recent addition to the list is the newest and most recent addition to the list.
The above mentioned three main reasons why mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationships are prone to conflicts, and by human nature, all three triggers for conflicts exist, but due to the moral level of each person, the ability to handle interpersonal relationships and the specific circumstances of each family are more or less different; why mother-in-law-daughter-in-law is not as calm as other family relationships, such as son-in-law relationships; why several mothers-in-law get together and talk about their daughters-in-law endlessly. The first thing that I would like to say is that I have a lot of experience in this field.