Does he really not love you anymore or do you no longer have feelings for him? Is it that you misunderstood him or he misunderstood you?
Three signs of lack of sexual interest
1. He doesn’t ask, I don’t tell
Many partners are not as keen to communicate and exchange feelings with each other as they are portrayed in fashion magazines. The truth is the opposite. Especially women are not even willing to recognize and evaluate their sex lives from an exchange perspective at all. This is the root of misunderstanding between partners, because the more this happens, the less likely it is to recognize the other person’s dedication to themselves, and the less likely they are to reciprocate.
The most common mistake is that he has actually put a lot of effort into pleasing you and coordinating your sex life, and because you don’t communicate, he can’t have what he wants and you can’t feel it accurately.
Of course, the mutual giving and giving back of sex between partners is usually unspoken and rarely explicitly stated in words. But this “exchange” does happen, and precisely because the giving partner doesn’t say so explicitly, it’s easier for the other partner to ignore and inadvertently break the other partner’s heart.
2. He wants to, I don’t
Partners are not aligned on the mental timing of their sexual choices. One partner may feel that it is natural to have sex at this time, but the other partner feels that he or she is being reluctant and is paying the price. If the former does not understand and empathize with this and does not reciprocate in other ways or in other ways, the latter may feel that he or she is losing out, or even being forced or exploited.
Over time, with every little shadow accumulating, the relationship tends to cool, and the cooling of the relationship is a direct result of the woman’s weakened sexual demands, a vicious cycle. The two people just together, two people with the freshness and curiosity about each other, these small psychological differences are easy to ignore and overcome, once into a stable situation, the sex life of all kinds of small defects are easy to reveal.
3. He’s busy, I’m busier
With a regular partner, a man is more likely to focus on his career, and work and socializing will take up most of his time. The professional women have to worry about their children and family after being divided by work and social life. The quality and quantity of sex is not guaranteed, and sex experts have pointed out through surveys that the lack of undisturbed non-sleep time between partners who are also professionals has a serious impact on their sex lives and the quality of their relationships.
The fix
1. Tap into overlooked sex opportunities
If you have 10 minutes to spare, try to have a quickie. This may sound like a ridiculous suggestion, but you have to try it to see the fun. Sometimes, rapid intimacy is not necessarily a bad thing, and in fact, many couples appreciate the thrill of rapid sex, which can create a secret feeling just for the two of them.
2. Touch each other often
Many couples rarely touch each other affectionately. They may feel awkward about it, and touching each other often is the best technique to remove the emotional psychological barrier.
Make sure you get into the habit of touching each other, such as holding their hands while watching a movie, running your fingers up and down their upper arms while watching TV together, and giving each other kisses from time to time. Don’t send the message “don’t come near me” too often, even if he smudges your freshly applied lipstick when he kisses you in the morning, reapplying makeup is obviously insignificant compared to getting the signal that he is deeply in love with you.
3. Be bold about what you want from him
Don’t let him act like a hard worker in bed trying to please you. If you want him to stay on a certain part, you have to say it. When he has met your requirements, you should also let him know. If he doesn’t do it right, don’t accuse him of it, but express it in a gentler way, saying you prefer this or that.
4. Expand your lovemaking space
The bed shouldn’t be the only place you two make love. When you’re excited at home, you’re always distracted by things on the way to the bedroom, and soon you’re not motivated. Experts say that if you want to enjoy more and better sex, you should act immediately when you are aroused. The dining room, the carpet, the couch …… can all be great places to have fun.
5. Try new ways
The same old way of having sex is boring, but if you try it, you’re bound to get something out of it. You can easily get them from books, so don’t worry about your imagination.
6. Plan a sexual journey
Plan a journey with him that you’ve never tried before and that will be the most arousing, making you both feel as intimate as if you were first meeting a lover.