What exactly should be the happiest age gap for couples to live together? Here’s a little explanation of the problem!
It’s true that age plays an important role in marriage, but it’s not age that really determines the stability of a marriage, it’s the idea of being one with the other person, having the same level of education and life values that are intrinsic to the stability of a marriage.
The age gap between the happiest men and women
A recent survey conducted by European scientists shows that age is a key weight in marital stability. A survey conducted by Dr. Emanuel Flanier of the University of Bath in the United Kingdom tracked 1,534 couples and showed that the best model of a couple that could strongly sustain a marriage was one in which both men and women were highly educated and had no history of divorce, while the man was more than five years older than the woman.
Also, a study by the University of Vienna found that husbands who were 4-6 years older than their wives had the most children, while husbands who were 15 years older than their wives had fewer children but had the most successful marriages.
The study found that the most children were born when the husband was 4-6 years older than the wife.
With this in mind, Wang Guorong, a leading marriage therapist in China, agreed. The first of these is that the woman’s “first” is the “first”. The first point of happiness, to meet the “trinity” of women’s wishes. Usually, women dream of a prince charming who has the maturity of a father, the care of an older brother and the energy of a friend. The first point of happiness is to meet the “trinity” of women.
The second point of happiness, older husbands usually have a certain financial base, reducing the chances of disputes over finances. The third point of happiness is that there is less family competition. The third point of happiness is that there is less competition between the husband and wife for power.
If it comes to the disadvantages of such marriages, Zheng Xifu, a professor of psychology at South China Normal University, believes that, in general, the average life expectancy of men is shorter than that of women, and if the husband is much older than the wife, then it is possible that the husband will end up dying and the wife will be left alone.
Women who are big and men who are small are also happy
As the saying goes, “Women who are big hold golden bricks,” and in ancient times in China, there were often big daughters-in-law and small husbands. The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product that will be used in the future.
Wang Guorong said that some families with sister-brother relationships are actually very happy. Some men are young but have a mature psychological age, while their wives are older but still have the psychological age of a young girl. Such a family, psychologically speaking, is similar to the model of a family where the man is older and the woman is younger.
Other sibling families are those in which the husbands both have similar temperamental traits, i.e., the male is less independent and wants to continue to find the feeling of being cared for by his mother. For such families, there are often a number of drawbacks. First, both physically and psychologically, women age faster while men are still in their prime, which tends to make families unstable. Secondly, age has social significance, in the conventional social evaluation, sister-brother relationship is easy to make people uncomfortable and criticism, or derogatory male “unmanly”, or say that women “old cow eat young grass” and so on, these external remarks to a certain extent will also be on the family The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing.