These two years, the TV matchmaking program is a hot mess, and it is said that Jiangsu TV’s “Not to be disturbed” ratings once straight after the “news broadcast”, and I am not exempt from this, I often appear in such programs, of course, I am not going to matchmaking, but as an emotional writer to advise, as a “bride”.
I often encounter women who say they want to marry a rich man because they’re on a blind date. For example, in one program, a kindergarten teacher who earned less than 3,000 yuan a month confessed that the husband she was looking for had to earn more than 30,000 yuan a month, otherwise everything was off the table. I’m worried that the children taught by such a teacher will not be very “materialistic” in the future? The company’s main goal was to find a husband with a car and a house, plus two dead parents, so that he could avoid the trouble of getting along with his mother-in-law.
Of course, the most famous of them all is Miss Mano, who made a name for herself on “Do Not Disturb” with the line “I’d rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle”. The media calls these girls who only have money in their eyes “gold-digging girls.
After that, some of the post-90s, represented by Guo Meimei, were bold enough to show off their wealth on Facebook. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of companies that will be able to offer a wide range of products and services.
A screenwriter who specializes in writing classic red TV dramas told me that after watching a lot of dating programs nowadays, I think “The White Haired Girl” should be remade: In the past, it was Huang Shiren who wanted to dominate Xi’er, who was hiding all over the world and became a white Haired Girl because she was so worried and malnourished; now the world has changed, and it is Xi’er who cried out to marry Huang Shiren, but Huang Shiren couldn’t find her. “The first thing that happened was that the woman who was in a hurry became a white hairy woman.
The so-called “gold-digging women” or “wealthy women” or “toxic women” have been subjected to a lot of media criticism, but they should also cause us to think deeply.
Economist Lang Xianping believes that the current society lacks fair growth opportunities for young people, and the whole social upward channel is controlled by a small number of people, and the difficulty of studying, employment, and buying a house has become the new “three mountains” that plague the growth of the post-80s and post-90s. The competition is narrow, and girls are discriminated against in terms of study and employment income, thus being at a disadvantage. There is no way, by their own struggle no opportunity, so they have to find a mountain to find opportunities. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of women.
Lang Xianping looks at the phenomenon of “gold-digging women” from a sociological point of view. The lack of security, lack of parental care since childhood, and the lack of true love of men after growing up caused. To put it bluntly, this is a potential inferiority complex, because of inferiority complex, not enough self-love, because not enough self-love, especially need money and material to fill. This is why most of the gold-digging and wealthy women are girls who grew up in a less-than-stellar family environment or grew up in a broken home.
I heard from a TV writer that when Mano was first popular, she didn’t have a BMW to take her to the TV show, she just “took the bus”.
If we compare our hearts to a cup, we need something to fill it, otherwise our hearts will always be empty, we will be insecure, we will be empty and confused, and we will not know what to do. To fill the cup of our hearts is either spiritual or material, spiritual mainly refers to love, including parental love, love of men and women, material includes money, houses, etc.. If our cup is full of love, we will not be attacked by money. On the contrary, if there is no love in the cup, we need money to make up for it.
Yishu has a novel called Xi Bao, in which the heroine named Xi Bao famously says, “I need lots and lots of love, and if I can’t get it, I need lots and lots of money.” The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Marx had a saying: “If the proletariat does not take this position, the bourgeoisie will.” The same way, the mind, without love to nourish this position, all material elements will come to erode.
So what we need is not to stand on the moral high ground to lecture them and scold them, but to care for them psychologically and emotionally and comfort them. The first step is to start with the parents, no matter how poor the economy is and how busy they are, they should give their children enough love and understanding to tell them that only true love in this world is invincible, otherwise, the children are lack of calcium when they are young and grow up with less love, even if they encounter true love in the future, they will only be in the toilet.