Q:
I just met a girl and had a great conversation with her, but after a few days, she suddenly turned cold. I thought she was not interested in me and wanted to give up. After a few days, she enthusiastically took the initiative to find me to chat. What should I do when faced with such a cold and hot girl?
Answer:
First of all, you have to know that a girl is cold and hot to you because your chat is too boring and unattractive to girls.
To change such a prefect, first of all, you have to control the idea of going to her to chat, then do your own thing, quietly, and then go to her to chat, adding the following techniques to the chat:
1. Push and pull
Why are suspenseful movies so attractive? In fact, they also use push and pull to create pressure first, then release the plot and you get stress relief.
So when talking to women, you can also use push and pull to get the girl in the mood. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing. When you pull, as opposed to push, you can’t exactly make her feel like you’re flattering her.
For example:
Man: I see you have a really nice back today (pull)
Woman: Of course! (Proud, praised, in a good mood)
Men: Too bad the front looks like this (push)
Women: Do you want to die? (Emotion turns from joy to anger)
Men: The front is better looking, the back is the downside (pull)
Pushing means telling my sister you are not happy with her.
Barbara is telling her sister you’re admiring her.
This push and pull process won’t make it hard for your sister, but you are activating the atmosphere between you. Once the atmosphere is in place, even if you don’t find a topic to talk about, your sister will actively find a topic to talk to you about. It’s natural not to be hot and cold.
2. Misinterpretation
It can be argued that what happens every day is unremarkable, but this is a time when you can make a big tandem if you deliberately misinterpret the girl’s meaning.
For example:
(Girl accidentally touches you)
Male: Why, can’t you get it just because you can’t get it?
Woman: I’m too careless!
Men: I knew you were planning me for a long time! You craved my body!
Woman: I just wasn’t careful!
Men: Stop it. I’m not just anyone. I have reservations.
Woman: I didn’t mean to touch you
Man: Are you responsible for me
Woman: Oh my God, how are you responsible?
Deliberate misunderstanding is to deliberately distort a girl’s intentions to achieve a teasing effect by misinterpreting the other person’s meaning. Let the girl know that you are deliberately joking with her and can’t say anything.
For example
3. Flirting
1. How can I be so good? It really doesn’t feel perfect. It’s annoying.
2. Sometimes you really need to put a QR code on your body, otherwise it’s annoying to have to take out your phone and give it to girls to scan every time you meet them.
Narcissism often reflects how well one accepts oneself and indirectly shows how confident you are.
In life, we don’t think a man who says “a cute, charming prince like me” is really narcissistic. Instead, we think he’s flirting with himself, driving the mood, making you laugh.
It’s much easier to tease ourselves than our sisters, because we know ourselves better, and there’s nothing wrong with teasing ourselves.
But be careful, try to be narcissistic and don’t mock your sister’s flaws, or she’ll probably ignore you during the chat.
4. Flirt
If you only joke around with girls every day, you won’t initiate an escalation of the relationship. Over time, the relationship will slowly become hot and cold. Therefore, flirting is also a very important part:
Example:
Man: Your lipstick today is really special
Woman: Yes, does this shade look good
Man: Then I have to taste it to know (pun intended, implying that the girl wants to kiss her)
Woman: Roll~
Girls are creatures controlled by emotions. This kind of chat gives her mood swings. Will she still ignore you?