Breakups should leave you with more than just the sweet memories of what once was and the pain of the breakup. What should I do after a breakup? After a breakup, you should give yourself a refresher course in love, thinking about what caused the breakup, thinking about whether someone like him is really right for you, and thinking about what kind of love you need. The first thing you should do is to learn from your old love, in order to make yourself stronger and better for the next love.
Love Cram Lesson #1: “To die is to die with clarity”
Love Cram Lesson #1: “To die with clarity”
Breakup, lost love, if it is already irrevocable, why not make the reason clear and clear. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are doing. Even if you used a variety of reasons to comfort yourself before, to excuse him, but this time you no longer have to, and no reason to do so. Be sure to get your head out of your ass and don’t live in an imaginary love tragedy. Maybe there are some hopelessly realistic factors between you, or irreconcilable contradictory differences, but darling, please be brave and face up to it all anyway, and never give yourself too many reasons and excuses to see the truth of the love relationship, and the real other person.
Love Cram Lesson 2: Don’t look for his kind
For It seems that every woman has her own unique “taste” for men, and she can never get rid of a certain type of man. The woman’s taste in selecting men is always persistent and exclusive, and certain traits, certain appearance become the specified conditions for women to select men.
However, as you should have experienced from the last love that ended, the ultimate direction of this love is in the end a matter of two people getting along. For example, women like bad men, such men tend to be confident and humorous and breath dangerous, so that people can’t help but be fascinated by them. But love them, you should expect the consequences, he may not be from one to the end, the freshness of your past, he may go looking for new excitement. If you don’t want to accept that ending, then it’s time to reformulate your criteria for choosing a man.
Love Cram Session 3: Finding Your True Self
Every Everyone has failed at one point or another in every relationship, but what matters is not what you lost, but whether you found your true self in the failed relationships, that is, whether those failures taught you what was unacceptable, what was indifferent, and what you really liked. Many things may have been irrelevant in the past, but for you now are exceptionally firm and unshakeable. Knowing what you want, both in love and in the future of your life, is crucial. Your goals are clearer, and the rest of your time can be consumed more intensely on the things that really give you a sense of well-being.
Love Cram Session 4: The Scale of Commitment
Commitment implies a responsibility that must be kept. Perhaps a momentary whim, an unthinking impulse, makes a commitment that will later make you work hard and be unpleasant, so be sure to think twice before you say it. What are your future expectations for the relationship, what efforts will you put into it, to what extent, and what are the requirements and limitations of these efforts on your ability and work …… If the last love ending does not match the promise you initially set, you have to adjust yourself and also the content and scale of your commitment, within your ability The only way to be truly responsible for yourself and the other person is to make a commitment that is within your means.
Love Cram Session 5: Rethink Love
End After a relationship, you need to rethink what kind of love you really need. For the next love, what kind of expectations do you have, do you want to find the one you love the most, or find someone who loves you to get married quickly, or you don’t want to think about marriage so soon, you just want someone to help you dispatch loneliness through the period of lost love. It is necessary to think about love in order not to hurt yourself again.