Recently, Jiangsu Satellite TV’s “Non Cheng Zhen Zhen” held a special Korean session, inviting Chinese who are working or studying in Korea, as well as Koreans who have lived in China to participate. On the field, the guests talked about the real-life Korean men and women’s view of marriage, leaving many Korean drama fans disappointed, “We never met men like in Korean dramas!” In Korea, having a car and a house is a prerequisite for a relationship, and you have to be a good match, like the story of Cinderella and Prince Charming in the drama, which is almost impossible to happen in reality.
Difference #1
In Korean dramas, it’s not about money, it’s about love
In “Queen In Hyeon’s Man,” Yoo In Na, a star, falls in love with Ji Hyun Woo from ancient times, and the two cross the line between stars and ordinary people, regardless of money, it’s about love.
In reality, having a car and a house is a must for marrying a wife
But the reality is completely different. Yu Tao, a Chinese male guest working in Daejeon, South Korea, said on the show that having a house and a car is a must for marrying a wife in Korea, “The last time I broke up, I was with my ex-girlfriend because I didn’t have a car or a house. home to see the mother-in-law, her mother see I have no car and no house is very disapproved.” The two eventually chose to break up.
Minya Lee agreed: “These days, Korean men are so busy, men are busy buying houses and cars to prepare for marriage.” Of course, some women said they don’t care about the man’s income, whether he has a car or a house doesn’t matter, “it’s enough to feel that he treats me well.”
The reporter interviewed the No. 1 female guest, Shanshan Liu, from the Korean session, who said, “In fact, the requirements of girls for boys are not at all just these, and it is a prerequisite for boys to have a car and a house, and in 80% of cases there is no possibility to start a relationship without a car or a house.”
Difference No. 2
In Korean dramas, the concept of gentry is always broken down by the male and female protagonists
In “Lovers in Paris,” work-study student Tae Ling, who studied in France, meets Han Ki-joo, who owns a large car company, and the two break through the gentry and finally get together.
Korean dramas often start out with parental opposition, but as long as the hero and heroine are brave enough to persevere, they always win a happy ending.
In reality, it’s more traditional than in China, with more respect for parents’ opinions
In real life, Korean family elders, the concept of gentry is still very strong.
“Korean dramas are bubble dramas that ferment a lot of things that aren’t in reality,” said female guest Liu Shanshan, adding, “On a blind date, many times the other person’s parents have listed many conditions.” She said that most Korean boys and girls tend to respect their parents’ opinions in their romantic relationships, “even more traditional than China sometimes, people just want love to not have too much pressure from their families.”
Shan Liu added that she also looks forward to the Cinderella-prince love in Korean dramas, “which is basically impossible! For girls, in addition to facing problems getting along with boys in love, more often than not Korean men’s mothers, are more difficult to deal with. Moms won’t want their sons to do any housework, so girls not only have to look good, but they also have to be good at everything.” This is the reason why most Korean women have been taught from a young age to raise their sons and why so few Korean working women work after marriage.
Difference #3
In Korean dramas, the man provides all the wedding expenses
In “The Rumored Seventh Princess,” Miji is getting married and asks the man to provide all the wedding expenses, and she goes off to get married herself.
Wedding in Korean dramas, the bride always wears a beautiful wedding dress, Korean clothes, beautiful and generous. The day before the wedding, the bride has to go to a beauty salon with her mother to take care of her skin. Do Korean women really just need to dress up and enjoy their wedding, and not prepare at all?
In reality, men and women share the cost of marriage
But is that also the reality? On “Nonstop,” Korean female guest Hyun Hye Rim revealed that because the man needs a large financial outlay to buy a house, “the wedding details of preparing furniture, buying appliances, and setting up a banquet usually need to be borne by the woman’s family.”
Difference No. 4
In Korean dramas, the male leads are infatuated and are “quality guys”
In “Best Love,” Cha Seung-won is a top Korean STAR who, by chance
In “Best Love”, Cha Seung-won is a top Korean STAR who meets over-the-top singer Kong Hyo-jin by chance. After a series of tangled stories, Cha Seung-won unknowingly fell in love with Kong Hyo-jin.
And Yoon Jisang, a doctor with his own hospital and a very well-endowed man, also fell in love with the ordinary Kong Hyo Jin on a dating show, and although he knew about Kong Hyo Jin’s affair with Cha Seung Won, he remained silently by his side.
The story of two “quality men” and one ordinary woman is a tale of love and hate.
In Korean dramas, the heroes are either heirs to a conglomerate or talented leftover men who are temporarily down and out, and the only thing that makes these fancy men so charming to Chinese Korean drama fans is one thing: infatuation. The main character is always disgusted with the average girl, or even the unkempt man-child, but after a tear-jerking romantic interaction, he always falls in love with the average girl, and there is always a quality male second, always silently waiting for the female lead, willing to be the “spare tire”.
In reality, “never met”, very macho
After hearing this narrative, female guest Shanshan Liu even exclaimed, “How is it possible? Korean dramas can only be half-believed, and it’s clear this isn’t true.” Liu Shanshan also said, “Growing up, I’ve never met a man from a Korean drama.” However, the carefulness of Korean men in the process of pursuing girls is very attractive, “they understand what girls need, they can coax people, and they also dress very decently”, and there is nothing wrong with this as shown in Korean dramas.
The male guest from Korea, Lim Jae Hwan, candidly expressed the “macho” characteristic of Korean men, “Chinese men are very family-oriented and willing to share the household chores for their wives. The man’s status is higher than the woman’s, and he hardly does any housework.”
Sun Yao, a female guest, said, “Drinking is a bad habit of some Korean men,” which in her opinion is one of the manifestations of Korean men’s “machismo,” which “may be more of a way to promote their own personalities, but not to consider their partners’ feelings. It may be more of a way to show off your personality but not your partner’s feelings.
Difference 5
In Korean dramas, it’s always the man who pays
In Korean dramas, it’s always the wealthy male lead who pays for the food, drink, fun and entertainment on a date.
In reality, men and women have AA or AB
The female guest, Shanshan Liu, also said she still watches Korean dramas when she is in China, but basically stopped watching them when she arrived in Korea, “Korean girls don’t watch Korean dramas, and there is only a 10% chance that the love in Korean dramas exists in life “. She used the example of buying bills to illustrate the reality of Korean guys, “When you go out to eat with Korean guys, it’s basically AA or AB, and you rarely pay the whole bill directly”.
In Korea, many young people can’t afford to buy a house
Generally, they don’t talk about marriage until they are 35 or 36 years old
It is understood that currently in Seoul, Korea, the average white-collar worker earns 200,000 to 300,000 RMB a year, but houses basically start at 10 million. The government’s guarantee of long-term rental housing is the first option for many young people who want to solve their housing problems, and then buy a house after working for many years, which requires parental support.
The female guest, Shanshan Liu, said, “Korea is an Asian country after all, so the differences between China and Korea are not that big, and sometimes even more traditional than China. The fact that ordinary girls in Korean dramas win happiness against all odds is basically unlikely in life,” she said.
Citing her own class as an example, she said, “Most Koreans don’t start talking about marriage until they’re 35 or 36, and the rest of the time they seem to be more in the pursuit of progress in good studies.