The middle-aged Chen Sumei, a woman employee of a large company, is a beautiful woman, but she is dependent on her daughter and lives a lonely and loveless life. Recently, in my interview with her, Chen Sumei told the love story that pushed her into the abyss of pain.
Marry a man as handsome as Yang Zirong
As a child, I was lucky that my parents gave me a petite figure and beautiful looks and treated me like a jewel in the palm of their hands.
After I went to high school, there were daily performances of revolutionary model plays in town, and I went to see them almost every night. One of the main reasons is because the positive characters in the play are all handsome and sturdy young men, such as Hong Changqing, Yang Zirong, etc. Their every smile touches my heart, and sometimes I can’t help but think about how beautiful it would be if I could marry a man like Yang Zirong!
After graduating from high school, I joined a factory as a worker. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. The reason for this is that they are not handsome enough and are far from the “Yang Zirong”.
Committed to Prince Charming, happiness is just a moment away
At the age of 21, I was hospitalized for rheumatoid disease, during which I met the handsome and dashing Lu Feng. He was elegant and courteous, and attracted me like a magnet. He was an actor in a theater company and was admitted to the hospital because he had accidentally broken his neck during a performance. I asked him, “Have you ever played Yang Zirong?” He said, “Yes, I have. I’ve also played Hong Changqing and Li Yuhe.” At that moment I saw his hot gaze, and I was so ashamed that I lowered my head and said no more. After that, he came outside my ward every morning to practice his voice and sing. My heart was tantalized by his loud singing voice, and I could not help but run to the window to peek at him. I was in love with him.
One day, he solemnly proposed to marry me. I was so excited that I nodded my head repeatedly.
But I never thought I would marry a man with a negative heart!
That day, I suddenly wanted to go to the theater to see him. The strange thing is that the dormitory door wouldn’t knock. The first time I saw a woman, I saw her go in with a woman. When my hands were numb and my feet were sore from kicking, the door opened and a woman slipped out of the room in a panic and ran away, and Lu Feng stood behind the door in fear without saying a word. At this point I was surprisingly calm, coldly spit out two words: divorce! He acted as if he was slapping his own mouth and kneeling down to beg, but I did not answer him. The harsh reality finally changed everything for me. My hopes were dashed and I couldn’t bear it. The only way to get rid of the pain once and for all was to part ways with him.
After many twists and turns, our marriage finally came to an end, but I also fell ill.
Ugly men give me trials and tribulations
I was bedridden like Lin Daiyu, and my face was getting thinner by the day. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public, such as the Internet, the Internet, and the Internet. The handsome and handsome men that I was once enamored with have now become the most annoying type of people to me. I went from one extreme to the other: to marry to marry ugly men! Then I really married a very ugly-looking, uneducated stranger Huang Qichao. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
When I got my hands on him, he was so diligent in doing the housework and cooking me good food. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. His thoughtfulness and care for me could not compensate for my disappointment in him. I was lying in bed at his mercy, but my heart was weeping. Life flowed as calmly as a river.
Finally, I got pregnant.
The first time I saw a girl, I was very surprised to learn that she was a girl. The two of us are dependent on each other, living a miserable life.
He often loses his temper with me for no reason, and gets drunk outside, sometimes even staying out all night. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public, such as the Internet, the Internet, and the Internet. I later understood what was going on, it turned out that he was playing with women outside and got a sexually transmitted disease. I forced myself to endure the great humiliation and pain inside back to my mother’s house. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
Bound by love, I fell into the swamp of love again
Just when I was determined to divorce Huang Qichao, I met Chen Xin, a literature lover. The company’s main goal is to provide a more efficient and effective solution to the problem. The company’s main business is to provide a platform for the development of a new business.
However, I eventually stepped on a landmine.
Chen Xin called almost twice a day, so that my colleagues got tired of answering his calls; he sent all his published works by registered mail; every Sunday he would come to me for picnics and outings; gradually, I became attracted to him and admired his talent, but my heart was not easily opened to him. The first thing that happened to me was an unexpected event that changed my closed-mindedness.
My affair with Chen Xin was discovered by Huang Qichao. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. I knew what he was going to do. But I was lying on the ground in pain and couldn’t get up, so I prayed for Chen Xin to run away. Chen Xin disappeared on the same day. Soon, I received a phone call from Chen Xin, only to learn that he had left the unit, ready to go to Hainan to break into the world. He did not blame me in any way, so I was very touched. He was forced to go away because of me, I caused his misfortune. I fell deeply into regret, guilt like a stone on my heart. Suddenly, I felt a strong urge to elope with Chen Xin and share his pain and suffering!
The next day I took a long vacation and went after Chen Xin, who had fallen on hard times.
The next day I took a long vacation to go after Chen Xin, who had fallen on hard times. On the way we traveled together, we were as warm and happy as a newlywed couple on their honeymoon.
When I returned, I immediately filed for divorce in court. I told Huang Qichao that as long as he agreed to the divorce, all the property belonged to him. Perhaps our mother and daughter are a burden to him, and with such generous terms, Huang Qichao agreed.
Chen Xin and I became a couple in trouble.
Perhaps it was fate that after a few days of happiness, pain began to consume my heart like a scorpion. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the market. When making love to me, not at all considerate of me, like a sexual sadist like biting me, pinching me with nails, torturing me to the point of pain, but he laughed loudly. This laughter was so eerie that it often woke up my sleeping daughter and gave me the creeps. I was afraid to have sex with him, but the more afraid I was the more he wanted to do it. I objected to his treating me in such a nasty way, but he ignored it as if it was the only way he could find it exciting and pleasurable. I suspected him of being a psychopath and told him to see a doctor, but he slapped me in the face in anger. What I can’t tolerate is that he bought some sex toys and tortured me sexually like the ones on the porn videos. I felt so strange about him. The anger, humiliation, and grievances were like poisonous snakes wrapped around me, making me suffer, and my body was so thin that only a layer of skin was left. I couldn’t stand it anymore, and once again I filed for divorce in court.
I longed for love, but I didn’t know what true love was; I sought the happiness of love, but I repeatedly stepped on the mine field in the siege ……
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This article’s heroine, Ms. Chen, has a tortuous and unfortunate love and marriage that is very sympathetic. On the one hand, she is indeed unlucky, but on the other hand, she is also biased in her view of love and choice of spouse.
First, her pursuit of love lacks rationality. It is true that there are many stories of love at first sight, both in the past and in the present. The first thing that we need to do is to make sure that we have the right people in the right place. The famous psychologist Hewdekker believes that this is a “worship” psychology. In real life, you can often see that as long as there is worship, love is as intoxicated. This superficial admiration for each other under the dominant love is dangerous, because this love is too empty, lack of full knowledge of the lover. Ms. Chen worshipped the heroic character while watching the model opera, and when she saw the similar appearance of Lu Feng, she inevitably fell in love at first sight. The attractiveness of appearance is often a precursor to love between a man and a woman, but too much attention to appearance may prevent further understanding of each other’s psychology and character. “Love at first sight” can at best be counted as “like”, but this is not love, and there is not much real emotional connection between the couple, marriage lacks binding, when Lu Feng met more than his spouse “charm “
The first thing is that the company’s business is not a business.
Secondly, the beautiful woman has been pampered by her parents since she was a child, and this has led to her stubborn personality, never taking others’ opinions, so that she is the same in her view of love. The first time I saw a woman, I was a little bit of a jerk.
After the failure of her first marriage, Ms. Chen’s view of marital love shifted from one extreme to the other. From a psychological analysis, love is the greatest mobilizer of psychological energy. Once lost in love or betrayed by a beloved lover, this mobilized energy can be seriously destructive when it gets out of control, manifesting itself in love but hate or self-destruction (such as self-abandonment or even suicide), and Ms. Chen’s marriage to Huang Qichao belongs to the latter. During a breakup, the emotional support and comfort of family and friends is very important, but Ms. Chen’s family not only did not carefully do the psychological guidance work, but also rushed to get her a new boyfriend, but the effect is even worse.
Ms. Chen’s third marriage failed because of her unadjustable and irreparable “wrong marriage”. “The first thing you need to do is to take up the legal option of dissolving your marriage.
A successful marriage is not only influenced by objective factors such as social, family, economic, cultural and demographic factors, but also by subjective factors that can be broadly summarized as follows: 1. Mature personalities, meaning that both parties can understand themselves and others rationally rather than emotionally, and can distinguish facts from feelings. 2. Value identity, where both parties preferably have the same or similar values. 3. Role The two parties have the same understanding of their future responsibilities as wives and husbands without disagreement. 4. Personality coordination and complementary needs.
A beautiful, happy marriage needs to be created and nurtured. Excessive passion does not work, nor does excessive reasoning. It is necessary to be sensible first, then emotional, and to combine sensible and emotional, only then can love bear fruit. (Reviewed by Yu Bo)