Totally digging into my personal wounds, reviewing the stages of a cold, violent breakup with my boyfriend. Written for men or women, never use this approach when breaking up.
Cold violence breakup stage 1:
Sign: He’s suddenly very busy.
He’s suddenly very busy when you’re still reveling in the joy of being in love. The response is: I need to behave / or he is so busy you restrain yourself to reduce the frequency of contact, and he will not ignore you at all, occasionally send you a text message, call, but unfortunately there are no longer hieroglyphs, such as the original “I’m home oh! The first time I saw you, I was able to see you.
The second stage of the breakup: you start to question
When the first stage lasts for a while, you feel that you are not as passionate as you used to be, and finally you start to question him: why are you like this lately? The first stage of the process is the first time that a person will tell you straight out that they don’t love you that much or that I’m in love with someone else, they usually say, “No, I’m tired or stressed, and then they tell you not to think about it. The first thing that happens after that is that there’s a time when you feel like he’s touching your head and comforting you.
The third stage of cold violence breakup: you don’t initiate contact and he doesn’t
When the second stage shows some signs of improvement, the degree of coldness between you may not exceed the first stage, but it is absolutely impossible to return to the time before cold violence, when he suddenly does not initiate contact with you, which is called the third stage of the emergence of the signs. The signs. This time, you sent a text message, he also returned, you called the phone, he also answered, but if not necessary, will not take the initiative to contact you, your frantic again began to endlessly: in the end what he is thinking? Is he not in love with me anymore? How did we get to this point? A series of question marks make you gradually lose yourself, you will ask friends around you, will ask yourself, emotional ups and downs, the focus is all shifted to this relationship, but he did not say out what when you do not want to break up.
Cold violence breakup stage 4: When you start to say let’s break up
This time women usually say, I can’t stand it, let’s break up. In fact, this time the mind is trying to regain, not really to break up, usually, this time the use of cold violence will be very tangled to a: do not ah, or give me another chance, in short, to retain you, not let you leave, this time your mood a little better, think the other party still care about you, but this good mood is also mixed with a lot of unease, cold violence people just hang on your mood.
The fifth stage of a cold-violence breakup: de-escalation
This stage, because of the previous fourth stage, they will treat you a little better, you will feel the other side back, this is with too many apologetic feelings, will not last very long, very short.
Cold violence breakup stage 6: when you start to believe love is lost and found
When you start to believe love is lost and found, they start to reply to stage 3, not contacting you and getting worse. For example, the text message you sent may be stone-cold, and the phone call you made may be turned off.
Cold violence breakup stage 7: you have gone crazy and completely lost yourself
When going through the first six stages, basically your person mentality is already very bad, the mood repeatedly too strong, you move to cry, wait for his message when you can not wait, walk through the place where you used to have good memories and fall tears, you are in The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
The eighth stage of a cold-violence breakup: you propose a breakup and he is silent
It takes a long, long time to go through the seventh stage, the painful round trip, friends persuade, scold, before you enter the eighth stage of mourning, you sent a text message saying break up, the other side a silent response. The eighth stage is the period of your breakup, generally will use this breakup way of people, are afraid of commitment, no sense of responsibility, they choose to escape, they do not even mention the courage to break up, in fact, these types of people have extremely low self-esteem inside, perhaps if they are really among the people P legs, but also to accelerate the process of this breakup, generally after the silence, you ignore them, they will also come to you and say: sorry …… similar to redeeming but ambiguous words, the fundamental reason is that they have no way to determine if they can still love you to the end.