Choosing a man must be done with a sharp eye, never fall into the trap of a playboy. We sometimes tend to get it wrong and think we are in full bliss when in fact, honey, he really doesn’t like you that much.
1. If he is passive and reserved.
“Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin our friendship” “Maybe he’s shy” “Maybe he has low self-esteem” “Maybe he just doesn’t know how to contact me” ……
In the entire course of human history, any guy would not care about breaking a “friendship” to get close to you, and he would not be too scared to chase you because of shyness and low self-esteem. is so “indifferent”, he will not not know how to contact your phone, email, IM, SNS, twitter …… he can use his eyes, mouth, brain, network, google to find you — unless he doesn’t want to find you.
Some may advocate that it’s not the stone age anymore, and girls go after the guy they see, but I’m sure the guy who really likes you won’t let you go through the trouble of finding him – because he’ll take the initiative and send it to you.
2. If he promised you something and didn’t do it, even if it was just a phone call.
“He was really busy so he forgot” “At least he actually apologized with me” …… He is very busy, about to be inaugurated as the President of the United States, an hour of several hundred million business to talk, so busy that he is going crazy, a day simply can not find time to call with you, busy really crazy ah. There are cell phones, speed dials, and even voice dials, and sometimes the pressure is not even trying to call, the phone is dialed out of your pants pocket, so why don’t you have time to call.
If you really like you, you won’t forget, and if you forget, it means he doesn’t care that you’re disappointed. “Busy” is a weapon of mass destruction on the relationship, is synonymous with “jerk”, jerk is busy perfunctory you the person, (sound mind) men know what is called “priorities
Oh, there’s no time for his bullshit.
3. If he’s ambiguous.
“He’s been hurt before” “He’s got a messy life right now.” “He just got divorced and he wants to take his time” “He’s used to being free” …… These are all myths to use against girls that guys don’t like.
If he likes you, he won’t be ambiguous, he’ll make his ownership of you known, he won’t meet your friends and family and say because he’s with you and not trying to have a relationship with your mom, he won’t take you into his circle and say because it’s just a two person thing. If he uses any of these excuses to explain your ambiguity, it automatically translates to “I just want to spend time with you” and “I don’t like you very much”.
4. If he doesn’t want to get too close to you.
“I’m a man, if I like you, I’ll kiss you”, although it feels awkward and cold, but think about it is also the truth, right, if you like you should be like you The first thing you need to do is to ask someone who likes you to say, “I love you very much, let me be your soulmate.” …… I guess Plato wouldn’t have said that.
5. If he betrays you.
“He was drunk” “It was just an occasional accident” “He was careless.” …… There is no excuse for betrayal. Betrayal doesn’t “accidentally happen”. He can’t say, “Oh, I accidentally fell and fell into someone else’s bed.” The worst part is that someone might doubt their own charm because of it.
6. If he’s all drunk before he comes to you.
If he’s not willing to change for you, then it’s time to leave, because the long run is about sobriety.
7. If the time is right but he still doesn’t want to get married.
“Maybe I’m just not open-minded,” “He’s under the shadow of his childhood family.” “He’s not ready” …… Many men, women, psychologists, sociologists, anthropologists, feminists…can spout a lecture critical of the institution of marriage and tell you that marriage is backward The institution is an ancient financial contract, but I’m sorry, first you have to understand that “don’t want to get married” may only mean “don’t want to marry you”, those who say “don’t want to get married” will eventually The people who say they don’t want to get married will get married, just not to you.
8. If he keeps breaking up with you and then coming back to you to make up.
First of all, please keep your poise and stop calling and texting him, if it’s a breakup, it’s a breakup.
Don’t think you can continue to talk to him, meet him, watch movies, cook for him, buy him gifts, carve CDs, feed him fish, greet his parents and friends, and steal his voicemail to check his call history as long as he comes back to you ……
A person who really likes you won’t break up with you and toss you around, so please come to your senses, unless you want to be Miss Yo-Yo Champion.
9. If he suddenly and inexplicably disappears.
Don’t spend a lot of energy trying to solve the “missing man mystery”. The only fact is that he no longer wants to be with you and doesn’t have the guts to talk to you about it. Please believe that there is no secret – he doesn’t deserve you.
10. If he is married.
Nothing to say, at least until he gets divorced. If you still can’t figure it out, then it’s probably time to call the police – someone has lost their brain.
Sometimes we’d rather believe a man is too scared, too uptight, too low self-esteem, too saintly, too much in love with his ex-girlfriend, too sensitive, too Oedipal, too busy, too many childhood shadows, too much family pressure, too tired, too crazy, too tanned, too suicidal …… but won’t look at the very simple fact that yes, he’s not too busy, he’s not injured, he’s not having childhood shadows, he’s not experiencing an earthquake flood, he’s not about to be inaugurated as president, he’s not concussed with transient memory loss, he’s not dropped his phone in a hot pot, he’s not having amnesia, he’s just not that into you.