In order to help marital parties live better and happier lives, self-regulate their usual words and actions, and guide couples to love and family happiness. Mr. Shu Xin, the president of the International Institute for Happy Relationships, has specially organized many marriage emotion experts, marriage psychologists, marriage sexologists, marriage analysis experts, legal experts, marriage rights experts and other authorities to jointly study and develop a standard of marriage and family happiness in line with what Chinese people are seeking in the new era.
Ten Criteria for Family Happiness
1. Diligent communication: No matter how busy you are, couples should take out time for frequent emotional interaction, exchange of ideas and talk about love.
2. Growing together: Not being satisfied with the status quo, couples must grow together in order to make their marriage more beautiful and happy.
3. Be filial to your parents: It is only natural to be filial to your parents, and it is even more important to raise your children, so set a good example for them.
4. Creating Romance: Many Chinese families focus too much on the practical and lack romance. It is important to know that romance comes in a variety of colorful and diverse forms. A happy family must be full of romantic elements.
5. Good humor: Laughter is an important sign of happiness, and humor in speech and action can resolve and buffer conflicts and disputes, eliminate embarrassment and disconnection, increase interest and emotion, and make the family happy.
6. Enjoy intimacy: Many couples view frequent intimacy as sticky and fear that “public intimacy” is frivolous. But research by experts at the International Institute for Happy Relationships has found that intimacy has a wonderful effect on the quality of life.
7. Equal respect: Couples are equals and life is communal, so there is no question of who dominates whom. One cannot suppress one’s spouse, one cannot belittle the other, and one cannot discriminate against the other because of status, looks, or ability.
8. Tolerance and trust: When you often look at your spouse with a critical eye, you can gather many flaws in your spouse. If you talk about your spouse’s merits to his or her face and behind his or her back, you can surely reap happiness. There must be more trust between spouses. Suspicion is the killer of marriage.
9. Be faithful to each other: Resolutely oppose extramarital affairs, and once your spouse cheats on you, try to help your spouse come around, share the pain and suffering, carry the marriage to the end, and work together to make the family better.
10. Take responsibility: In the marriage and family life, there will be various problems and difficulties, do not wait, do not pass the buck, take the initiative to take responsibility, self-effort to solve.