It’s a blessing to have a soulmate male best friend. This happiness turns to annoyance when you find yourself expecting more from him when you don’t seem to be conscious of it. Should I tell him? If he doesn’t like you, he may not even be friends anymore. Should we go further or stay the same?
Is it better to have a boyfriend as a best friend?
Have you ever been in a fight with your boyfriend and confided in him and then lamented that it would be nice if he was your boyfriend? The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not only in the market, but also in the marketplace. But it would be a shame to never try to give that guy a chance because of various fears and concerns. How do you know that the other person who has been with you won’t be the future love of your life partner? There are actually many benefits to a male best friend turned boyfriend.
1. You can feel free to show your love for each other without any dislike for each other being too stupid. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
2. After a little time apart, you may not be able to say goodbye to a new marriage, but you will definitely miss caring about it, and you will miss each other twice as much. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
3. The feeling of always being able to appreciate each other unconditionally is not in the eyes of the lover, but is a feeling that transcends looks and is born out of the accumulation of feelings over time.
4. There is no awkward gap in being together: since they are girlfriends and boyfriends, they can always talk endlessly together. It’s also nice to be able to go past the awkwardness of a first date and talk to each other about it. It’s also nice to know that you don’t have to make up a topic every minute just to accommodate each other, saving your brain cells.
5. Even when you’re sitting and lying quietly together enjoying your time together, it doesn’t feel awkward at all. This proves that your time doesn’t need to be chalked up with words and laughter for you to enjoy each other’s company.
6. You know each other well enough to have an understanding of when to spend time with each other. Although it may be lazy to lounge around and do nothing, it still feels happy.
7. The thought of going on a trip with each other fills you with joy – and you don’t have to worry about a “Narita breakup”. The two of you will have a deep understanding on the small things. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
8. When you argue, you will also argue and turn into a comedian, and you will probably laugh after pulling out each other’s clichéd crimes. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
There are many benefits, but are there any downsides? Yes.
1. If the other person is not interested in you, it will become awkward for both sides. The end may be that he will gradually alienate you.
2. Some people don’t like the way friends become lovers, then you have to give more to convince him. This way the feeling of tacit understanding with him will be destroyed.
3. Maybe it’s only after we’re together that we think it’s better for us to be friends.
How do you get out of this sweet and bitter state?
So how do you get out of this awkward situation when you’re in love with someone who doesn’t love you?
1. Use actions to imply that you like him
Many times, when some people fall in love with their friends, they will be very restrained in their emotions and performance and will not let go of their pursuit. On the one hand, it is for the purpose of being considerate of each other, not wanting to cause pressure on each other and affect the friendship between each other. On the other hand, because the two people have formed a very fixed pattern of getting along with each other, and they have a fixed role to play in each other’s lives, they find it very difficult to break it, and they worry that the other person will have difficulty accepting it after the change.
At the same time, as we mentioned earlier about the tension between intimacy and desire, if you can express your feelings boldly, there will inevitably be some new patterns of interaction between you If you can express your feelings, there will be some new patterns of interaction between you and the other person, and you will give them some new impressions, which will help them to see you in a new light, and bring the strangeness and excitement that inspires “desire”.
2. Be generous
Sounds contradictory to the first point. The first point contradicts the fact that on the one hand you have to be bold in expressing your feelings, but that doesn’t mean you should pester, or show love very frequently. Don’t act as if this is the only one left in the world, it will make you less attractive. Express your appreciation graciously, show your confidence, and your mannerisms will naturally show your attitude.
3. Pay attention to what the other person wants from a partner
You want to make sure You and the other person have the same understanding of love, and ask yourself if you want to be the kind of partner the other person wants. This is the kind of communication you never had when you were friends.
4. Light physical contact
For many people, the obvious difference between a friend A clear difference between friends and lovers is the way they touch each other. There is both friend-like touch and lover-like touch, but the line between the two varies from person to person. Don’t always wait for someone to initiate contact with you, like each other if you can do a little out of the ordinary. But as soon as the other person shows reluctance to accept it, please respect that and stop immediately.
5. Don’t force it if he’s not feeling it
If you Think you are a match on the outside, or have been together long enough, when you have followed the steps above, you have not shown a good old man personality, and are sure that you and she want a type of love, and you have done some out of the ordinary touching, etc., but the other person still wants to just be friends. At this point, is it reasonable to spend time on this friendship again? The best way to do that is to downgrade the relationship to an acquaintance.
There’s no doubt that there are many benefits to having a BFF-turned-boyfriend, but only if he has the heart for it too. So, take advantage of the opportunity when you have it, and if he’s not the one you’re looking for, then find a new target.