Everyone has a longing for a relationship, and that’s normal. But it’s a tragedy to apply a TV show or news report or an event that happened to someone else to yourself.
What is relationship paranoia?
Watching too many TV shows and movies, in addition to seeing other people’s experiences, also makes it easy for your own perceptions to be changed or even distorted by them. So many people like to use the set in the movie and drama to apply to the real love, resulting in “drama delusion”. Sometimes we also apply it to ourselves based on the people around us or news reports, which is another kind of paranoia.
This behavior can be troubling to a partner, who clearly did not do it or intend to do it, so why the constant explanations? It also has to be an explanation that fits within her fantasy to be accepted. God, help me.
Common relationship paranoia
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This kind of woman can’t see her boyfriend hanging out with other women, and any intimate actions with other women will be interpreted as a love crisis, often catching wind of the situation or even creating something out of nothing, grabbing a little so-called “clues”. “traces” will begin to pursue, and at this time, if the other party to deny will only become unnecessary or even “weak” sophistry; if directly ignored, it is bound to be understood as the default, in any case, there is no way to respond, because she only indulge in their own
The solution: don’t think too much
No doubt, the idol drama The main heroine of the idol drama always has to experience being split. It is clear that elegant, beautiful and noble but always meet the beloved man around the corner and embrace another woman, the moment the pedestrian bustle, the world seems to be only her alone lonely and desolate …… really I see pity! However, you do not have the opportunity to experience this drama, although also very lonesome, that must be very lonesome not taste it, so you have to create this drama anyway, so do everything possible to search for traces ……
This is how things often come to be, it’s not your love that’s wrong, it’s your brain that’s wrong. The most important thing is that you should be able to get the most out of your life.
Let her “torture” you in front of and behind you
He has to accept intentional changes in plans on the fly during dates, he has to come from miles away when he can’t open a can of midnight snacks, he likes to “order” him to do all sorts of strange things in front of others when he is taken to a friend’s party, he pours all the food he can’t eat into his bowl and forces him to eat until he dies. But when his appetite is good and he wants to eat breakfast eight blocks away, he must get up two hours early to find the unknown store and bring back a hot breakfast and better yet, call her a “greedy little cat” in a scornful and loving way. …… The woman can always come up with endless ways to torment her boyfriend, often with the paranoid mentality that “the other person is happy to be tormented by me is a sign of love” and wants to prove that she is loved and secure in this way.
The solution: don’t be pretentious
No one in the world but a masochist likes to be tortured. Probably no one likes to be tortured, right? But masochism is something that can be cultivated, but the probability of that, generally speaking, is relatively low. The most fundamental mistake is that you take the torture as a pleasure, but do not understand that the other party “appreciate”, but because he still loves you, so choose a temporary tolerance – really only temporary, and the negative energy brought about by this torture will not disappear only The other side of how “happy to accept”, sooner or later, will be concentrated one day, an outbreak of uncontrollable.
Know that the man who loves you, he is not a god, he is also a mortal body like you, will be tired, will be hungry, will be bored. The man will certainly be because of love, because of hormones, because of passion, to make extraordinary feat, to make extraordinary pay and sacrifice, but please do not think that this is the result of your charm extraordinary, and do not take the man’s love as a credit card that will never be overdrawn, a brush again and again, until the brush burst. The other thing, which you may not have noticed, is that sometimes you do this out of a very childish and selfish show-off mentality.
It’s your fault if I don’t stay
A fight in a relationship is a common occurrence. The woman’s idea is just the opposite, their “extremely fragile mind” can’t bear half the cold and misunderstanding brought about by the verbal altercation, but the breakup or leave home as a routine. They have escalated all the common arguments in love to the proposition of “love and no love”, taking “break up” as a mantra and leaving home as the most direct and effective “test”.
Solution: Don’t use breakup as a threat
Is he really going to chase it out again and again? In the face of your disappointment and determination, coldness or tears, can he really be convinced time and again that “you don’t really want to go”? This kind of relentless probing, if it goes on endlessly, even if the man is not bored to death, there is no guarantee that he will not be discouraged, right? Maybe she really wants to go …… wait until the other side so doubt your sincerity, he will feel that every time he rushed out to pull you is just a self-serving move, and then you will carry the bag standing in the street, lost to find themselves simply do not know where to go, right? The company’s main goal is to provide a solution to the problem of the problem.
After a while, he may have become someone else’s him, and you may not be the heroine anymore.
Where have all the good men gone?
This type of women are mostly independent and strong women, are wealthy and beautiful “golden leftover women”, they are all hot-eyed and wary. In their eyes, the pursuit of their men are the reality of the little people, but may as well do with him as brothers and good friends, peace of mind to enjoy the care and comfort he brings. If a man’s family and career is not as good as theirs, they should be wary of being used; if people are stronger than them, they should insist on self-respect and equality in front of others, just like Jane Eyre. They are mostly familiar with Yishu novels, the extent of their knowledge, often only need to “between the lightning” can see through the man’s “true intentions”, and then heart sigh “good men are dead! “
The solution: love cleanliness is not acceptable
It’s not that all the good men are dead, it’s that their love is so perfect and unconventional that they can’t stand any realistic intrusion. They often lament that they can not meet a good man, but what is the standard of a good man? Even if you do meet a handsome man by chance, with a gentle appearance and taste in clothes and a caring and professional wonder, you must also be able to appreciate her sensual beauty and pursue her passionately without her even knowing it ……
Where is this kind of love? Maybe it shouldn’t even exist on earthly earth. In fact, the way such women pursue love, from the beginning of their superior posture has been wrong. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Love is not only about love, but also about getting along between two people. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing.