China is constantly on the move, but news of such marriages always interjects powerfully and quite eye-catchingly, showing that the world is a busy place, but that love life is always one of the things people care about most, and its quality in relation to social progress is the most difficult to fathom.
China’s economic development and civilizational progress over the years has been accompanied by a rapid rise in divorce rates. It’s hard to say whether the high divorce rate is a bad thing, or whether the freedom it brings to people is enough to make up for the bad things it creates, and it’s hard to even argue effectively. Many netizens believe that the small price paid by the cheating party is a major reason why extramarital affairs are becoming more prevalent and leading to marriages. They are outraged: amend the marriage law to severely punish extra-marital affairs.
China: After divorceWomen have obvious disadvantages relative to men
Generally speaking, women dedicate their youth in marriage, their bodies that are out of shape from nursing children, their love for their families, and in many cases, their careers. It would be foolish to say that a woman should have an ego, that a woman sacrifices her career for her family, but the fact is that in a family, if both are strong in their careers, raising children and handling household chores, it is difficult to solve household chores. It’s not as if you can hire a nanny to put your home in order. This is a traditional model of our family, which has existed for hundreds and thousands of years, so there must be a reason for its immutability.
What does a woman lose in a divorce?
What do women lose when they divorce? They lose their youth, they lose the family they depend on, they lose the man they have nurtured for years and decades, they lose their years and decades of work.
What does a woman gain from divorce?
What does a woman get when she divorces an aging face, the ridicule of another woman, the indifference and callousness of a man she has taken care of for years, a divorce certificate, the possibility of being left without food and clothing for the rest of her life, the pitying eyes of others, or the pathetic gift of a man who hides his assets and then sends out a caller.
Does a man have something to lose from a divorce? He has a body that was well taken care of by his ex-wife, a woman as youthful as his ex-wife was when she was young, a career that he had the time and energy to create because he was taken care of by his ex-wife, and most of the property that was concealed from his ex-wife.
So the price of divorce for Chinese men is too low.
Foreign: Spousal support after divorce is costly
What is the cost of divorce abroad? Jia Mingjun, director of Shanghai Hujia Law Firm, said that many of the foreign marriages he represents involve people who have made the trip to China to get divorced in order to reduce the cost of divorce.
In countries like the United States, what is more realistic for the weaker party is not compensation, but the “post-divorce spousal support system. In the United States, there is a rule that the more able spouse has to pay support to the other spouse after the divorce, and the payment has to allow the other spouse to maintain a standard of living that is no less than what they had during the marriage. How long does support have to be paid? It is determined by the number of years of marriage. If it’s more than ten years, you have to pay alimony for life.
In addition, 20 states in the United States use fault as a factor in determining the amount of alimony, and when a party is proven to be at fault, he is unlikely to receive spousal support.
And China has three types of compensation for the woman: financial compensation, financial compensation, and financial help. None of them is post-divorce support. In other words, no matter who is right or wrong, once the divorce is finalized, there is no more obligation to support the other party, even if one party does not have any ability to work.
Under U.S. law, a third party can be awarded damages for adultery as long as the act of adultery has harmed the marriage. Countries such as Japan have also affirmed the ability of the injured spouse to claim damages from a third party in judicial proceedings.
In China, the Marriage Law was not amended to establish “spousal rights,” which has resulted in the courts often not accepting cases where the injured spouse sues a third party.